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So i was just wondering for all of you out there if this is something that happens to you and how frequently, and if you've ever really regretted not approaching someone.

So i was at a local peets coffee and tea doing some job hunting... here I am, working intently on my laptop, and I look up and see this really cute guy checking me out. As painfully shy an individual as I am, i think he was embarassed as well to be caught checking me out lol. At any rate, he immediately looked away and continued to do whatever it was that he was doing. He had his back turned to me the rest of the time, and I really regret that I was not able muster up the courage to approach him and introduce myself to him. It's really rare that I find someone that might potentially be attracted to me (me being so shy and all) and someone my age and someone I'm attracted to, so i've been banging my head on the wall the past few days.

Anyways, I really regret that I just sat there and did nothing about it. Does this ever happen to you guys?
 
there's a section on craigslist called 'missed connections' or something, maybe try your luck there. just post something about where, when, who.. you never know what could happen. and yeah, that's definitely happened to me before. oh well, you learn from your mistakes. =-0
 
I think it has happened to most of us at least once. Next time it happens, and it will, perhaps offer an inviting smile which might start a conversation. You won't know until you try and, even if it doesn't work out, at least you gave it a shot. And... you won't have any regrets
 
blumUO83 said:
So i was just wondering for all of you out there if this is something that happens to you and how frequently, and if you've ever really regretted not approaching someone.
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No I don't have that problem, I have yet to meet a stranger. I can have a really good conversation with anyone. My best friend and I would be out shopping and I will be talking to someone and he will come up and ask who that was. I always say dunno, just met him. He cant seem to do this.
 
No. To my knowledge, no one checks me out. I'm usually the one doing it.
 
No I've never had that problem.

Like Missec, my friends are amazed that I talk to strangers the same way I talk to friends. I don't give a thought to turning to a stranger and making a comment or starting a conversation. It's very rare that I'm out in public and don't engage with people I don't know.

Also I have a big fear of letting opportunity pass so I tend to take more chances than maybe I should.

But if it makes you feel any better, know that every strength and every weakness can be a double edged sword. My tendency to talk easily with strangers has sometimes led to short lived relationships that I would have been better off without. The thing, I think, is to figure out how to use your natural tendency to work for you -- there's always a way to make that happen.
 
plaster-saint said:
there's a section on craigslist called 'missed connections' or something, maybe try your luck there. just post something about where, when, who.. you never know what could happen. and yeah, that's definitely happened to me before. oh well, you learn from your mistakes. =-0
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Thanks for the suggestion plaster... I might try that out, see if anything happens.


NickCole said:
No I've never had that problem.

Like Missec, my friends are amazed that I talk to strangers the same way I talk to friends. I don't give a thought to turning to a stranger and making a comment or starting a conversation. It's very rare that I'm out in public and don't engage with people I don't know.

Also I have a big fear of letting opportunity pass so I tend to take more chances than maybe I should.

But if it makes you feel any better, know that every strength and every weakness can be a double edged sword. My tendency to talk easily with strangers has sometimes led to short lived relationships that I would have been better off without. The thing, I think, is to figure out how to use your natural tendency to work for you -- there's always a way to make that happen.
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NickCole, thanks for the words of encouragement; It's nice to hear a different perspective. The thing is i naturally tend to shy away from guys and give off this vibe that I'm not even gay lol. it is tough to find that balance where like you I could be able to talk to people i dont even know, but yet be a little more reserved as to avoid situations that may be unecessary.
 
As you grow older you find the things you regret are the things you didn't do!
 
Not having come out while I was still in High School,is a major regreat of mine.
all those guys I wish I had gotten to "know" better
 
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