Sexual Advice?

[ikrtheblogger]

I’m 19 and a few months ago I bought my first anal toys, a prostate massager and a Dildo So my first thing is the that the prostate massager really doesn’t do much for me. Is this normal? Everything I read online made it seem so good but it kinda just exists in my ass when I play with it and even on different speeds it’s just kinda ehh. The Dildo however, has been really good to me. I have a few positions with it that really, really feel good, but even after months I can’t seem to reach a prostate orgasm. Usually I’ll use the Dildo for about 30-45 minutes and then my face starts getting really hot and I can feel it rising in me and I start going faster and faster and for a few minutes I’m going super fast, moaning really loud, and it feels like I’m at the very edge of orgasming, and then it just stops. Like it goes from 99% to 10%. I’ve tried over and over again but can’t seem to get it. Am I doing something wrong? How long did it take for you to have one if you’ve had one? Is a prostate orgasm just the feeling of being on the edge and it never actually pushes you over?

 

[KaraBulut]

I’m 19 and a few months ago I bought my first anal toys, a prostate massager and a dildo. So my first thing is the that the prostate massager really doesn’t do much for me. Is this normal? ... I’ve tried over and over again but can’t seem to get it. Am I doing something wrong?

Everyone is different. Different people have different erogenous zones. For example, some guys have very sensitive nipples while other guys get nothing from having their nipples stimulated. There are guys who enjoy anal stimulation but others get little pleasure out of anal stimulation; even with guys who do enjoy anal stimulation, some guys enjoy prostate stimulation but other guys derive little pleasure from prostate stimulation.

It might be that you have other ares of your body that are more sensitive to touch and stimulation. Spend more time finding what you enjoy and discovering the areas of your body that give you pleasure. Worry less about the areas that aren't the areas that your sensitive spots.

I have a few positions with it that really, really feel good, but even after months I can’t seem to reach a prostate orgasm. Usually I’ll use the dildo for about 30-45 minutes and then my face starts getting really hot and I can feel it rising in me and I start going faster and faster and for a few minutes I’m going super fast, moaning really loud, and it feels like I’m at the very edge of orgasming, and then it just stops...Is a prostate orgasm just the feeling of being on the edge and it never actually pushes you over?

There's a difference between orgasm and ejaculation that is sometimes difficult to fully understand. For a lot of guys, as they get older they begin to understand that the waves of pleasure that precede ejaculation don't have to be dependent upon ejaculation.

What you're describing does sound like orgasm, so if you were expecting to be able to ejaculate only from prostate stimulation, it may be that your body doesn't work this way.

If you're getting pleasure from the dildo, then that's really what matters. What I would point out is that spending 30-45 minutes getting there might not necessarily be worth the trip? Focus on finding the things that are pleasurable to you and that your body is most inclined to find pleasure in. Don't spend large amounts of time trying to pursue things that your body might not be able to achieve; if it's not happening, move on to trying something else.

 

[ikrtheblogger]

So far that feeling has been the most intense thing for me, but why is 30-45 minutes too long? That’s usually how long it takes for me to orgasm from penile stimulation and, while that does have the release, it definitely does not feel as good. And in terms of the prostate “orgasm”, I always feel pressure in the tip of my penis like I’m right on the edge of cumming, so is there any little technique to push it past that tiny little barrier? Also, any tips for finding the other sensitive areas you described?