Should I try gay sex?

[St8curiousguy]

Hey guys I am a young guy who has been thinking about trying gay sex for the first time. I get very turned on by watching gay porn but after i masturbate the want and feeling to have gay sex goes away instantly and i feel ashamed for wanting to try it. After about 10 minutes the want to have gay sex comes back and so does my want to try it. I would top if the guy wanted me to but i want to bottom and suck cock more then anything else. Just the thought of giving my ass to another guy and letting him fuck my ass and throat makes me so horny. I want to feel submissive to him but not in a bondage kind of way. I have met and talked to a guy from adam4adam and he is a really cool and nice guy. I have told him i would like him to be the first guy to fuck me and he is more then willing. I am just afraid that after i do it i will feel ashamed or that i will get cold feet once we get down to business. I dont want any of that to happen cause i really want to have gay sex at least a couple of times before its all said and done. Am i just over analyzing things or should i just sac up and go through with it. Any advice would be great, thanks.

 

[seven2go]

"Post cum regret"......a common after effect.......go for it.......but play safe.

 

[Singularity]

We've all been there, even us gay men. I think it has to do with your brain and libido breaking the frequency after achieving orgasm. At times, my brain is very much tuned into sex as is my libido, waiting to fuck the next guy (that lets me) and as soon as I cum, the lust, the need and the attraction is gone. However, that doesn't mean I won't be hot for another man another day.

Do what you feel is right. There is nothing better than having a friend you can have sex with, even if on experimental terms only.

 

[versatileplayer]

Hey guys I am a young guy who has been thinking about trying gay sex for the first time. I get very turned on by watching gay porn but after i masturbate the want and feeling to have gay sex goes away instantly and i feel ashamed for wanting to try it. After about 10 minutes the want to have gay sex comes back and so does my want to try it. I would top if the guy wanted me to but i want to bottom and suck cock more then anything else. Just the thought of giving my ass to another guy and letting him fuck my ass and throat makes me so horny. I want to feel submissive to him but not in a bondage kind of way. I have met and talked to a guy from adam4adam and he is a really cool and nice guy. I have told him i would like him to be the first guy to fuck me and he is more then willing. I am just afraid that after i do it i will feel ashamed or that i will get cold feet once we get down to business. I dont want any of that to happen cause i really want to have gay sex at least a couple of times before its all said and done. Am i just over analyzing things or should i just sac up and go through with it. Any advice would be great, thanks.

You feel shame because you haven't fully accepted yourself yet. Accept that you are turned on by guys and want to be fucked, and enjoy it. The meter is running baby - and you'll miss out on a lot of great sex if you keep playing head games with yourself.

Don't feel like you have to "pick a side" you can fuck all the women and all the men you want. Just be honest with yourself that you like it, and if your dick is hard - and you're having fun - that's all that matters.

 

[jfrankie]

Let me add that a lot of men who are 95% straight will occasionally feel an urge to have gay sex. I think that in this day and age, it's a little easier for people to vocalize those urges and even act on them. I really don't think there's anything wrong being one of those men who lives a straight life and has predominately straight urges but, for time to time, wants a cock up his ass. It's really not that unusual.

The real tragedy would be: never experiencing it... never seizing on that tiny portion of your sexuality... acting as if it's not there.

 

[str8guy]

"Post cum regret"......a common after effect.......go for it.......but play safe.

Couldn't of said it better myself... Def do it being a bottom is so much fun! And when your a good bottom it's even more fun bc your partner will cum back for more

 

[BiMike]

If you trust the guy and you play safe taking the usual precautions I say go along with it. You may have the feeling afterwards that it was wrong but I bet the desire will keep returning. If you try it and it turns you off doing it again completely at least you have satisfied your curiousity
In my view the desire for sex with other guys is in your genes are you cannot do much about it but to either ignore the desire hoping it will go away or experiment a bit with the right guy. Best of luck would love to know your decision .

 

[Scealle]

There's nothing wrong with gay sex. Since your friend have already given you the green flag, just go ahead and do it. Remember to be safe and have fun experimenting.

