Questions to gays who perform oral on heterosexual friends

[Sammael]

Today I went out and looked at faces of lots of people and I realised that unless I know a male closely, I don't fancy him. I mean I didn't see one guy I liked on the street. But I liked all the girls. However I don't like cunt and I love dicks so most of the time I masturbate, I'm thinking about dicks. So unless I find someone who is very much like me(which is unlikely) and shares lots of interests with me, I can't be with a long term boyfriend. I also don't want to hook up with strangers cos as I said, I'm not attracted to their faces. I know that there are many gays who suck their heterosexual friends' cocks, but how can I do it? I'm only out to my 2 best friends, I wouldn't mind coming out totally so I can ask my other friends too but what should I say? Are there any ways to say so that they won't get upset if they don't want it? How can I make them feel comfortable to let me suck their cock? Because I know I wouldn't be comfortable saying "yes" if a friend offered me to suck my cock because my cock is small and I wouldn't want him to see it. All suggestions are very much appreciated.

 

[Dodger712]

Well I don't know the answer to your main question other than don't just come out and the make the offer to suck them off. BUT I do want to address your calling your cock small. I think we in the gay community have it in our heads (no pun intended) that unless we are packing something like Jeff Stryker or Ken Ryker we have a small dick. I am sure your pecker is just fine and personally, I don't like gargantuan dicks. Hurts the jaw and as for anal FORGET IT!! Sex with bleeding and feeling like you are being impailed on a telephone pole is no fun for the bottom. We have what we have, now make good use of it.

 

[Sammael]

Mine is 12cm(4.7 inch) when erect so it's really small But I think it is more about how it looks than practicality of oral and anal. I for example perform better oral and give more pleasure without making my teeth touch the other guy's dick if he has a small dick but I still like doing it on a big dick because it looks better. However it may be possible to perform good oral sex on a big dick too but I can't since I'm not experienced.

 

[trawler69]

I'd far rather give oral to a smaller dick as I could do it better for him with more pleasure / less discomfort for me. It is the person and their pleasure that gives me pleasure. I think you should stop worrying about your dick but I also think you should think twice before offering to suck your straight friends dicks, it might just weird them out. They may be fine with you being gay but for you to make advances on them might be too much. Imagine your female friends offering to sit on your dick and how you would take it.

 

[Sammael]

Imagine your female friends offering to sit on your dick and how you would take it.

I would take it well cos I'm bisexual I'm open to almost all types of fantasies and fetishes with any gender however I know what you mean. If a friend asked me if I'm open to eating his shit, I would say "no thx" but I wouldn't get upset since he is the same person I know. But the problem is my friends are not like me, so I should ask in a way that they will just say "no thx" even if they would get upset otherwise. Basically I'm asking how some people here who suck their heterosexual friends' cock started doing it so I can have some ideas cos I read in a few old topics that there are people here who do that with their friends.

 

[Caaake]

you should joke around with them a little, break the ice. And then based off of their reaction gauge whether or not to press further then eventually just ask them. "hey would you ever let a guy suck you off?" then assuming they say yes ..you know what to do

 

[Fishstix]

If you know they're straight and they don't make the offer themselves or give any hints of wanting you then don't do it. You'd probably scare them away and lose a friendship. It's not worth the risk because it's probably not going to happen anyways. Even if they don't drop you as a friend, it'd probably make things a whole lot awkward between you and your friends.

 

[Caaake]

^ yea exactly. Are they dropping you any hints? Many men who get to suck off their "straight" friends have gotten hints from them and then i find a lot of the time seems like the straight guys really do long for the guy to suck them off and make excuses to say its not "gay." There are straight guys who think a mouth is a mouth and don't mind a guy sucking them off however, ya gotta be careful, not all straight guys feel the same way about guys sucking them off. Some could get rather offended, scared, and react badly to it. But also a chance they could be fine with it but only you know your friends and what they'd be like.

 

[KaraBulut]

Efendim, you have created a lot of barriers and hurdles that are limiting your sex life.

You're in a country that doesn't think well of homosexuals. What you're proposing is not going to help your situation.

Sucking off your straight friends isn't a strategy for a long and healthy sex life. If they don't dump you or beat you up, they're still going get married and move on.

Instead of focusing on stranger's faces and straight friend's dicks, try finding someone who is as interested in sucking your dick as you are in sucking his. You'll find a lot more satisfaction in this approach.

 

[Sammael]

Instead of focusing on stranger's faces and straight friend's dicks, try finding someone who is as interested in sucking your dick as you are in sucking his. You'll find a lot more satisfaction in this approach.

