NotHardUp1
What? Me? Really?
Estranged family members do not necessarily translate as hatred. Often, it is a lack of love. Those are two very different things.
Not associating because there is not a tie that binds is one thing. Spending energy and focus hating a relative is quite another.
And, if two individuals or factions won't gather in larger meetings if the other is present, they may well be doing everyone a favor by not chilling the gathering with any conflict or bad blood that does exist.
Although Fiddler on the Roof was fiction, the example of the father turning from his daughter who married the goy is a good example of a deep culture and values divide, from which the father did not hate the daughter, but he did not accept her life either. In that circumstance, would you want the grandchildren growing up with a grandparent who rejected the kids' father? It's all well and good to SAY the father should forgive or ignore, but people SHOULD do a lot of things they don't. That doesn't make them full of hate. It makes them intractable.
Not associating because there is not a tie that binds is one thing. Spending energy and focus hating a relative is quite another.
And, if two individuals or factions won't gather in larger meetings if the other is present, they may well be doing everyone a favor by not chilling the gathering with any conflict or bad blood that does exist.
Although Fiddler on the Roof was fiction, the example of the father turning from his daughter who married the goy is a good example of a deep culture and values divide, from which the father did not hate the daughter, but he did not accept her life either. In that circumstance, would you want the grandchildren growing up with a grandparent who rejected the kids' father? It's all well and good to SAY the father should forgive or ignore, but people SHOULD do a lot of things they don't. That doesn't make them full of hate. It makes them intractable.
