On Topic Discussion So I Wrote My Memoir

[Maklaar13]

I started doing it long time ago, perhaps almost twenty years ago. I just did not know if I could finish it but I did. I finished the writing almost six months ago then I set it aside. I needed time to relax and soak it all in before starting to edit my story. Yes, I had my doubts about how honest I should be. I even ask my therapist about it. She encouraged me to tell my story but also told me that sometimes we don’t have to give away all the details. I finished the first edit a few weeks ago. I must say how soul cleansing it has been to tell my story and let it all out. My life has been so difficult but not impossible and I am still here. I survived so much and I am amazed at my resilience and determination, not only to find my own path but to shed all the baggage that was weighing me down while I was trying to fly. Now my partner of over 41 years is doing another editing. As he reads it he asks me questions about the stories I am telling. Sometimes it has been quite emotional, not only to write about things that happened to me but also to talk about those things with him. I don’t know if anyone else will read it. A couple of people have asked if they can read it but I don’t know if I want anyone else to read it. Thanks for reading this.

 

[LeicsDom]

Yes, I had my doubts about how honest I should be. I even ask my therapist about it. She encouraged me to tell my story but also told me that sometimes we don’t have to give away all the details.

I disagree. If you are going to write a memoir/autobiography it should be the whole truth. Otherwise it isn't worth writing.
I, too, am in the middle of writing my autobiography. The only omissions I am making is to protect other people. Events can be fictionalised and still be true

 

[Maklaar13]

I disagree. If you are going to write a memoir/autobiography it should be the whole truth. Otherwise it isn't worth writing.
I, too, am in the middle of writing my autobiography. The only omissions I am making is to protect other people. Events can be fictionalised and still be true

Thanks for your reply. In the end I decided to let it all out. You are right, it is important to tell the truth because it is what really happened.

 

[rareboy]

Probably good therapy if it leads to closure on past events.

 

[LeicsDom]

Probably good therapy if it leads to closure on past events.

Sort of. I am still in two minds about how vitriolic to be about how certain people have treated me of late.
Maybe blanking them out is the worst 'punishment' for their misdeeds

 

[rareboy]

Damnatio Memoriae.

Also a way to go.

In some ways, I suppose that is also closure.

 

[LeicsDom]

Damnatio Memoriae.

Also a way to go.

In some ways, I suppose that is also closure.

As Oscar Wilde wrote "There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about"