Restraining order dispute

[Taralen]

Hey JUB, I love all y'all.

Hopefully your boy doesn't end up in prison soon.

Long story short, my partner of nearly three years Robert, has become the motherfucker of all motherfuckers.

So recently I moved into my ex partners parents property. They stay in the downstairs building, I stayed upstairs with my partner and his brother.

There have been subtle minor occurrences where our relationship was tumbling where we were friends<boyfriends>friends<occasional lovers<boyfriends<partners. But then came the final straw.

About a week after Valentines Day, I came home from work at about 10 at night and I noticed my ex boyfriends car was in the driveway. My ex boyfriend works graveyard so usually he's already driven off to work. So I knew something was up.

There was a little over twenty grand taken out of his account in some sort of CD withdrawal or some shit. I still don't understand the whole ordeal. Even though I did have access to his account for emergency purposes, on my Mother rest in peace I did not steal from him.

He didn't believe me and he beat the shit out of me, and I beat the shit out of him and I pretty much locked myself in the bathroom for the rest of the night.

When morning came he was gone. I grabbed all my stuff and called my Aunt to come pick me up and told her what happened.

So I figured that was that. Nothing is binding and we didn't have any type of courtship so he's out of my life for good. Thank god we never did get married even though we contemplated it a handful of times. Plus according to a text chat I had with his brother, they were moving back to Croatia so the farther he is from me the better.

I was completely wrong.

In a nutshell, he was stalking me for a good week or so. At first I figured he was only doing this in hopes I would refresh my relationship with him, but I'm not that stupid.

So days after our fight he called the police saying that I assault him and honestly there was a lot of racial profiling on my part and, I was arrested for misdemeanor battery. I was bailed out and I was very very upset.

I lost my job, my family pretty much hates me, and that's not the end of it.

So in an act of revenge. I regrettably did some minor pranks on him which included me egging his car. I also followed him to the laundromat undetected bleached his clothes.

So I find out today he has put a restraining order on me. The court date for that is closer than my battery/assault case so this is my first priority and I want this dealt with.

I am already seeking an attorney and that's pretty much it. I need your advice.

I have even thought of doing one better and putting one against him but that's really confusing.

I also just need to vent and rant. I don't have that many friends and my family are 50% supportive and on my side. . But I will overcome this. I'm still young and I won't let these events ruin my life.

 

[Seasoned]

It's important for you to have legal representation and sound legal advice. I certainly hope this all works out for you. Best wishes.

 

[racer2438]

Get legal help, and quit doing childish things that will only come out in court and really make you more the problem, and the courts will see this and you'll come out losing much more than him...

and as for the money, have attorney request the withdraw info from bank, they have video, and paper trail that can prove who did the bank transaction. That can prove who did it, either clear your name.

but either way the games, vandalizing you did will not help you in the least bit..

 

[Durango95]

Lawyers are like insurance. They are too expensive until you need it. Get an attorney. I'd go for a mutual restraining order. That shouldn't be too hard to do, given the circumstances. Good luck.

 

[Georgiadude]

your not helping yourself by acting like a fifteen year old. Every stupid thing you do helps him. It may give you some temporary gratification but it's going to hurt you in the long run. I'd stop posting about it here or any other social network site. All of them can be used against you. However, that's a two way street. Have your attorney keep an eye on his social networking. If you do it it could be a violation of the restraining order. He may post some things that could help you.

Steven.

 

[Taralen]

Just thought I'd update this as the story actually had a happy ending.

I do understand the point of me probably posting here, but YOLO and I figure I already have two strikes against me in this planet by being black and also gay, so might as well live a little and be brave and stop thinking about the consequences of shit. I could never leave JUB. Recently there have been a lot of people I really liked on here that did decide to delete their accounts, I could never do that. I have a love hate relationship with you guys.

Basically all the charges were dropped. I'm no longer on any legal reprecussions or anything of that sort. I'm glad that he finally cleaned his heart and stopped acting like a jerk. Relationship wise, I still want nothing to do with his ass. He still offers me money and shit like that but I of course refuse. Every week or so I go out and have a beer with him. But that's it because when he isn't acting like an asshole, he is a pretty chill guy and it's always nice to have friends. His family are the main concern. They hate my guts now and I couldn't care less about what they think.

Anyways like I said earlier I'm still young and hopefully I can learn from this experience. I want to thank all of you for your advice and concern and allowing me to vent. Happy to be dating again and hopefully I do find the right guy for me.

 

[silentalk]

Got to love happy endings thanks for sharing!!