Snoring Partner

[zgbear]

Hello, All:

For about 2 years I have been corresponding with a wonderful, older man. Well, just recently we finally met when he invited me to stay with him for about a week's time during my vacation. Most everything was fine. We have a great attraction for each other, the sex is coming along very well, and we greatly enjoy each other's company. The only thing (i.e. problem) I/we have is that he snores very loudly. Whether I fall asleep first or last I would usually be awakened in the middle of the night by his loud snoring. Once I am awakened by the overwhelming snores I cannot go back to sleep until he gets up. Needless to say, I am often tired or very sleepy most of the waking hours while I was with him. I love most everything about this man, but his snoring may get in the way of our potential relationship. I wanted to say something about his snoring, but I didn't have the heart/guts for fear of losing or offending him. I would definitely want to be with him again or perhaps even live with him, but I'm not sure I can handle all the snoring for the rest of my life.

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

 

[calmhunk]

My father has a loud snoring problem and it turned out that he has sleep apnea. He wouldn't get enough oxygen and this resulted in snoring. I heard that he is using an oxygen machine now and he is no longer snoring from my mother.

Relationships require communication. I understand that this is a sensitive subject, but I don't think he would want you to lose sleep and fret over this matter. Bringing it up is the quickest way to solve the issue. I'd hate to see you break up over such a trivial issue.

Have you thought about ear plugs? That is another possible solution.

 

[calmhunk]

As for snorring, various physical causes can exist for it. The two of you could invest some effort into finding the cause or even talk with the doctor.

Otherwise you could make arrangements to have a seperate room. One of my friends is a bad snorer. His wife has her own room in the house.

Yeah sorry, I should have been more clear. I wasn't suggesting he get an oxygen machine or anything. I was only giving an example and how a trip to the doctor could be a good thing.

 

[Seasoned]

Loud snoring can be sleep apnea and that can be very dangerous leading to heart attack. The C-PAP machine, which a bunch of people I know use nightly is not an oxygen machine, but rather blows forced air to keep the air passage open during sleep. Ask him to go for a sleep study. It could save his life.

 

[rareboy]

Try nose strips. For him I mean.

Oh...and if he's overweight....time to eat less and move more.

 

[KaraBulut]

Unfortunately, as we get older we lose the tone in the musculature of the face and neck, so it's not uncommon for older men to snore.

He should talk with his doctor about testing for sleep apnea.

In the meantime, have a talk with him about it. Sometimes guys have to start in the same bed and then move to separate rooms so that both can get a good night of sleep. Hopefully he has an extra bedroom or a comfy couch that you can sleep on when you need it.

 

[zeus007]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/324414.stm

http://www.uxcell.com/antisnoring-device-stop-snoring-silicon-nose-clip-p-15170.html

 

[giorgiobaby]

my brother was like that, his wife would sleep in a different room. He got the sleep mask for apnea and it changed his life. He sleeps better, his wife can sleep in the same bed and he has been doing so much better. If this isn't for you, maybe some good earplugs perhaps?

 

[The_Reaper]

My boyfriend snores sometimes, depending on if he's lying a certain way...However, I find that if I'm awake, I just have to rub his back and he stops.

Don't know why, but it just works.

He also says I snore slightly, but he just gently moves me and when I'm on my side, I don't snore at all.

Perhaps you could try a sleeping position that doesn't have him on his back or stomach, as these tend to add more power to snoring.