I just felt like having a good rant.
I moved in with a gay roommate several months ago. I naively thought having a gay roommate would be a good idea because it had worked out well in the past and I didn't want to end up with some homophobic person and have to lie about my sexuality. When I first met the guy he seemed pretty cool. He was in his late 30s, he had a job, and he was pretty clean and organized. I decided to move in with him after I talked him down $50 in rent and paid a $250 security deposit. Things started to go downhill pretty quickly.
First I found out he was a racist. I thought at first he was joking when he made stereotypical jokes about black people but soon it became clear that he wasn't kidding. Next, I found out he was on probation for a drug conviction and he had spent several months in jail. Despite this, he was still drinking and snorting his the neighbor's Adderall. Later he created a fake profile using a former friend's picture on Adam4Adam and included stuff about him having HIV and other diseases on it. The former friend found out and threatened to take it to the police as cyberbullying. I was worried that if he did, my laptop would get confiscated.
I also learned this roommate was defrauding welfare and had a frivolous lawsuit against a LaserTag place where he had hurt his leg. When the lawsuit didn't work to his favor, he started getting really passive aggressive with me. He stopped talking to me and I could only communicate with him through a whiteboard on the fridge. I accidentally left a candy wrapper on one of his couches and he left a note saying, "I bet you thought I wouldn't see this". All of this time I decided I was going to stay out of his way because I didn't really want anything to do with him but he took that to mean I was weird so he called me names like"outcast" and "autistic" when he would speak to me.
The breaking point came when he tried to raise the rent $50 without giving me 15 days notice. I told him that it was his right to raise the rent but I wouldn't be able to pay him until the next month since he told me only 3 days before the rent was due. He came knocking on my door late one night, drunk or high, and asked me if I wanted to make some money. He told me that a couple old guys that he sleeps with asked about me and would pay me $20 a piece if I would let them suck my cock. He admitted he had been doing this with them and getting paid $50 by each. That sorta pissed me off since his argument for raising the rent was he really needed the money, and clearly he was getting $100 a week from these guys.
I finally gave up and gave the guy 15 days written notice that I was moving out. He said he was fine with it, but he started writing nasty notes on his white board. It was things like not taking out the trash enough and not cleaning the common areas enough. Basically it was things he never said a thing about before. Later I found out he had leased a car and he was pissed because he based getting this car off of having a roommate. Without my rent money, he was worried about making payments.
Then comes the topper. When I moved all my stuff out, he took 5 seconds to look at my room and told me he couldn't pay me back my security deposit because he didn't have the money. In all my years, I had never had a landlord who had spent the security deposit and I suspect he used it to pay his probation fees so he could get off probation. I took pictures of the room and had him sign a paper stating he would pay me, but I am 100% certain he will not pay it. And of course, that means I will have to drag his ass to small claims court, where I am certain I will win, but it will take considerable time and effort that I didn't want to have to waste. I will get some satisfaction when the judge orders him to pay the filing fee in addition to my security deposit, but until then, I will have to bite the bullet and pay that as well.
Erg, I just can't believe how horrible of a roommate I picked. I've never met a more vain, juvenile, and self absorbed individual in all my life. I'm proud of myself for handling the situation like an adult, but I can't help but be pissed off. I just wish so badly he would pay me back my security deposit in full so that I could be pleasantly surprised and he could redeem himself a little, but I seriously doubt that he will do so. I hate conflict, but I'm trying to see this as a learning experience. I'm starting to have nasty thoughts though. like if he doesn't pay my security deposit I would like to slash his tires and spread everything I know about him around town so his reputation would be ruined. But those kind of thoughts are making me feel really bad because I don't want to become that kind of person.
I moved in with a gay roommate several months ago. I naively thought having a gay roommate would be a good idea because it had worked out well in the past and I didn't want to end up with some homophobic person and have to lie about my sexuality. When I first met the guy he seemed pretty cool. He was in his late 30s, he had a job, and he was pretty clean and organized. I decided to move in with him after I talked him down $50 in rent and paid a $250 security deposit. Things started to go downhill pretty quickly.
First I found out he was a racist. I thought at first he was joking when he made stereotypical jokes about black people but soon it became clear that he wasn't kidding. Next, I found out he was on probation for a drug conviction and he had spent several months in jail. Despite this, he was still drinking and snorting his the neighbor's Adderall. Later he created a fake profile using a former friend's picture on Adam4Adam and included stuff about him having HIV and other diseases on it. The former friend found out and threatened to take it to the police as cyberbullying. I was worried that if he did, my laptop would get confiscated.
I also learned this roommate was defrauding welfare and had a frivolous lawsuit against a LaserTag place where he had hurt his leg. When the lawsuit didn't work to his favor, he started getting really passive aggressive with me. He stopped talking to me and I could only communicate with him through a whiteboard on the fridge. I accidentally left a candy wrapper on one of his couches and he left a note saying, "I bet you thought I wouldn't see this". All of this time I decided I was going to stay out of his way because I didn't really want anything to do with him but he took that to mean I was weird so he called me names like"outcast" and "autistic" when he would speak to me.
The breaking point came when he tried to raise the rent $50 without giving me 15 days notice. I told him that it was his right to raise the rent but I wouldn't be able to pay him until the next month since he told me only 3 days before the rent was due. He came knocking on my door late one night, drunk or high, and asked me if I wanted to make some money. He told me that a couple old guys that he sleeps with asked about me and would pay me $20 a piece if I would let them suck my cock. He admitted he had been doing this with them and getting paid $50 by each. That sorta pissed me off since his argument for raising the rent was he really needed the money, and clearly he was getting $100 a week from these guys.
I finally gave up and gave the guy 15 days written notice that I was moving out. He said he was fine with it, but he started writing nasty notes on his white board. It was things like not taking out the trash enough and not cleaning the common areas enough. Basically it was things he never said a thing about before. Later I found out he had leased a car and he was pissed because he based getting this car off of having a roommate. Without my rent money, he was worried about making payments.
Then comes the topper. When I moved all my stuff out, he took 5 seconds to look at my room and told me he couldn't pay me back my security deposit because he didn't have the money. In all my years, I had never had a landlord who had spent the security deposit and I suspect he used it to pay his probation fees so he could get off probation. I took pictures of the room and had him sign a paper stating he would pay me, but I am 100% certain he will not pay it. And of course, that means I will have to drag his ass to small claims court, where I am certain I will win, but it will take considerable time and effort that I didn't want to have to waste. I will get some satisfaction when the judge orders him to pay the filing fee in addition to my security deposit, but until then, I will have to bite the bullet and pay that as well.
Erg, I just can't believe how horrible of a roommate I picked. I've never met a more vain, juvenile, and self absorbed individual in all my life. I'm proud of myself for handling the situation like an adult, but I can't help but be pissed off. I just wish so badly he would pay me back my security deposit in full so that I could be pleasantly surprised and he could redeem himself a little, but I seriously doubt that he will do so. I hate conflict, but I'm trying to see this as a learning experience. I'm starting to have nasty thoughts though. like if he doesn't pay my security deposit I would like to slash his tires and spread everything I know about him around town so his reputation would be ruined. But those kind of thoughts are making me feel really bad because I don't want to become that kind of person.
Wow, your ex-roomie sounds like a total douchebag. 
