So I just lost my V tonight

[gavin89]

Well as the title says, I had sex for the first time tonight.. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months now and we felt it was time... It wasn't his first time, just mine...

what's interesting is that he usually bottoms and I always thought of myself as a top.. But when I tried to top him, I couldn't... I was nervous and once the condom was on my penis, it just went limb!
We tried a couple of times but it didn't work so he ended up topping me.. It was his first time topping and my first time and it was amazing

I'm just a bit worried that I couldn't get it up to top him... It's so weird because once I removed the condom and were fooling around again, I was turned out again..

what could be causing this?

 

[Seasoned]

Nerves and performance anxiety. Don't masturbate for a while before the next time.

 

[Rolyo85]

Or maybe you are just more of a bottom. Regardless of what you thought before, it's actual experience that shows us what we like more

 

[Rand]

Gavin,

You lost nothing - you invested it in a relationship.

Do take care - - do celebrate your life!

 

[DeadRussianSpaceMonkey]

It was your first time, you are going to be nervous. I was a nervous wreck my first time, I didn't want to hurt him, etc. etc. You'll get comfortable eventually. Congrats though, on everything going well, and taking that next step.

 

[palemale]

Rodney Dangerfield once said, "of course I was scared the first time I had sex, I was alone!?

 

[Just_Believe18]

Performance anxiety with a condom is quite common even amongst experienced guys who top. Don't worry, as you get more comfortable with yourself and performance, you'll do better. Almost everyone has first time jitters (I know I did).

 

[chrisw87]

I had the same sort of problem my first time, performance anxiety. I still occasionally get the same thing with a new sex interest.

It goes away however, don't worry. Once you are comfortable with someone sexually, it will be a breeze.

 

[blublud]

Dunno if this would apply in your situation but I've heard about it with others. Perhaps the condom was too tight for your endowment. Try a magnum maybe?

 

[Enduster]

Dunno if this would apply in your situation but I\'ve heard about it with others. Perhaps the condom was too tight for your endowment. Try a magnum maybe?

I highly doubt that\'s the issue, as a \"too tight\" condom would actually make a dick harder, not softer. Instead of calling the condoms \"magnum\" they should call them a more appropriate name like; insecure sized.