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Sexual function as we age

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I'm 79 and seeing 80 several months off. I still enjoy masterbation and use Sildeniphyl when necessary. Of course, funtion isn't what it was and I don't expect it to be, but I'm wondering what methods other men with sexual function issues to to increase their ability to enjoy masterbation, is not llive sex?

Thanks

Richard F. San Francisco
 
I am 42. I got hurt at 24. Because of my spine issues I slowly started to lose sexual feeling below the waist. I found a few things helped me.



  • Saving up orgasms/spacing out sessions. I had a bout of depression that lasted about 8 years. I jerked off rarely during that time, but when I did, it was over the top.

  • When sensation was not enough during masturbation I changed the way I masturbated. I started prostate massage, internal and external. It was great. Tantra massage was also fun, even solo.

  • Finding porn and other fantasies I was into also really helped. I am demisexual/romantic so in general this one helped.

  • The last thing I did was actually something I started before I even got hurt. I went to porn shops a lot and looked at what they had to sell. This helped in two ways. 1) Such a sexually charged place put me in the mood. 2) I would find toys and accessories I wanted to try so I bought them. That in turn also primed me.
 
My doctor talks with me on maintaining a healthy diet. But the real magic was regular exercise - I feel 10 years younger!
 
I am 42. I got hurt at 24. Because of my spine issues I slowly started to lose sexual feeling below the waist. I found a few things helped me.



  • Saving up orgasms/spacing out sessions. I had a bout of depression that lasted about 8 years. I jerked off rarely during that time, but when I did, it was over the top.

  • When sensation was not enough during masturbation I changed the way I masturbated. I started prostate massage, internal and external. It was great. Tantra massage was also fun, even solo.

  • Finding porn and other fantasies I was into also really helped. I am demisexual/romantic so in general this one helped.

  • The last thing I did was actually something I started before I even got hurt. I went to porn shops a lot and looked at what they had to sell. This helped in two ways. 1) Such a sexually charged place put me in the mood. 2) I would find toys and accessories I wanted to try so I bought them. That in turn also primed me.
You mention porn shops which are plentiful in San Francisco. The last time I went to purchase sounding devices, the clerk had his penis out and was semi erect. I had seen him from a distance letting someone give him a blow job, so I asked if I could touch his dick. He say yes, so we found a place in the large store to have minimal private and I enjoyed a brief suck session. He told me that any of the clerks will do that if I ask. I was kind oif blown away by that and no, he did not cum. As a midwesterner raised much earlier historically, I contnue to be very surprised by sexual option and sometimes I find it be too much. I appreciated your mention of hold off sexually and I think I'll try that. I've been very stressed and masterbating too often which I think become a turn off. Thanks for your post.
 
My experience is that giving up alcohol 7 or 8 years ago had the unexpected effect on increasing "hardness".

Now, I don't recommend this because everyone reacts differently, but marijuana is an incredible, next-level aphrodisiac especially the first few months (daily use). I mean blast-off into space sensation.

However, having said that, I have just recently given that up too because I'm not comfortable with the health consequences of smoking, but it was a great ride while it lasted (3 years?) and to be honest the intensity is not as strong anymore and it was a major time destroyer and demotivator.
 
They don't work, or I hardly feel anything, even when I "overdose" such as when I eat an entire $35 "candy bar" in one sitting when the recommended dose is just a square. Gummies taste awful and sodas again have no effect. YMMV, as the saying goes.
 
At age 78 have had to deal with issues of prostrate for past 20 years. Had operation in 2018 due to enlarged prostrate the down affect is I have reduced cum flow. Still enjoy jacking off and blow jobs but little cum in return.
 
I am 42. I got hurt at 24. Because of my spine issues I slowly started to lose sexual feeling below the waist. I found a few things helped me.



  • Saving up orgasms/spacing out sessions. I had a bout of depression that lasted about 8 years. I jerked off rarely during that time, but when I did, it was over the top.

  • When sensation was not enough during masturbation I changed the way I masturbated. I started prostate massage, internal and external. It was great. Tantra massage was also fun, even solo.

  • Finding porn and other fantasies I was into also really helped. I am demisexual/romantic so in general this one helped.

  • The last thing I did was actually something I started before I even got hurt. I went to porn shops a lot and looked at what they had to sell. This helped in two ways. 1) Such a sexually charged place put me in the mood. 2) I would find toys and accessories I wanted to try so I bought them. That in turn also primed me.
At a recent trip to the sex and leather store here in San Francisco, the clerk actually had a hard on. It seems so obvious I ask him if I could touch Him and he said yes. we went to another part of the store for minimal privacy and I gave him a blow job. It wasn't wonderful and seemed a little cold but it was fun doing something in such an unusual place. I am finding that watching porn and masterbating is improving my sexual function which I'm especially happy about because I'm years old. It's actually quite cool, though I'm certainly not 29 again. Any significant improvement at this point in our life is more than welcome. I also have been getting into sounding quite a bit which I feel kind of weird about because I've been infected a few times and had to take antibiotics, But I do like it And I'm trying to follow the idea of drinking a lot of water and trying to piss out the bacteria from my bladder afterwards. I hope that is not too much information.
 
At age 78 have had to deal with issues of prostrate for past 20 years. Had operation in 2018 due to enlarged prostrate the down affect is I have reduced cum flow. Still enjoy jacking off and blow jobs but little cum in return.
I have been surprised after a couple of prostate surgeries in addition to a urination medication I take at night which is supposed to reverse the minimal amount of cum that comes out of my body has actually improved. My first prostate surgery was very painful. Afterwards the surgeon told me he'd taken out a lot And maybe that's why I had to drive to the ER seven times in the middle of the night to have myself recatheterized. I've had one or two synths which weren't nearly so painful. I think using a sounding device has also increased the amount of cum the which clearly has no semen in it.
 
I'm trying to get back into exercise, especially swimming, but also things that improve my mood and improve my aging physique and body and the more I sit around the more I realize how important that is. Thanks for your response!
 
I'm 70 years old and I'm used to jerking off every day since I retired in when I was 64. But as I turned older, I was unable to reach an orgasm, so I usually jerk off using some sort of cream that is comforting smooth, and that helps me, but it takes a couple days for me to reach or orgasm. I'll take it. I don't have any partners I don't really have any gay friends a few, but we're not close. So it's just me and my cream. I appreciate everybody talking about this and it's nice to know that we're all in similar boats.
Thank you, Bill
 
I find that porn helps and there is certainly a wide variety. I even get turned on my pissing videos, especially with attractive men. Going slowly and working up my drive helps also. You have to be careful, but I'm liking sounding too. I've been told that urinating afterwards clears out bacteria, but I also read that doesn't compleltely work. I am pleased that my function is improving with video and masterbatation and I'm especially pleased by that, since I am now 79 and this helps me feel younger, though certainly not like 29 or 39!
 
At a recent trip to the sex and leather store here in San Francisco, the clerk actually had a hard on. It seems so obvious I ask him if I could touch Him and he said yes. we went to another part of the store for minimal privacy and I gave him a blow job. It wasn't wonderful and seemed a little cold but it was fun doing something in such an unusual place. I am finding that watching porn and masterbating is improving my sexual function which I'm especially happy about because I'm years old. It's actually quite cool, though I'm certainly not 29 again. Any significant improvement at this point in our life is more than welcome. I also have been getting into sounding quite a bit which I feel kind of weird about because I've been infected a few times and had to take antibiotics, But I do like it And I'm trying to follow the idea of drinking a lot of water and trying to piss out the bacteria from my bladder afterwards. I hope that is not too much information.
Make sure you clean your sounds well before and after each session as well.
 
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