really really confused

[walkabout]

Don't want to bore you guys to death so I will try to keep this as short as possible. I have recently broke up with my girlfriend the reason I told her was simple and short ' I am not feeling the same way about us as I used to...and that she was one of my best friends and will always will be and I would like to keep it that way' . The real reason was ..I was not feeling right about about it. We haven't had sex in like a month and I am experiencing a kind-of curiosity towards other guys and sometimes [to my shock] even fantasizing about them. I have never watched gay porn [hell I stayed alive on straight porn through my school!] and I tried watching it for a couple of days but it didn't work for me [thought I was not disgusted but I wasn't intrigued either] . But the idea of being in the arms of a man is beginning to look sooo alluring.
Is this just a phase or am I starting to learn the new side of my sexuality which I hadn't explored before?
I haven't been in denial or something as I am not afraid of being gay/bi either because at the end of the day it is all about mental and physical pleasure and satisfaction that you are looking for

 

[HartfordGuy]

Sounds like you need to do some expiramenting.

I too had a girlfriend all thru highschool. But even then I knew I had crushes on some male classmates.

Thankgoodness a guy asked me out. When I heard YES come out of my mouth I knew my life was going to change.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Is this just a phase or am I starting to learn the new side of my sexuality which I hadn't explored before?

Hard to tell the difference, actually. Why not give it a ride for awhile? Keep fantasizing about being with a guy, and see how you feel in several weeks.

Lex

 

[ineffablejk]

I had a similar experience I dated women in High School and College. I had a steady girl friend in College and started messing around with guys. It took me about a semester to tell her and she was not happy about it. I found that the sex was much more intense with guys and still do today. Short answer it’s a process. I went back and forth men/woman for a while until I just faced facts. I will guess it’s a different process for everyone. There guys on here that say they knew since they were 6 years old. That was not my experience and I am guessing not yours. My advice, try guy on guy and see. Like my experience it may be a process over time.

 

[thewiz]

It is easy to be confused about one's sexual identity. I had my first sexual experience with a friend; went on to date women and got married but always suspected I was gay. It got to the point that two years ago I made the decision to "see" and have now become very comfortable as a gay man.

You are young enough to see what it is that makes you fulfilled; what makes you happy in life...it is something that stretches ahead of you and has many different roads. Do what brings you peace and contentment and you can't go wrong. If you are thinking about guys, it will be something that will remind you in years to come unless you resolve the question that you are asking yourself.

 

[walkabout]

yea been thinking about that..but cannot really go and tell my friend 'hey guys I think I am going to hook up with some other guys to check it out...you wanna be the lucky first few ?
Oh well on the positive side getting guys wont be much different than getting girls in some ways as we are always horny aren't [except during the 15 minute period after having sex or jacking off ]
Cheers for the help guys

 

[rareboy]

yea been thinking about that..but cannot really go and tell my friend 'hey guys I think I am going to hook up with some other guys to check it out...you wanna be the lucky first few ?

I dunno. I like it.

 

[thewiz]

yea been thinking about that..but cannot really go and tell my friend 'hey guys I think I am going to hook up with some other guys to check it out...you wanna be the lucky first few ?
Oh well on the positive side getting guys wont be much different than getting girls in some ways as we are always horny aren't [except during the 15 minute period after having sex or jacking off ]
Cheers for the help guys

Who knows; maybe they've been thinking the same thing! Actually, I would be careful and come out at your pace and experiment as you feel comfortable with. Maybe go out to a gay club or bar; see what you think.

 

[walkabout]

Its really funny how these days i can easily tell whether the guy [whom i saw few minutes ago] was wearing briefs or boxers but i cant even remember seeing a hot girl after few minutes...forget about knowing what they were wearing inside [which i used to look at a lot earlier].
Oh well...the worst part is i think i am falling for this guy in our year ...who turns out to be one of the best looking guys in our year too and a very close friend of mine.
He is around same height as me a bit more weight than me and has this so fucking cute tummy [mind u not a belly but an actual muscle tummy] which i can caress whole day. He is dirty blonde and previously i have tried getting him hooked up with girls a lot but he is really really shy [which i have stared finding so adorable] . I also used to find him staring at me sometimes but i never made anything of it until now..especially when we r playing sports I love the way he chooses my teams or sometimes accidentally brushes up . Aside from this I can't really see him being gay or anything as there is no feminine side to his behaviour... he is typical college jocks and a beer buddy who makes a lot of gay jokes ..but for the past two years i have seen him point out only a couple of girls to me where as in Cardiff there are loads of 10/10 ones and he still hasnt got a girl friend for the past 2 years [we think he is just too shy though]. We also used to flirt a lot but now i have really stopped doing it as i have started figuring my other part of sexuality and I am really afraid of freaking him out or anything as he is one of my very best friends too but going to look in to that matter when i am comfortable with it myself
guess i am really dumb at such matters :<

 

[Telstra]

I think the term "best friend" should not be use if that friend do not know everything about you including sexuality.

"Best friend" should only be use when someone knows everything about u.

 

[landers]

The biggest problem I had in accepting that I was gay was accepting the fact that I could be happy with a man. I could jack off to gay porn but I could never picture myself with a boyfriend, or building a life with another man. Over time I was able to come to grips with this and finally come out.

I'd say if you can see yourself having a relationship with a guy, rather than just sex, you're definitely more than just curious...