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Before you get totally bummed out about this, realize that he may not share your expectations. He may just want an ocassional "buddy" to hang with and nothing more. What bothers me is that he stopped communicating until he was "drunk". That's not a good sign. If he can't communicate when he's sober, doing so when he's drunk only invites problems, where he can easily say "I don't remember that" or "I never said that". The fact that you called him the next day to see how he was doing, and he didn't respond, basically proves what I'm suggesting. Finally, if you are looking for a relationship, a hookup site like Manhunt is hardly a good place to begin. While there are exceptions and some guys have met partners there, it's more the exception than the rule. By and large, most of those on-line sites are basically "meat markets"...just a little cut above sites like craigslist.

You deserve better. Keep your options open and keep looking. Maintain ties with this guy if you want but I have a gut feeling this guy is not looking for the same thing you are. If he was and meant what he says, why is he in the bar drunk and not with you? At least think about it. Good luck!
 
You two have never really defined what exactly it is you two are, or what you two have. You hang out, you sometimes have sex. There was no claims to exclusivity or even "dating". It was more of a friends-with-benefits thing. If you want it to be more than that, you'll have to approach him about that.

Lex
 
Um....based on your timeline you sent him a "text" on Tuesday, and it's only a day or day and a half later. Think you're jumping the shark a lil early here pumpkin.

Call him up. Also, you've "only" been dating for what? 3 to 3 1/2 weeks? I really think you expect a lot given the timeframe. Working yourself up into a panic or depression really isn't warranted given the situation IMHO.
 
I don't think you have chance with him. Probably it is over and he is hunting again. Really sad but I hope you will find your boy soon.
 
YOur in a tought spot but sometimes the truth comes out when someone is drunk so maybe he does want a relationship go for it but you will have to take charge. And for the manhunt profile im sure he does not go on there everyday and update his status so forget about that profile
 
My advice, is to talk to him. Actually pick up the phone and call him. Invite him over and talk about it. Say what you want out of this. If you want to date him, he has to know that.
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Nailed it.
 
Recap:

1. You've been hanging a month. You've slept together. You've had sex. News flash: You've already been dating.

2. Your friend was out at a club. Drunk. Without you. Texting while drunk. Manhunt profile. Looking for fuckbuddies.
If the two of you are going to date, all of that is probably going to need to change.

3. Since Lex didn't say it this time... "Talk to him. Not us. Him".
 
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