Reika
Sex God
- Joined
- Nov 29, 2006
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- North East UK - Between the sheets
I’m a young guy and moderately tech savvy, i gots the android and the blackberry, i’m all over social networks like a fly on poop. I’m also single and living in an area where there aren’t many other Gay people...well, none that want to admit it anyways, i’ll get to that later.
Now, i was in a relationship from the age of 18 up until 2 months ago, so i’ve never really done the whole cruising the scene and meeting guys kind of thing and to be honest, its not my thing anyways. However, now that i am newly single, people who i know and complete strangers seem to be coming out of the woodwork like termites. Mutual friends of me and my ex (who i’m still on good terms with) suddenly texting or messaging me out of the blue, offering condolences and to go for a drive or coffee, which in itself is innocent, till they put the
xxxxx at the end of their sentence (trust me that was not where it stopped), to which point i either call em out or just ignore any further contact if it’s a stranger. I’m not going to stop the contact with friends, just telling them to cool their jets and move along, i’m not gonna betray the respect me and my ex have for each other by jumping into bed (or the back seat) with someone with whom my ex was friends with way before i was on the scene.
You see, i’m not actively looking for anyone just yet, got my own shit to sort out before i even think of a relationship or one night stand even. However, guys seem to think that since i am now Single, i’m up for it constantly or upon their request. I haven’t just come to this realisation, i’ve noticed it whenever friends have had relationships end in the past, they seem to have a day of grieving and are back on the web looking for the next night’s meal, so to speak. I couldn’t keep up, it was like a revolving door.
As for these strangers...*sigh*...well, i’ve signed up to a couple of sites, just to check them out and to look for new friends ( like i said, most of the mutual friends from my relationship were his beforehand lol), chats and nights out clubbing or whatever. But looking at these sites is like looking in a butchers window. Very hard to find a piece of clothing that isn’t being pulled up or down. Too much raw meat. Don’t get me wrong, i like looking at hot guys, but when it’s a constant theme of a site and they’re all the same, it gets a bit tiresome.
Then theres the messages. I never message first, i feel like i’m intruding, so i wait to see if anyones interested in me. Let me just say, my profiles only have the basic facts about me and what i like on them, they also clearly state what i’m there for and what i don’t want...however:
“HEY bby, u wnt your cock sucked?”
“Can i eat your ass?”
“Boi, get on all fours and bark!” (Seriously.)
(Bear in mind, i only have face pics online, no ones seen me naked on these sites.)
What gets me is, out of the 20 or so guys who have contacted me, three were married and two had girlfriends and so had to be discreet...and i knew the ones with girlfriends (not personally, by sight and from school). How do they get away with it? I know, particularly for married guys and older guys theres always some circumstance which has put them into such a position where they couldn’t be out and proud and had to conform to societies view, and i can fully understand that. I suppose you could say that it’s my own fault for signing up to those sites and i kind of agree there to a point. But at the same time, why should i have to bare all in attracting new friends? Must everyone see my cock to be accepted? Do i have to get on all fours on command and bark like a frigging dog? Am i a piece of meat? Well sorry boys, this meat needs maturing before it can be eaten.
I’m making this all about myself :[ not intentionally. It’s my experiences. But you see it eveyday, the pokes, winks, nudges and pings. The shirtless pics, the cock pics and the fetish lists on their profiles. Isn’t there a website out there that can just be about gay socialising? Where the adverts don’t have sweaty muscle gods or hairless twinks? Where members can just have a laugh without any other hidden agendas or motives? I would say theres Facebook...but even there there is always something behind the actual words or meanings. And yes, there is irony in there too, since i am posting this blog on JUB after all
though JUB, to me, has never even bared any resemblance to a hook-up site, it’s just a great community which happens to have a sexual side, should you wish to delve in.
I guess what’s annoying me the most is that just because i’m gay, no matter how camp, butch, effeminate or masculine i am, i have to show off my sexual being to get places and meet people.
It’s always annoyed me, the focus on sex and sexuality, really. I see myself as no different to anyone else, gay, straight, bi, trans...but for some reason, i feel like i’m being pressured into doing things that are against my nature just to fit in....cause really, what guy in his 20s wants to be friends with someone whose favourite past-time is reading or art?
