red flags people tend to miss

[fabulouslyghetto]

Guys who bust out (or worse, have committted to memory) age of consent laws by state/country. We can forgive the know-it-alls cuz they're like show ponies, everything they do is performative and it's just their pageant answers nature. but the other guys who do this..... no bueno

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

BONUS red flag: guys who dont get along with their exes or have bad dating history. especially the "it's not me it's them" weirdos. continuous bad choices in men says a lot.

 

[luckynumbah7]

BONUS red flag: guys who dont get along with their exes or have bad dating history. especially the "it's not me it's them" weirdos. continuous bad choices in men says a lot.

Maybe they just can’t pick for shit? I mean, I get what you’re saying but personaly, as an example, my taste in women sucks. ‘Course, at this late date I’ve realized that already (figured it out with a transandrophobic trans woman), so I wait for them to come to me instead, solves some problems that way, but still.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Tho if we’re going for red flags, the term downlow rings several bells. You ever notice it’s always towards the end of a message,too. You’re just vibing along and suddenly ‘dirty little secret’ alarm bells go off.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Maybe they just can’t pick for shit? I mean, I get what you’re saying but personaly, as an example, my taste in women sucks. ‘Course, at this late date I’ve realized that already (figured it out with a transandrophobic trans woman), so I wait for them to come to me instead, solves some problems that way, but still.

Indeed there are infinite variables, especially when you take away social support systems, there's a lack o access to health and well-being programs and so on and so forth.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Oooh, I’ve got another one - dated one guy for a year or so during Covid lockdown - I’ve learned hearing dismissals (multiple!) of your hobby (when you don’t even bring it up, he just sees it in-house!) is definitely a flag. Not due to differences in likes/dislikes but because someone who doesn’t get excited with you when you share your passions isn’t really there for you. Never mind when such are squished from the get-go.

- I may also be peeved since the chickenshit broke up via text message of all things - that’s just rude.

 

[luckynumbah7]

^^^^for clarity’s sake I mean painting, the bugger couldn’t even look at a half finished work in the same room without a one sentence declaration, it was kinda weird.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

^^^^for clarity’s sake I mean painting, the bugger couldn’t even look at a half finished work in the same room without a one sentence declaration, it was kinda weird.

I read this reply first and now I'm scared to scroll up and see the reference point for "painting."

 

[luckynumbah7]

There’s no double entendre involved! Think artist’s studio work, at any given time I’ve a couple half done paintings set up. Not that great bu they’re large so at least I can see the damn things. Anyway, the guy couldn’t walk past ‘em without declaring his non interest in the hobby, on multiple occasions, with no prompting required.

The Red Flag involved, how to put this, would be extreme mental myopia where if your partner disparages your hobbies with no verbal prompting or any ntroduction from yourself in a bit of an underhanded way because they’re (said hobby) is not useful to him it’s a bad match.

TLDR; if you’re dating someone who either handwaves away your hobbies or doesn’t enjoy you being passionate about your own work that’s a bad sign,

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

There’s no double entendre involved! Think artist’s studio work, at any given time I’ve a couple half done paintings set up. Not that great bu they’re large so at least I can see the damn things. Anyway, the guy couldn’t walk past ‘em without declaring his non interest in the hobby, on multiple occasions, with no prompting required.

The Red Flag involved, how to put this, would be extreme mental myopia where if your partner disparages your hobbies with no verbal prompting or any ntroduction from yourself in a bit of an underhanded way because they’re (said hobby) is not useful to him it’s a bad match.

TLDR; if you’re dating someone who either handwaves away your hobbies or doesn’t enjoy you being passionate about your own work that’s a bad sign,

Unsolicited negative opinions and dismissal of your interests are bigly red flags.

 

[Peloso]

I always thought "I'm going to be a dictator on day one" was a red flag but perhaps I'm just being paranoid.

 

[USEDCAR]

I always thought the drunk lady that laughs at everything and has multiple word salads.