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relationship with an escort ...anyone ?

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i met a guy, date couples of time.....turn out he is an escort(he tolds me after we slept together, not asking for money of course, he sort of ask..do you mind if your bf is escort)..........

any advise ? confused !!!
 
This is a question you are going to have to figure out by yourself, you are the one going after him. But I would encourage you to be understanding. If he needs a bit of money to accomplish a short-term goal of importance, then his escorting is both temporary and done out of relative necessity. If he is, however, into his job and wants to make a career out of it, I would personally have to move on.

An open relationship is fine, but dating someone who makes his living having sex with other people is waaay too open for me.
 
Brer Fox said:
This is a question you are going to have to figure out by yourself, you are the one going after him. But I would encourage you to be understanding. If he needs a bit of money to accomplish a short-term goal of importance, then his escorting is both temporary and done out of relative necessity. If he is, however, into his job and wants to make a career out of it, I would personally have to move on.

An open relationship is fine, but dating someone who makes his living having sex with other people is waaay too open for me.
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dont think he is short of money, he does this because its a good money.........plus his a model...so i guess i move on again....
 
I think you have to decide if you can deal with being with someone that does that for a living. I personally would not have a problem with dating a guy like that. I dont see any long term relationship coming out of it unless later on he would stop escorting. I dated a stripper once and it can be challenging sometimes. I say if your alright with it enjoy the moment and see what happens that is if you like him of course. I mean is he worth seeing again. Good Luck!
 
As long as he took the proper safety precautions, I think I could date an escort
 
An escort could be a very good fuckbuddy but I don't think it'd be a real relationship with one...

If you can handle your man selling his body to older men, some who become posessive and obsessive and get into romantic affection (boyfriend experience) with him then I guess it might be ok. I just don't think he'd have time for you at the end of the day
 
You really have to make your own mind on this one...

I would not have a problem with it at all. Why? I am clueless. I just wouldn't.

If we fit together and everything between us is fine, I'd accept his works as his works.

Admittedly, I am not into monogamy at all. And I also do not believe in the concept of granted relationships, where you somehow 'own' your partner in some sense.

If it happens that he falls in love with someone else and goes away, gee, so be it. This happens all the times and it happens everywhere. It is only so much better to recognize the possibility and comfortably live with it, rather than insist on 'eternal bonds', only to suffer interminably or wake up to the reality of being dumped one day.

SC
 
You're entitled to make your own decision, but in my humble opinion:

An escort?! Yuck. Call me a conservative homo (quite the oxymoron I know) but I just think relationships are too important and valuable to share your escort bf with the general population, unless you are an escort as well or you both want an open relationship.

In the end it's up to you.
 
holycrap said:
dont think he is short of money, he does this because its a good money.........plus his a model...so i guess i move on again....
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Yes, I'd say move on.
Besides, I figure a guy that is as handsome as you are could take his pick of anyone, anywhere on this planet.
:-)
 
thanks guys.......

we talked about it, he havent got any plan to stop escorting, because basically he has outcall sometimes 2 or 3 a day, and receiving 120€ a hour, its a good money, earn around 500 to 600 € a day !

i like him honestly......but i cant handle any feelings that my man selling body to older man..... :(
 
holycrap said:
thanks guys.......

i like him honestly......but i cant handle any feelings that my man selling body to older man..... :(
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HC,

I have to ask, if he was only selling his body to younger men, would it be ok?

I hope you can continue to be a friend of his - he may need friends.

It is amazing that we can lust after actors, who in the course of a movie might act out a sex scene with someone, kiss someone, etc. and it not impact our feelings about them - other than increase our lust - and yet find this practice horrible. What is this, but a intimate little play, acting on both parts. How much of a difference is there between the two?

Ok, I'd have problems too. I think it a destructive practice for both parties over time. I think the gift of our bodies is one of the most personal and trusting gift we can offer to someone else or accept from someone else.

The acts of prostitution or exchange or self-promotion all seem to lessen a person's self worth and self esteem. It would be very difficult to partner with a person on such a path of destruction.
 
Rand said:
HC,

I have to ask, if he was only selling his body to younger men, would it be ok?

I hope you can continue to be a friend of his - he may need friends.

It is amazing that we can lust after actors, who in the course of a movie might act out a sex scene with someone, kiss someone, etc. and it not impact our feelings about them - other than increase our lust - and yet find this practice horrible. What is this, but a intimate little play, acting on both parts. How much of a difference is there between the two?

Ok, I'd have problems too. I think it a destructive practice for both parties over time. I think the gift of our bodies is one of the most personal and trusting gift we can offer to someone else or accept from someone else.

The acts of prostitution or exchange or self-promotion all seem to lessen a person's self worth and self esteem. It would be very difficult to partner with a person on such a path of destruction.
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no, it wouldn´t be ok...
yeah, now i will prefer as friend and just hanging around as usual....
 
Sounds like you made a good decision and handled it maturely. Some people wouldn't have a problem with it, but I would venture to say most would. Being his friend sounds like a great idea. He just might need some friends who accept him for who he is.
 
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