Really really confused

[cpugh2005]

So my ex broke up with me about 2 weeks ago but i have still gone up to his place the last 2 weekends he lives about 200 miles away, I asked if we can still be friends and he wanted to so i am still up there every weekend it may sound weird but we get on really well.

Anyway this weekend just gone everything was fine we got into bed (his double bed) and went to sleep then half way through the night he started cuddling me which I didn't mind because I still want to try and work things out well we had sex but nothing after so I am wondering now whether it was just sex or if he wctually still wants things to happen, we talk and text on the phone everyday as well he wants me to come back up this weekend he wants to go and watch 10,000 bc at the cinema.

I am just really confused I don't want to ask him if he wants to try again cos I don't want to start an argument, I have been thinking maybe i should not say nothing for a few weeks and see what happens and if i can see that he is still being overly nice to me and still smiling at me, Maybe I should say something then? I don't want to ruin the friendship we have atm by saying anything and him just flipping out.

Oh and I still love him to death and he knows that as well

Thanks.

 

[beatleshead]

I think that you should'nt say ANYTHING. sometimes its best to go with the flow and it seems like you guys still have something for each other. Don't believe that propaganda that once a person is in a relationship they must feel a set certain amount of feelings.

Maybe he was unsure about you and is now trying to rebuild. But I know its probably killing you that you dont know for sure. Maybe tell em you love em as a really great friend? Maybe tell him the sex you guys have feels really different than with other people? Or maybe just smile at him and silently show him you want to continue what you guys had.

Has he ever flipped out when you ask something like that?

 

[sixthson]

It sounds like he was horny and you were convenient.
Are you willing to settle for a friend with benefits?

Only he knows if he is absolutely serious about not being bfs, but he broke up with you, so sooner or later, you will have to accept it and move on or take whatever he gives you. Is that really what you want?

Why not avoid him for awhile and see what he does?
I know it hurts, but you want love and it sounds like he doesn't.

Good luck, pal. Do what is right for you.

 

[cpugh2005]

I am just so confused I love him he knows that but don't want to loose him as a friend cos he is a great friend and he isnd the sort of person who would just have sex cos i was there, I am just going to leave it for a while and see what happens.

Oh and at the train station i told him that i loved coming down and he said i was welcome anytime cos he really likes having me down.

 

[najfus]

To be blunt: Get over him. Stop visiting.

 

[waynemm]

I would rather suggest you try and talk to him at an opportune moment. I personally believe that honest communication is vital, eventhough it's usually very difficult. Even if he just tells you that he needs to figure things out for himself. He doesn't have to say Yes or No.

 

[WYSIWYG]

Am not sure about this one. is the 200 miles one way, or both directions? Sounds convenient since he knows you love him, but I can not say, only you can!

Why did your ex breakup with you? Sounds like he regrets doing it, since your welcome to come down anytime.

I guess since I am a hopeless romantic, I would go with the flow for a bit, but since he dumped you, i think you deserve better than no knowing......and move on.

Your 19 and have your whole life in front of you to meet, explore, and love others. He is out there, I promise....

 

[cpugh2005]

I'll see how this weekend goes thanks for all the replies.