Sex advice

[chillaxdudes]

Im really new to the entire gay scene and pretty inexperienced in sex. Im usually a top but i really wanna try bottoming. I have zero experience in bottoming and the only time someone tried it on me, I only let him put the head in cuz it hurt so damn much. Does anyone hav any good advice? I sorta googled it and some ppl said i should buy toys to play with. I dont really wanna do that so is there another way? I'm probably gonna top most of the time but its just when Im asked bottom, i dont wanna disappoint my partner haha.

 

[m1thousand]

I think toys is a good way. You can improvise and use something else (obviously use common sense). But you can start with something thin and work your way to thicker things.
Use lots of lube.
Know where your prostate is (its a source of pleasure) . . .

Bottoming is a mental thing as well. It took a long time to learn to relax and not let the sphincter be a barrier that it was being.

And cleaning is another aspect you have to remember. Buy a douche for that

Good luck

 

[Georgiadude]

Why are you opposed to toys? Are you embarrassed to go to the adult store? If that's the case don't be. You're far from the first guy to go in there and they don't know who it's for.

As far as improvising. You can and I've done it myself but you have to be extremely careful what you use and how you use it. When I worked in the ER we had a guy come in that was using a carrot and he perforated his colon. He went for emergent surgery and nearly died. You're much better off buying some smaller toys That are designed to be put in the butt. Start small. Use lots of lube and doing it frequently will help. If you seldom put anything in your butt it's going to be uncomfortable.

Steven

 

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[Alnitak]

Try some foreplay to get more excited and it hurts less the more horny you are. If I'm not really in the mood it kills. If I haven't gotten off in three days I'm a power bottom.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

♪♫ All you need are Toys ♫♪
♪♫ All you need are Toys ♫♪
♫♪ All you need are Toys... Toys... ♫♪
♪♫♪ Toys are all you need ♪♫♪



... and lots of lube, and a will to want it in there stronger then your ass' will to not want it in there.

 

[CowboyBob]

Some guys may not be able to purchase adult toys or store them at home. If someone lives with family and their parent opens a dresser drawer and finds a Dildo it could cause stress in the family unit.

You need practice. Try inserting soapy fingers inside your rectum while you shower. You notice how your sphincter muscle will relax. You need to to that when bottoming. There are other things you can use..... a well-lubricated plunger handle or something of similar size would work. Remember to clean it off after using and don't insert it too deeply.

Try the soapy fingers first.

 

[TopherGF]

I think one of the most important things is to remember to breathe. If you focus on just breathing, it will be easier to 'declench' and distract you a bit from any initial pain. After that it's all good. You just really need to be relaxed so you can feel the pleasure. Otherwise it's just uncomfortable at best.

 

[EJMichaels]

Good advice here. For older threads about this, try these. (Except don't follow advice you see there about using vegetables or household objects in place of proper toys - at least not as a beginner.)

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/362993-Bottoming-Is-It-All-Mental?
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/197217-Relaxing-When-Bottoming?
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/310306-Bottoming-why-does-it-hurt-so-bad?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Some dildos can be hidden in plain sight.

 

[Naughty_Monkey]

Start nice and easy just with your finger whilst masturbating. Get to know the feeling by yourself first, explore the area and enjoy the new sensations.

btw, anal sex shouldn't hurt when done right. If the first guy who got the head of his dick in your ass was hurting you, this was simply due to inexperience on your part and bad manners on his. Was there any foreplay involved, such as massaging the area around your asshole, rimming, fingering etc first? Because if he just went for it without any of that - yes, it will hurt because you haven't warmed up to it (literally and figuratively). Foreplay can be the best part, you might not always want to fuck (a lot of men don't have penetrative anal sex at all you may be surprised to know, it isn't a necessity).