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should i forgive him?
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Tommy2Tone
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Move on. he lied to you about everything it seems. So NO do NOT forgive the creep.
racer2438
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Then you should do what your heart tells you, you may forgive if that is want you what to do at this point, but if you are still hurt from this and you have every right to be. Then that will take time to get over.
So tell him at this point in time you are not willing to discuss this and you want to have time to think it through.
Ask him to respect your wishes and in due time you may forgive him but that you are not getting back together, maybe as friends later but thats it.. that part of the bridge is burned down by him.
So tell him at this point in time you are not willing to discuss this and you want to have time to think it through.
Ask him to respect your wishes and in due time you may forgive him but that you are not getting back together, maybe as friends later but thats it.. that part of the bridge is burned down by him.
backpacker
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You should only forgive him only if it makes you feel better. Whether you forgive him or not, you should stay as far away from this guy as you can. If he carried on such elaborate lies for four months, you can be guaranteed that he will lie again. He's probably spent the last three months doing the same to another guy and just got caught. He probably thinks that he can go for round two with you. If you allow a round 2, it will only lead to round 3, then 4, etc. If it were me, I would cut off all contact with him.
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I'd say forgive him. Holding a grudge or being angry/upset with him does not hurt him, it hurts you. Forgiveness releases that. That does not mean you need to go back to him, however.
Do you know why he lied to you? Some people can do terrible things and admit their wrong and change. Others are serial liars and cheats. Who do you think he is?
Do you know why he lied to you? Some people can do terrible things and admit their wrong and change. Others are serial liars and cheats. Who do you think he is?
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Forgive? Yes! Forget? No! It's definitely time to move on ... without such a devious, lying, "bastard"! 
Not only does he not "deserve" You! ... You do not "need" anyone like Him!
Free yourself of such deception, and, with all confidence, become Yourself!
And, yeah! ... no matter what ...
Keep smilin'!!
Chaz
Not only does he not "deserve" You! ... You do not "need" anyone like Him!
Free yourself of such deception, and, with all confidence, become Yourself!
And, yeah! ... no matter what ...
Keep smilin'!!
Chaz
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So, your entire relationship was founded on a massive lie, AND he has a daughter whose life you'd be affecting by being in a relationship with him.
From now on, be sure to do your research and think carefully before you commit.
From now on, be sure to do your research and think carefully before you commit.
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Do your research? Really? I think that's a crappy thing to say.
I think ideally you trust someone until they give you a reason not to.
I think ideally you trust someone until they give you a reason not to.
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Too many liars and fakes out there. He should have checked his facebook when they were dating, before it became official/serious.
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God in heaven.
I can't believe the advice to 'Forgive Him'.
He's a chronic liar. Pathological.
Run as fast as you can from him. Because i can guarantee you, if you don't you're in for a world of hurt and he's only going to keep lying to you about everything.
Save yourself and a shred of dignity before it is too late.
I can't believe the advice to 'Forgive Him'.
He's a chronic liar. Pathological.
Run as fast as you can from him. Because i can guarantee you, if you don't you're in for a world of hurt and he's only going to keep lying to you about everything.
Save yourself and a shred of dignity before it is too late.
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Ditleon, I don't think you did anything wrong in the situation. I suppose in the future you can check Facebook pages and the like, but don't go overboard or get paranoid. I suspect that might be hard to do now, but try and trust people again.
Either way good luck and don't take him back.
Either way good luck and don't take him back.
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I think you have answered your own question.
Forgive him, forget him, and move on with your life!
I hope to god you always used protection when having sex with this cretin.
Given all this drama over FaceSpace b.s. I'd say stick to casual sex, and getting your education. Real relationships don't have this kind of silliness in them. This guy also has a child assumably because he porked / porks women as well. His need for tissues for his issues would exhaust Oprah.
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By "forgive" you're asking if we should tell you to stay in touch with him.
Absolutely not.
The man is a psychopath. He pretended his *own* daughter was his sister, and that he was an 18 year-old in a 25 year-old man's body? He is crazy, and you would be insane to have anything to do with him.
Cut him off completely. You won't even be able to have a friendship with this guy because who knows if you'll witness him doing this again with another boy!
Absolutely not.
The man is a psychopath. He pretended his *own* daughter was his sister, and that he was an 18 year-old in a 25 year-old man's body? He is crazy, and you would be insane to have anything to do with him.
Cut him off completely. You won't even be able to have a friendship with this guy because who knows if you'll witness him doing this again with another boy!
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Forgive? Yes! Forget? No! It's definitely time to move on ... without such a devious, lying, "bastard"!
As the saying goes, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
Forgiveness can mean moving on and putting something behind you.
Forgive him, block his number and never speak to him again.
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forget about him.
if he lied to you like he did, he has no respect for you nor your feelings. talk about a lack of sensitivity he has done it all.eM
As usual, I'm going to buck the trend (sort of).
If I disowned everyone who ever lied to me, I'd be a lonely virgin. Good grief, men don't open up until you get to know them and they can trust you. When I was hooking up, I'd only half-believe someone who said they were "Steve" and they were "20-something." I didn't give a damn what their name was or how old they were (as long as legal).
An ongoing relationship is something else, granted. At some point, it's time to fess up and be honest about all the fibs one tells to initiate the friendship/relationship.
The point is...he still thinks about you. Do you think about him? Knowing what you now know, could you make a go of it with him? Or, is it a dead issue? If dead, let it go...forgive him, tell him thanks (but no thanks) and move on. If there was something there--this misrepresentation of him not withstanding--then reconsider. Many a promising relationship got derailed when one party got on a moral high horse and torpedoed it over something that, in the end, was pretty minor and understandable.
If I disowned everyone who ever lied to me, I'd be a lonely virgin. Good grief, men don't open up until you get to know them and they can trust you. When I was hooking up, I'd only half-believe someone who said they were "Steve" and they were "20-something." I didn't give a damn what their name was or how old they were (as long as legal).
An ongoing relationship is something else, granted. At some point, it's time to fess up and be honest about all the fibs one tells to initiate the friendship/relationship.
The point is...he still thinks about you. Do you think about him? Knowing what you now know, could you make a go of it with him? Or, is it a dead issue? If dead, let it go...forgive him, tell him thanks (but no thanks) and move on. If there was something there--this misrepresentation of him not withstanding--then reconsider. Many a promising relationship got derailed when one party got on a moral high horse and torpedoed it over something that, in the end, was pretty minor and understandable.
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Mmmm. Not so much in this case.
The guy is a sociopath. Forgive him if you want to, in order to make yourself feel better, but he really won't care. He's probably already on to his next emotional victim.
His lies were not minor. To act like your daughter is your sister demonstrates serious behavioural issues.