Reconnecting with old online friends (I used a fake persona)

[Alexander91]

So, years ago (about 4-6), before of accepting that I was as straight an oval, I had an online persona to "explore" my sexuality and met some nice people online. They never new my true identity but had great conversations, etc. And about 3 years ago, I deleted all accounts related to my old persona ( I started a serious relationship with my partner and I felt it was "cheating" ). The other day I was repairing my old computer and found some contacts from old friends of my persona and I wanted to reach out to them.

How do you reach out to an old friend, who doesn't know your true identity (I want to use my true identity) to someone who you haven't talked in years? I think it's important to say that I met these people in Cam4.com and we c2c alot, but we also chatted about life and stuff, and I want to reconnect with them, but merely to establish a good friend with them.

Any advice?

Thanks.

Alex

 

[eastofeden]

I would just tell them the truth...it is way easier.

You might get judged or rejected....but we all do things we get judged and rejected for every day so let the chips fall where they may...

 

[KaraBulut]

The truth is always the best option, if you want to contact them.

But you might want to give some thought to why you're contacting them. You have a real-life partner. These were virtual "friends" that didn't know your real identity- just because you had a conversation with them doesn't mean that they are necessarily real-life friends. And given the circumstance- that you met them while exploring your sexuality, it may be better to leave all of that in the past.

 

[sixthson]

This could be opening a can of worms. What if making contact with them awakens something in you that made you feel like it was cheating the first time around?

If you were camming with other men, how did they not know your true sexuality?

 

[Alexander91]

Thank you so much for responding. I wanted to reconnect with some of them because at some point, they were honest and told me about their personal lives, while I was still using my other persona.

I think I leave that's past in the past and make new friends both ways (online and real life)

Oh, and some of my contacts, we were "straight guys who enjoy the company of men" lol.

 

[Seasoned]

You are probably missing some of the titillation these online encounters provided at a time when some of the novelty of your current relationship has faded. That's normal, but if you want to stay in your relationship it's important to reconnect with your partner. Soon, my husband and and I will celebrate our 33 anniversary. When we've run into what you describe we let each other know and we do something to bring back the sexual spark--a getaway fuckfest weekend, role play, semi-public sex, etc. going through what you're going through one-sided can be the beginning of the end of a relationship.

 

[Alexander91]

I think this might be my case. I wouldn't say it's "faded", cause I still love my partner very much. We are in a "long distance" relationship (We live 4 hours drive away) and he got this second job that takes a lot of this time. The past couple of week we barley talk/skype/text each other, I do understand it's because he's working double, but I should do a better job communicating with him. Thank you so much and congrats on your 33rd anniversary!

 

[KaraBulut]

I think this might be my case. I wouldn't say it's "faded", cause I still love my partner very much. We are in a "long distance" relationship (We live 4 hours drive away) and he got this second job that takes a lot of this time. The past couple of week we barley talk/skype/text each other, I do understand it's because he's working double, but I should do a better job communicating with him.

The truth is always the best option...

The above recommendation applies again.

The thing that you're not saying is that even though your partner has the best of intentions, he's putting other things on the list of priorities before your relationship.

You need to be honest about what you're feeling. Maybe the two of you can find another option that helps you get the feeling that you want to recapture with your old cam friends?