Well I don't know when you left Turkey so I don't know how much you know about the gay scene in Turkey but as far as I can see, it's the opposite of this forum. In this forum most people have good unselfish intentions and most people seem like good boyfriend material. But here in Turkey or at least in Kocaeli(Izmit), it's the opposite. As you know there are no gay bars or anything like that in Kocaeli even though it's a big city which has lots of gays so I can only meet people online. I'll tell you how people I met online are. For example I meet someone either on mirc or a gay friendship website, we start talking on msn. We promise that our camera will be pointing on our face when it's turned on and what happenes when the cameras are turned on? He is staring at my face but I'm staring at his wall or his belly. This is not a 1 time thing, the same thing happened with around 10 people so I started turning on camera without asking them to promise that they'll turn on too. So whenever I meet someone, he shows me his wall or something like that, looks at me 5 seconds and if he likes me(if he doesn't, he blocks my msn immediatly) he turns his camera to his face. This is very rude and they are basically saying "you're stupid, you'll be interested in me even if I act like a jerk and I'm a more important person than you". This is just one thing, everybody I meet acts like a jerk either on msn or after we meet(like asking for a loan on the first date). If I didn't know the foreign gay community, I would probably be a gay hater. Everybody I meet thinks he is the god of gays and he's better than everyone although actually they're the lowest forms of life on earth. That's why I don't want to try to meet people to become boy friends because even if I finally meet someone nice, there's no guarantee that we'll fit togather(like sharing similar interests).

 

[Sammael]

My point is most nice gays/bisexuals in Turkey like me gave up trying to find someone and live alone, while all websites and chat channels are full of annoying selfish people who don't mind talking to other annoying selfish people cos they're annoying and selfish themselves.

The same applies to heterosexuals in Turkey too. You can see nice heterosexual males and nice heterosexual females in real life but not online. However the problem is that you can't see nice gays/bisexuals in real life in Turkey cos they're not out.

 

[TX-Beau]

Well if you are a nice gay/bisexual in Turkey, and you're online, stands to reason that the other nice gays/bisexuals in Turkey are online also.

Being out doesn't change someone's basic nature, if the guy is a lying slut in the closet, he'll be one out of the closet. Probably though most of the guys you run across are just not that into you. Welcome to life. Even if you're smokin' hot, most guys don't want to date you. Complaining about it isn't going to change that.

You're certainly not going to get anywhere trying to get into your straight friend's jockey shorts. That's what I'd call avoidance behavior.

 

[Sammael]

I think you misunderstood. There's not an issue of other gays liking or not liking me in real life cos I'm not out and I've never met with a gay/bisexual who is out.

When I was talking about the web camera thing, I was stating the fact that nobody here shows his face before seeing the other guy's face. They all say "you first" and if I refuse, they try to convince me why I should be the first. When we agree upon showing our face at the same time, it always ends with the other guy waiting and me showing my face first. What I wrote has nothing to do with whether people like me or not.

 

[TX-Beau]

When I was talking about the web camera thing, I was stating the fact that nobody here shows his face before seeing the other guy's face. They all say "you first" and if I refuse, they try to convince me why I should be the first. When we agree upon showing our face at the same time, it always ends with the other guy waiting and me showing my face first. What I wrote has nothing to do with whether people like me or not.

Ok. So if that's all of your issue, webcam isn't working for you, so just stop. End of problem.

 

[Sammael]

Dude seriously think before writing please. The problem is not the webcam. It was just an example to show how selfish gays I've met online are(who live in the same city with me). If I meet them without using webcam, I'll be meeting the same people but instead there would be one less way to see whether they're jerks or not.

 

[slnattak]

=/

I let straight guys come to me. Never the other way around.

Also is your emotions ready for this. Do you really know what you're getting yourself into?

It's just a blowjob. They can be nice.

You should band together with the gay guys in your area and meet some place in reality, maybe.

also can you please remove that picture of your ass? It's just distracting.

You have a lot to offer this world than just some straight guy's slampiece, kiddo. Be well.

 

[TX-Beau]

Dude seriously think before writing please. The problem is not the webcam. It was just an example to show how selfish gays I've met online are(who live in the same city with me). If I meet them without using webcam, I'll be meeting the same people but instead there would be one less way to see whether they're jerks or not.

And what does any of that have to do with:

Questions to gays who perform oral on heterosexual friends

Yeah, maybe it's not me. Maybe it's not them.

 

[Sammael]

I replied to you, not to the original topic because we were off topic way before my and your last post.

 

[Rex]

If they want it, and are curious about it they will let you know usually by body language without saying it.

Don't expect it to happen though, especially if they're your close friends, and DON'T push it or even ask them. This will ruin your friendship. If they want it, they'll let you know.

The webcam thing, dude it's not any different in the U.S. for the most part. There are tons of sleazy jerks online who play games with webcam and pics. Craigslist is full of douchebags and game players. Trust me, there are cool guys out there that are nice. It just takes a lot of patience to find them.

Just don't get desperate or frustrated, and don't try to make a move on your straight friends. You're going to ruin your friendship and they'll probably out you.

Is Turkey the safest place to be out of the closet anyway? Why come out to someone at all?

 

[Sammael]

If they want it, and are curious about it they will let you know usually by body language without saying it.

Don't expect it to happen though, especially if they're your close friends, and DON'T push it or even ask them. This will ruin your friendship. If they want it, they'll let you know.

The problem is I'm not very good at reading body language and I might deceive myself. However after thinking about it some more, I think you're right. I just have to come out and if they want to talk about it(like what I like about guys) then I can tell them that I like the look of cocks and sucking them. This should give them enough clue. That won't happen in the near future though cos it's hard to come out out of nowhere but I'm on the right direction. Thx.