Questioning my sexuality still?

[cumlover91]

I am 27 years and I am still questioning my sexuality. I am currently in a heterosexual relationship with a woman that I love very much however I constantly have these, what i will call episodes where I have this unquenchable urge to be sexually active with a man. This urge drives me to sign up on grindr and a few times, engage in sexual relations with a man. After the sex ends, I have no urge anymore to be with a man and I go back to being with my gf. however weeks or months later, the urge returns. I am not sure what is happening to me. Growing up, I was always interested in men. The porn I watched growing up until i was in high school was gay porn. The crushes I had until college were of men. I lost my virginity to a man however I do enjoy being with my gf. I am not sure why my urge for men is stronger than my urge for woman. Sometimes i feel that the reason why i have these urges is because I am afraid to be completely open and honest about who I am. I am so confused and could really use some help.

 

[KaraBulut]

Sometimes i feel that the reason why i have these urges is because I am afraid to be completely open and honest about who I am. I am so confused and could really use some help.

There's no question about your sexuality. Everything in your history that you've provided so far says that you are a gay man who has bisexual tendencies but, in the end, your orientation is predominantly gay.

You may feel confused about the decisions that you've made but, if you're honest, there isn't confusion about your sexual orientation.

The real question here is whether what you have with your girlfriend is going to be enough to sustain this dual existence of having a romantic relationship with a woman while satisfying your sexual needs with gay porn and sexual encounters with men.

The other question is whether what you have with your girlfriend is strong enough for you to be honest with her.

 

[Newmercedes]

I am 27 years and I am still questioning my sexuality. I am currently in a heterosexual relationship with a woman that I love very much however I constantly have these, what i will call episodes where I have this unquenchable urge to be sexually active with a man. This urge drives me to sign up on grindr and a few times, engage in sexual relations with a man. After the sex ends, I have no urge anymore to be with a man and I go back to being with my gf. however weeks or months later, the urge returns. I am not sure what is happening to me. Growing up, I was always interested in men. The porn I watched growing up until i was in high school was gay porn. The crushes I had until college were of men. I lost my virginity to a man however I do enjoy being with my gf. I am not sure why my urge for men is stronger than my urge for woman. Sometimes i feel that the reason why i have these urges is because I am afraid to be completely open and honest about who I am. I am so confused and could really use some help.

Damn who was a lucky man?

 

[heir-to-the-wind]

Many married men want sex with a guy because they do not get satisfying sex from the wife. Sex with guys is much easier.

 

[Stropie]

I am 27 years and I am still questioning my sexuality. I am currently in a heterosexual relationship with a woman that I love very much however I constantly have these, what i will call episodes where I have this unquenchable urge to be sexually active with a man. This urge drives me to sign up on grindr and a few times, engage in sexual relations with a man. After the sex ends, I have no urge anymore to be with a man and I go back to being with my gf. however weeks or months later, the urge returns. I am not sure what is happening to me. Growing up, I was always interested in men. The porn I watched growing up until i was in high school was gay porn. The crushes I had until college were of men. I lost my virginity to a man however I do enjoy being with my gf. I am not sure why my urge for men is stronger than my urge for woman. Sometimes i feel that the reason why i have these urges is because I am afraid to be completely open and honest about who I am. I am so confused and could really use some help.

I’m 52, been married to my wife for thirty years, and still struggle with my sexually. When I was a teenager and into my early twenties I had experiences with men. Many, all but one, were much older than I at the time. I actually consider myself bi, because the thought of being exclusive with men does not turn me on at all. Actually, it’s a turn off for me. Just as I did back when I met my wife, I chose to be in a heterosexual relationship. It’s what I wanted for my life. I still have strong urges to be with a man, I have never met someone with same desire and relationship status. Plus the thought of being unfaithful to my wife does not feel good at all. So I just deal with it. I would say that you are bi. As a counselor once told me, deep down you really know who, and what you are. Good luck with your journey. PM me if you would like to chat some more. My journey and experiences are too many to list here. All the best.

 

[GayCuriousSub]

Many married men want sex with a guy because they do not get satisfying sex from the wife. Sex with guys is much easier.

>Sex with guys is much easier< it should me right? one good thing is not searching for the clit, and any other parts that make her cum. With a guy, it's o much easier. here comes my whining session. whine whine......... if I had delicious man with a 7" hard cut cock, Im pretty sure I would know when he got off

 

[GayCuriousSub]

I am 27 years and I am still questioning my sexuality. I am currently in a heterosexual relationship with a woman that I love very much however I constantly have these, what i will call episodes where I have this unquenchable urge to be sexually active with a man. This urge drives me to sign up on grindr and a few times, engage in sexual relations with a man. After the sex ends, I have no urge anymore to be with a man and I go back to being with my gf. however weeks or months later, the urge returns. I am not sure what is happening to me. Growing up, I was always interested in men. The porn I watched growing up until i was in high school was gay porn. The crushes I had until college were of men. I lost my virginity to a man however I do enjoy being with my gf. I am not sure why my urge for men is stronger than my urge for woman. Sometimes i feel that the reason why i have these urges is because I am afraid to be completely open and honest about who I am. I am so confused and could really use some help.

stop questioning Sweetie. you know you want to suck cock..................and more. But what about your girlfriend? is she going to be really hurt if you break it off? I guess that's your trip. I just hate to dee anyone be hurt. Don't lie to her. but if she says Via Condious, you're on your way to find the gay life that you want and need

 

[darian]

Is the problem some men want intimacy as well as sex, but find most men are just interested in sex and so the intimacy aspect can only be provided by women, hence wanting to be with both men and women?

I'm sure there are many men out there who desire both intimacy and sex, but believe that intimacy is not a valid characteristic of men and so do not advertise that aspect.

Who says one should only have a single person to meet all our needs? I know that attitude helps reinforce the monogamous heterosexual template, but is it what every man actually wants if left to his own desires? Unfortunately I don't think many women would like to share their man with another.