Ok My last thread was about me reconnecting with my uncle lol. I use reconnecting loosely because we never truly connected. My father has been absent in my life. Well about 2 weeks ago my half -sister contacted me on facebook. I sent her a friend request months ago and she accepted but I was too affraid to say anything. So she flat out asked me are we related. I told her if your father is ***** then yes I am your Brother. So she called me and we had a looong talk. She told me she asked "our"father about me. He told her he was "trying to find me" so we could do another paternity test. Let me stop it right here and give a back story on this..
When I was born my father was there in the hospital. He signed the birth certificate. He took me around his family. His sisters and brothers watched me on occasion and bought me gifts. His sister and my mom were buddies they would hang out sometimes. My father did not want to pay child support because after all this he claimed he didnt think I was his son. In the early to mid 90's the court ordered a paternity tests. The test came back at 79%. He requested another test which came out at 85% and then another that came out at 98%. SO the courts were convinced I am his son and ordered him to pay back child support. Not TO ME but to the state cause my mom was on public assistance. But Social security also gives me part of his SSDI benefits as well lol.. (BACK TO THE STORY)
SO he told my sister that he was trying to find me for yet another paternity test because the previous 3 gave differing percentages. She asked me would I be willing to take another tests. He pulled some of the same stunts with my sister but eventually accepted that it was his daughter with me no such luck.
I told her I would be willing to do another test. She also wants all three of us to have a 3 way conversation about all of this.
So what I want to know is. Do you guys think this will be the last test that proves I am his son? Or what? I really want to have a relationship with my father. I feel like hes a big missing piece in my life and I dont know why But I am just wondering should I just write him off or attempt at it again?
When I was born my father was there in the hospital. He signed the birth certificate. He took me around his family. His sisters and brothers watched me on occasion and bought me gifts. His sister and my mom were buddies they would hang out sometimes. My father did not want to pay child support because after all this he claimed he didnt think I was his son. In the early to mid 90's the court ordered a paternity tests. The test came back at 79%. He requested another test which came out at 85% and then another that came out at 98%. SO the courts were convinced I am his son and ordered him to pay back child support. Not TO ME but to the state cause my mom was on public assistance. But Social security also gives me part of his SSDI benefits as well lol.. (BACK TO THE STORY)
SO he told my sister that he was trying to find me for yet another paternity test because the previous 3 gave differing percentages. She asked me would I be willing to take another tests. He pulled some of the same stunts with my sister but eventually accepted that it was his daughter with me no such luck.
I told her I would be willing to do another test. She also wants all three of us to have a 3 way conversation about all of this.
So what I want to know is. Do you guys think this will be the last test that proves I am his son? Or what? I really want to have a relationship with my father. I feel like hes a big missing piece in my life and I dont know why But I am just wondering should I just write him off or attempt at it again?
Your father has had plenty of chances to connect already. If you can work things out with your sister, then he can either get on board or not, but the train is leaving the station with him or without him.
