Sex with clothes on?

[Txgoodoldboy]

Hi. I'm kind of new to having sex. Recently, I was with a guy who I knew really well and to make a long story short I took my clothes off but he didn't. He got what he wanted, I got nothing. I really felt used and betrayed by this because it I thought we knew each other well. Have you experienced this kind of thing before? Is it common?

Live and learn. You need to discuss these things before hand, before the clothes come off. You assumed, you both wanted the same thing. You assumed incorrectly. Talk it over first.

I'm really not sure whether you are upset about him staying dressed, or him getting off?
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[backpacker]

Some guys are just jerks and only concerned with themselves. Once he was done, he was done. That's the harsh reality. Fortunately most guys aren't like this jerk.

The best way to avoid this type of situation is to develop a relationship with the guy before jumping into bed. You could also discuss your expectations in advance. I know that's hard to do and not always practical. Thirdly, sex should be a little give and take. Make sure you get some before you give everything. Good luck!

 

[fjancsi80]

I think you can expect your sexpartner to take his clothes off. Probably he has some serious problems with his body image, or some embarassing scar but even more probable that he is extremely selfish. I don't know what kind of relationship you have but I would certainly try to speak with him about this strange behaviour. Without a plausible explanation I think I would leave him alone after this.

 

[Jerry]

I think we're missing some info needed to make a good judgement here, but your feelings do tell a tale.
It seems as though all he wanted was to use you for sex. But who knows, maybe he is ashamed of something or has some other issues.

If he is your friend then you should be able to talk to him and find out what was in his head. Of course he may not be ready right away, it may take some time. Kinda depends on some things you haven't shared yet. But give it a shot and see if he'll talk to you. If he doesn't want to make you feel better then he isn't really your friend. So instead of trying to discuss the whole thing, just express your feelings and see how he reacts to the fact that you now feel like crap. For me personally, I feel like crap when my friends (especially my close friends) feel like crap. I just can't be happy when I know they're sad, ya know?

And if this guy turns out to be a jerk, drop him quick fast and in a hurry. Don't think about it, don't analyze it, just sever ties with him and don't look back. Life lessons are everywhere. Some are better than others, but they all serve a purpose and make you a better person in the end if you use them to your advantage. So learn from this, hold your head high, and move on.

 

[robdrake]

ask him why don't he take off his clothes.

maybe he is insecure about his body.

 

[SonOfSlobone]

I love sex with clothes on! But it's a fetish thing with me. Maybe he was just in a hurry...

 

[Ares]

ask him why don't he take off his clothes.

That's what I was thinking. If I was laying there naked and someone was standing there fully clothed, my first question would be "well are you planning on joining me?"

Did you attempt to remove any of his clothes yourself?

 

[Ares]

Sure I did, that was kind of the point. He wouldn't go for it. I didn't know this until it was too late though.

Ah, I didn't realize he came out an refused to take anything off.

I guess my advice would be for next time, pace yourself. If you notice you are nearly nude and he refuses to take anything off, it would give you more time to put the lid back on the honeypot.

 

[SonOfSlobone]

Sounds like he's embarrassed about his body for some reason. Try suggesting you fuck in the dark...