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"Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how???

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Hello everyone xD


I'm a sophomore @ UWM Milwaukee and still in the closet...but that wouldn't stop me from going into a relationship with another guy...if it came up to that point I wouldn't give a shit what people think of me...

BUT

How do I find guys...I mean I can't just go to class and be like...hey who's gay...


How do you guys find dates??

Thanks!
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

WOW, thanks so much!
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

But I'll tell you, out gay men are hard pressed to go back into the closet for a partner. It'll be very difficult to be int he closet and in a relationship. Think about that.
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

luminum said:
But I'll tell you, out gay men are hard pressed to go back into the closet for a partner. It'll be very difficult to be int he closet and in a relationship. Think about that.
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The way I am right now..is that IF I get into a relationship I am going to be totally out at my university or wherever I go with my BF(*8*)

If I was to be in a relationship with someone..I would have NO PROBLEM making out or holding hands in public...i'm that kinda guy...idk...prolly weird to some of you..

Then again..if I meet someone and they are still in the closet that is still fine with me.

I'm good either way xD

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Ok...now something is going on in my facebook...after they added the applications like the honesty box people can send me anonymous messages. And like a couple days ago this GUY!!!!!!! sent me a message that he wants to date me but he thinks that I am too religious for him...he prolly misunderstood something on my profile lol..so I told him that obviously i'm not religious.

THEN after losing hope of another anonymous message...SOMEONE SENDS ANOTHER.

He's like I wonder what you look like shaved :O...I usually have short trimmed facial hair...was trying to go for a goatee idk lol...

So, should I message him back with a picture of me shaved...OR should I assume that this is someone that is messing with me and just wants to prove that I am gay and tell the world "which would be horrible at this point since I have no BF and then most probably have to leave most of my friends" so I don't want to risk that either...


Do you think it's a real gay guy..or someone messing with me?
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

My advice, if you want to stay in the closet... Stay away from giving yourself away until you know its not a set up... Its bad news...

You've been warned.
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

Aflute04 said:
My advice, if you want to stay in the closet... Stay away from giving yourself away until you know its not a set up... Its bad news...

You've been warned.
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Wow, i'm sorry that happened to you...omg such dumb asses these days..


I replied to the anony guy saying I KNOW ITS YOU!!! and now I'm going to wait for the reply...

Also, another thing is..I gave a member of here who is at my SAME university meaning he can see my profile my full name so he can add me...but hasn't added me yet..

Maybe he is trying to anonymously ask me questions before adding me? idk
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

It didn't happen to me, did you read the link I posted. Its happening in a different form to some other guy.

I honestly don't understand how people let ignorant people like that affect them. Its crazy. Who caress who he is. If you don't know him and he is asking personal questions about you... ignore him. Its not that hard to delete the message and forget it ever happened. I delete messages all the time! Never EVER give information that you don't want to be 'out' no pun intended... to people you don't know!
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

Aflute04 said:
It didn't happen to me, did you read the link I posted. Its happening in a different form to some other guy.

I honestly don't understand how people let ignorant people like that affect them. Its crazy. Who caress who he is. If you don't know him and he is asking personal questions about you... ignore him. Its not that hard to delete the message and forget it ever happened. I delete messages all the time! Never EVER give information that you don't want to be 'out' no pun intended... to people you don't know!
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k thanks! Your posts totally changed my mind from replying now...wow...I can't even imagine how much of a disaster it would have been if that was one of my "fake" friends...

I know a couple of people at my school that would do that...

Thanks for the warning....I'll see what he replies though..
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

Let me ask you a question:

If you have no problem being completely out if you're in a relationship, why are you still in the closet? If you entered into a relationship tomorrow, what would be different between you today and you tomorrow?
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

I do think you're putting the cart before the horse here. How will gay people know you're there and willing unless you let them know? Being gay in college wasn't much of a big deal back when I was there (in the late 80s) so I can't imagine what a big nothing it is now. Why not come out, thus letting people know you're available?

I should warn you that I got a small red flag when I read about your ideas on love. Yes, sometimes the first guy you date ends up being "the one". Most of times, it isn't.

Good luck to you. ..|

Lex
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

luminum said:
Let me ask you a question:

If you have no problem being completely out if you're in a relationship, why are you still in the closet? If you entered into a relationship tomorrow, what would be different between you today and you tomorrow?
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Because if for some reason everyone wants to leave me, I still have that special someone who I would be in a relationship with...as long as I have someone who cares about me and I care about him I don't care what anyone says.

If I go out today I would get all the regular treatment to Gay people but without having someone that cares about me.

G-Lexington said:
I do think you're putting the cart before the horse here. How will gay people know you're there and willing unless you let them know? Being gay in college wasn't much of a big deal back when I was there (in the late 80s) so I can't imagine what a big nothing it is now. Why not come out, thus letting people know you're available?

I should warn you that I got a small red flag when I read about your ideas on love. Yes, sometimes the first guy you date ends up being "the one". Most of times, it isn't.

Good luck to you. ..

Lex
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Yes..actually it kind of is a big red flag, it's just that I get too emotional with these kinds of things. Just the thought of breaking up or something gets me going crazy. That's why when I/if meet someone, i'm going to make sure we both know what we are doing, no everything about ourselves before even thinking about getting into a relationship...

That way I can save myself the loooooooooooong depression era.

XD Thanks everyone for your replies :D
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

The thread is under Coming out and relationships and its titled "Revenge"... Check it out. It shouldn't be too far down from this thread.
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

...Um that doesnt work either.
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

I fixed it. Sorry. :D
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

Sweet! Hopefully someone will use it... :-)
 
Re: "Sigh" I'm still in the closet (18 y/o) but I still want to find a BF...but how??

Grim,

I dont mean to be mean, but you will not find a long term relationship inside the closet; cause when you two are public you guys are gonna act like nothing happened?

Come out of the closet and potentially find a guy or stay in and be miserable. Plain and simple, cause no sensible gay guy will date a guy still in the closet. Things just don't work like that outside of JUB.
 
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