Really naive/stupid question about topping

[randomteenuk]

Hi Jubbers,

I've been reading the forums for a while and decided to join because I really want to get your advice on a problem I'm having. It will sound really silly, and really it's incredibly obvious, but I've started topping with guys recently - up until now I've only really bottomed.

As stupid as it sounds, I just can't seem to get the err ... "movement" right. The "thrusting" motion doesn't feel natural at all to me and I just can't seem to find a comfortable way of, well, getting it in and out of him. I can't seem to figure out where to move from. Should I be fucking with my hips?!

I guess it's like dancing (which ironically I suck at too). Obviously the more I'm worrying about it, the worse my "performance" between the sheets is.

Can you guys share your thoughts? I know this sounds really stupid/obvious, but I love topping (so far) and just want it to feel natural (and hot!) for the other guy.

What do you guys think?

 

[Seasoned]

It is the hips. Try this. Make a loose fist and get yourself off by fucking your hand. That's the movement you need. Also, you may be doing it in an awkward position or angle.

 

[moschj]

It's much more of a wave action than a piston action.

 

[PATMAN]

Want some practice?

 

[Georgiadude]

First things first: Welcome to JUB. I hope you have a good time while your here.


Now to your question: initially it can be awkward. especially depending on what positions your trying and if you or your partner have some physical limitations. Also some guys dicks have a curve to them which makes some positions easier than others. for starters doggy is pretty easy. I have some rods in my back that make some positions impossible. usually when Im the top I will stand at the edge of the bed and either do a missionary or doggy type position. Another option is for your partner to "ride" you. you be on the bottom and he can control the motion.

watch some porn and try to pay attention to what the top is doing.

Please don't feel awkward or silly about asking a question. this is a place where people should feel comfortable asking pretty much anything. Of course it being an open forum there always some smart ass thats going to give you a hard time but just dont pay them any attention.

Hope that helps and again Welcome.

Merry Christmas

Steven.

 

[randomteenuk]

Thanks georgia, seasoned and butt.

I think it's one of those ironic situations where I've been worrying about it and actually it's made the problem worse, because I've become almost paranoid about my ... err .. motions.

More practice needed I suppose!

 

[Georgiadude]

your welcome. glad I could help.

yes more experience will help but also ask the bottom what feels good and to give you some feedback. my guess is your more worried about it being a problem than it is an actual problem. just relax and have fun. part of the fun is trying different positions or toys, lubes etc.

send me a vid & I'll be happy to critique your performance. lol jk


explore and have fun. dont worry about the small stuff. I'd bet the person your with isn't nearly as focused on what your worried about.

Happy New Year

Steven.