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short/simple personal issue! i would like input :)

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hey guys! so here's the story...

i'm dating this guy whom I have liked for quite a while and just found out (before we started dating of course) that he likes me back. we're not in a full blown relationship yet, 'cause i'm not ready to make that move, especially since my last relationship, but this guy is very affectionate when we're together. like, he is the one who grabs my hand to hold, and he's the one who leans in for a kiss. however, i have moments where i doubt his feelings, especially on days when he's NOT affectionate. i know that a relationship doesn't consist of constantly calling each other to tell each other that you miss them and like them, but in my insecurities, when he doesn't tell me how he feels, i begin to think that he's uninterested and will move on. so how do i get over these insecurities? should i just learn how to trust his feelings? is this "insecure" feeling normal for *new* relationships just starting or about to be starting? thanks guys!
 
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You say he usually starts with the displays of affection, and you feel insecure when he doesn't. Do you ever wonder how he might feel always having to be the first. Maybe when he's not displaying with you, he's looking for you to go first.
 
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1. Do not let your doubts ruin a good relationship.

2. Just like GusGus said, he might be waiting for you to make a move.

3. During the relationship I had a few years back, during the first days I felt the same way. So, I asked him if his feelings towards me had changed. Well, he said no. I sensed honesty and I trusted him. And it turned out later that he was honest.

I'd say most probably you're worrying about nothing, but you have to show some affection too.
 
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GusGus:

What are you doing to deal with your insecurities so that you don't continue to sabotage good relationships?
 
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So you're not in a full-blown relationship because you're "not ready to make that move".

But when he isn't overly affectionate, you feel snubbed and doubt his feelings.

I think the two go hand-in-hand. He might simply be holding back, in an attempt to protect himself. I'd find it difficult to give myself over fully to my feelings for a guy who said he isn't ready to do the same.

Lex
 
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Maybe he has some private problems or waiting for you to make your move.Give him a little time.
 
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Maybe he's not being affectionate sometimes because he doesn't feel like it. It has nothing to do with his feelings for you some guys just go through periods where they feel like sitting at opposite ends of the couch. I have friends who go so far as to sit on opposite couches, all the time, but no one doubts that they love each other.
 
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