Sex and being HIV+

[aneal_lingus]

Looking at Adam4Adam and Craigslist, I see a lot of guys who are admitting to being HIV positive. I appreciate the honesty and admire that in them.

At the same time, many profiles I've seen have guys saying they are positive and looking for sex with or without a condom. This has me really confused.

I would think a condom would be mandatory because it's one of the main situation condoms are used for. I'm not going to judge anyone on this because at least they are letting the person know before hand.

I don't know how to ask but I really just want to know why? What is the mindset, how does it work, is the other guy positive as well? I'm just curious and would like to be educated on this.

Thanks

 

[SoulSearcher]

I think it's more curious that someone would write to them knowing that they want to have bareback sex and are HIV positive. I think it may be so that they want to attract other HIV positive guys to have bareback sex with, but it is still dangerous because they could each get a different strain of the virus, which complicates the treatment regime. I'm strictly against sexual promiscuity myself.

 

[Nomenclature]

Apparently, a lot of HIV+ guys only have sex with other HIV+ guys.

But I get paranoid when I think "If those guys are admitting they have HIV, how many people DON'T admit it?"

 

[KaraBulut]

It's the seeder/breeder/bugchaser crowd.

Don't try to make sense of it.

 

[Commander Vimes]

Some people bug chase from a sense of wanting to belong. they feel that they can not identify with the wider community, and if they become infected they will be accepted by others that are also infected. The sad thing is that they find out too late that, to become part of that group there is too high a price to pay. They see people who are infected living happy lives and think that that it is the answer to their problems, but if the support network is not there in the first place then it is not an answer it just another problem.

And then there others who do it because it is a thril, for them to flirt with danger.

 

[aneal_lingus]

is there anyone out there with first hand experience?

I appreciate the responses but I think hearing from someone who knows from at least their own experience will mean more.

 

[Commander Vimes]

I am HIV+ and have had offers from both neg and poz guys. I have been open about the fact with, everyone that I have had sex with since my diagnosis, both neg and poz, have said that they want to bareback, but I always insisted on using condoms.

Now I'm a good boy, have been in a relationship for the last 7 years so don't play the field anymore. My partner is neg and we always use condoms.