I dunno JUB, this rant has been building up for some days, so it probably won’t make much sense
Now, i was in a relationship from the age of 18 up until 2 months ago, so i’ve never really done the whole cruising the scene and meeting guys kind of thing and to be honest, its not my thing anyways. However, now that i am newly single, people who i know and complete strangers seem to be coming out of the woodwork like termites. Mutual friends of me and my ex (who i’m still on good terms with) suddenly texting or messaging me out of the blue, offering condolences and to go for a drive or coffee, which in itself is innocent, till they put the
xxxxx at the end of their sentence (trust me that was not where it stopped), to which point i either call em out or just ignore any further contact if it’s a stranger. I’m not going to stop the contact with friends, just telling them to cool their jets and move along, i’m not gonna betray the respect me and my ex have for each other by jumping into bed (or the back seat) with someone with whom my ex was friends with way before i was on the scene. You see, i’m not actively looking for anyone just yet, got my own shit to sort out before i even think of a relationship or one night stand even. However, guys seem to think that since i am now Single, i’m up for it constantly or upon their request. I haven’t just come to this realisation, i’ve noticed it whenever friends have had relationships end in the past, they seem to have a day of grieving and are back on the web looking for the next night’s meal, so to speak. I couldn’t keep up, it was like a revolving door.
As for these strangers...*sigh*...well, i’ve signed up to a couple of sites, just to check them out and to look for new friends ( like i said, most of the mutual friends from my relationship were his beforehand lol), chats and nights out clubbing or whatever. But looking at these sites is like looking in a butchers window. Very hard to find a piece of clothing that isn’t being pulled up or down. Too much raw meat. Don’t get me wrong, i like looking at hot guys, but when it’s a constant theme of a site and they’re all the same, it gets a bit tiresome.
Then theres the messages. I never message first, i feel like i’m intruding, so i wait to see if anyones interested in me. Let me just say, my profiles only have the basic facts about me and what i like on them, they also clearly state what i’m there for and what i don’t want...however:
“HEY bby, u wnt your cock sucked?”
“Can i eat your ass?”
“Boi, get on all fours and bark!” (Seriously.)
(Bear in mind, i only have face pics online, no ones seen me naked on these sites.)
What gets me is, out of the 20 or so guys who have contacted me, three were married and two had girlfriends and so had to be discreet...and i knew the ones with girlfriends (not personally, by sight and from school). How do they get away with it? I know, particularly for married guys and older guys theres always some circumstance which has put them into such a position where they couldn’t be out and proud and had to conform to societies view, and i can fully understand that. I suppose you could say that it’s my own fault for signing up to those sites and i kind of agree there to a point. But at the same time, why should i have to bare all in attracting new friends? Must everyone see my cock to be accepted? Do i have to get on all fours on command and bark like a frigging dog? Am i a piece of meat? Well sorry boys, this meat needs maturing before it can be eaten.
I’m making this all about myself :[ not intentionally. It’s my experiences. But you see it eveyday, the pokes, winks, nudges and pings. The shirtless pics, the cock pics and the fetish lists on their profiles. Isn’t there a website out there that can just be about gay socialising? Where the adverts don’t have sweaty muscle gods or hairless twinks? Where members can just have a laugh without any other hidden agendas or motives? I would say theres Facebook...but even there there is always something behind the actual words or meanings. And yes, there is irony in there too, since i am posting this blog on JUB after all
though JUB, to me, has never even bared any resemblance to a hook-up site, it’s just a great community which happens to have a sexual side, should you wish to delve in.I guess what’s annoying me the most is that just because i’m gay, no matter how camp, butch, effeminate or masculine i am, i have to show off my sexual being to get places and meet people.
It’s always annoyed me, the focus on sex and sexuality, really. I see myself as no different to anyone else, gay, straight, bi, trans...but for some reason, i feel like i’m being pressured into doing things that are against my nature just to fit in....cause really, what guy in his 20s wants to be friends with someone whose favourite past-time is reading or art?
I dunno JUB, this rant has been building up for some days, so it probably won’t make much sense