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Serious crush on Professor

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I have had an incredibly strong crush on a professor in my department. I know nothing can and will happen (even I'd feel uncomfortable if it did!), but I am about to graduate college and I've sort of become attached to him. He's been my professor on and off for about 3 years. Oh, and he's in his 50s (oops :badgrin:).

So I'm just wondering if there's a good way to cope with saying goodbye to him for good? I've done this sort of thing before, saying goodbye forever to someone I've crushed on and admired for years, and it took me 4+ years to get over him.

Now I'm at that place again and I'm wondering if there's an easier way to proceed with my life without it taking another 4+ years to get over him.

Thanks ;)
 
Is he gay or married, single? See if you can be his friend. Professors are people too. If he likes you in any way, he will want to continue. If he doesn't like, then best to just not have anymore contact.
 
Does he have a facebook? Ask him if he has children. Give him a coffee mug or something.

Even if he isn't gay, lot's of college professors are funny and open minded. Especially since in today's day in age, the average college professor is a 30's something, rather than an old fart.
 
Are you sexual with guys or just crushing on them? The crush serves a purpose. It tells you qualities to look for in a boyfriend. If you have the courage, after you graduate tell him you had a crush on him for three years.
 
Hi guys, thanks for the responses. :)

Yes he is married and he has children around my age (eek!)

I don't think he has a facebook and I wouldn't add him anyway because that is just awkward....and if he did have one I think he'd only keep it limited to just his friends and family anyway, not former students. He is very professional.

He is pretty busy, is a teacher and has work outside of teaching as well. Whenever I walk past his office he is either meeting with someone or on the phone, so I doubt he would be inclined for a lunch or coffee break either. But he is not this one-dimensional character, he is extremely friendly, outgoing and funny as well, so I'm not just crushing on him based off of looks or anything.

Anyway I guess I should have specified, he only knows me as one of his students. We say hi when we see each other and every now and then he'll strike up a brief conversation, but he doesn't see me as anyone significant or important, I'm just a student, so there's no interest on his part to either want to get to know me any further :badgrin:

So this is why I asked if there's advice on how to get over someone after saying goodbye, because it's clear nothing further will happen with him. I respect and admire him a lot; he is someone I both looked up to and was attracted to during a big growing period in my life so I feel like he is someone of significance to me, so it's going to be really tough when I graduate and never see him again. I'm just wondering if there are any strategies with moving on without getting too depressed ;)

Thanks again for the responses.
 
Errrr....you know what? I feel dumb for asking this in the first place because I realize now that I know the obvious answers are to either pre-occupy my time with something else (God what I would do for a job...) and/or meet other people.

So...no need to respond now! Thanks again though for the feedback ;)
 
Send him a note thanking him for what he's done for you as a professor. You can even express your admiration for him as a mentor or role model. He'll appreciate it, and it may help you to express your feelings.

Graduation is definitely a bittersweet time. Congratulations, and best wishes for your future; and treasure the good memories.
 
handyman76 said:
Send him a note thanking him for what he's done for you as a professor. You can even express your admiration for him as a mentor or role model. He'll appreciate it, and it may help you to express your feelings.

Graduation is definitely a bittersweet time. Congratulations, and best wishes for your future; and treasure the good memories.
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I slept with a professor a few times when I attended university. The good thing is this prof wasn't my professor and we get along great. I think it is all about how you go about it. If you want to contact the professor give it a shot and see what happens.
 
You're just going to have to deal with the separation. If there were a blueprint for avoiding "breakup" then people would follow. I wouldn't recommend being friends because as it is, you're nuts about him now and you hardly know him. I can't imagine how much more it would drive you nuts to hang with him and be close.
 
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