 

[biguy732]

Didn't really read much of anything above - but like Nike says - JUST DO IT!

 

[versatileplayer]

Let me add that a lot of men who are 95% straight will occasionally feel an urge to have gay sex. I think that in this day and age, it's a little easier for people to vocalize those urges and even act on them. I really don't think there's anything wrong being one of those men who lives a straight life and has predominately straight urges but, for time to time, wants a cock up his ass. It's really not that unusual.

The real tragedy would be: never experiencing it... never seizing on that tiny portion of your sexuality... acting as if it's not there.

Yes, absolutely. LIFE! LOVE IT!

 

[jmadaf]

Wanting to have sex with another man shows you should do it. As far as feeling guilty after you get off, almost everybody goes through that, and it will pass if gay sex is really what you want, be true to yourself.

 

[BostonPirate]

the battle between desire and what we are taught is moral never ends in anyone's mind, even for heteros.

Guilt isn't about what you do, it's about how you feel about what you want. You can change the action, but the desire is what it is.

If we were talking about ice cream it would be nothing. Who wants ice cream after they just ate the last bit of cherry garcia that they KNEW didn't belong to them.

but I digress

 

[St8curiousguy]

Thanks guys, i think im gonna try it

 

[BiMike]

Best of luck , hope all goes well, pick a cool guy

 

[MattClaimer]

If you get turned on by watching guys have sex with each other and you want to try having sex with another guy, then do it. You won't know what will happen or what it will be like until you're there and it's happening in real-time.

As for how you'll react or what you will do or how you will perform, again - you won't know until you're doing it. Make it easy for yourself and find a guy you know who is willing to do it, and has done it before. Let him know what your inhibitions are and let him know how you're a little uncomfortable and even afraid of what it will all be like..... if he knows how you feel upfront, then he's going to be more in tune with you and, if he's a decent dude, he'll help you feel at ease and comfortable and make it a really awesome experience.

Wish I was there, I'd go with ya on it and it'd be awesome, I'd guarantee! So just do it bro, work things out in the beginning and it should be a decent experience in your life. One that you might return to time and time again, or you might find after the first time, it's not your thing..... just gotta wait and see.

Come back and let us know when you do it and how it turns out. You're not alone in it, you're not the first guy to ever go there either - so just roll with it brother and rock it to the tenth level!

 

[dairyking469]

If you get turned on by watching guys have sex with each other and you want to try having sex with another guy, then do it. You won't know what will happen or what it will be like until you're there and it's happening in real-time.

As for how you'll react or what you will do or how you will perform, again - you won't know until you're doing it. Make it easy for yourself and find a guy you know who is willing to do it, and has done it before. Let him know what your inhibitions are and let him know how you're a little uncomfortable and even afraid of what it will all be like..... if he knows how you feel upfront, then he's going to be more in tune with you and, if he's a decent dude, he'll help you feel at ease and comfortable and make it a really awesome experience.

Wish I was there, I'd go with ya on it and it'd be awesome, I'd guarantee! So just do it bro, work things out in the beginning and it should be a decent experience in your life. One that you might return to time and time again, or you might find after the first time, it's not your thing..... just gotta wait and see.

Come back and let us know when you do it and how it turns out. You're not alone in it, you're not the first guy to ever go there either - so just roll with it brother and rock it to the tenth level!

Omg I totally agree! Talk with his first so he could make it more enjoyable and less nerve-wrecking.

 

[jubdown5]

We've all been there, even us gay men. I think it has to do with your brain and libido breaking the frequency after achieving orgasm. At times, my brain is very much tuned into sex as is my libido, waiting to fuck the next guy (that lets me) and as soon as I cum, the lust, the need and the attraction is gone. However, that doesn't mean I won't be hot for another man another day.

Do what you feel is right. There is nothing better than having a friend you can have sex with, even if on experimental terms only.

agreed. I know I love men, but sometimes after orgasm I don't feel any attraction, butttt then it comes back a few minutes later Lol.