so there this guy......(im new)

[tea123456]

hey i am new here!
i just wanna say i am really glad i found this community and people seem to be nice here.

anyways, so theres this guy at school that i have a huge crush on, he is really cute, athletic, has a really really nice smile, and his butt....OH MY GOD. its the most hottest bubble bum ever!!! omg its nicer than a butt implant i tell ya....just when he walks, the 2 cute butt would cheeks goes up and down....seriously though, what the fuck does he eat to get an ass like that!!??? anyway ahem, a bit off track here. i really like him but i dont know if he is gay or not. hes masciline and sporty, i know im being stereotypical here but, he is very "straight like"

BUT there was this one time...when we were discussing about homophobia inclass, and he asked me in a joking tone if i was gay....i said "no.....i dont think i am.........but i might be." and then i asked him if he was gay in a joking tone as well and he said "i dont know yet."

And theres also this one time in class, he was like "Hey let's be friends!" and i said "alright." then he added "or maybe more than friends LOL!" in a joking tone...and i just said ".........o..k............."

i have tried to tell him but....im too scared of rejection or him saying "ew you fucking fag" but i think he is a generous person, and he is very nice to me.

so i need you guys to give me advice, this crush thing is driving me nuts, i would think about him all day long, and every time i think of him, i would think about the impossibilities of us being together, it hurts like hell.....please HELP ME

 

[looseliam]

First step would be to come out to him.

From his reaction, you will be able to better determine if he swings your way.

Oh, BTW, Welcome to JUB!!

 

[fiorio]

i say give it a shot, it seems he like you too.

 

[recuerdeme]

these threads are killing me. the responses will be the same more or less. just do a search, read the results and set off on your journey of either hitting on him or pining away like lostvegas and countless others.

I would probably just make small physical contact, brush upagainst him ever so often and if her never pulls away from that then continue and progress.

 

[looseliam]

these threads are killing me. the responses will be the same more or less. just do a search, read the results and set off on your journey of either hitting on him or pining away like lostvegas and countless others.

I would probably just make small physical contact, brush upagainst him ever so often and if her never pulls away from that then continue and progress.

Please forgive him for not asking how you felt about him creating a thread.

Some people... pfft

 

[luminum]

Give it a shot! He seems like a nice guy!

 

[texpatriot]

Yeah, welcome to JUB.

It sounds to me that the two of you are at least "acquainted." Which is one step below being out and out friends.

I would ask him, "Remember that time when you asked me if I was gay, and I said that I might be? Remember what you said when I asked you if you were gay?''

Then take it from there. If he was just joking decide then if you want to come out to him. You can even say, "I still might be, would it make a difference to you if I was?" See what his response is. If it's in the affirmative that it wouldn't make any difference to him, try to resist throwing yourself at him.

But be sure to give him a chance to respond in a manner that's honest for him. You don't have to share any more than you want, and neither does he.

The best advice that I can give you while this conversation is going on is, "Don't forget to breath!"

Good luck, and please stop by and share with us how things went!

 

[conrad]

Friend: Don't press things; let things develop naturally. If you seek friendship, be
friendly and if in the course of your meetings your friend-to be avoids the subjects you would like to pursue, be patient and if sex comes up, give honest responses. As far as you know, your friend-to-be is as confused as you are and as eager to make meaningful connections.

We don't do a good job in our society of helping to make the creation of genuine male to male bonding possible. In genuine bonding one gets to know the other so that two souls are in perfect sync. You will know when the bonds are becoming real; you'll know when it's time to move on to the affirmation of those bonds in some physical sexual contact. There is no substitute for mutually affirmative sex; it says "I am loved" and it says it to both parties.

Who knows? Perhaps words won't even be necessary; the thrill of the moment will gently move the action. Believe me, it happens!

Do keep posting. We all want to be helpful and we just might succeed.

Peace!

 

[MindBlast]

You're obviously young, so the best thing to do would be spend some more time alone with him. Make sure it's JUST the 2 of you. Things can get really interesting really fast.

 

[tea123456]

thanks for your comments and the warm welcome you guys

the thing is, i cant seem to make friends with him, i get all nervous when he's around, and i would just silence myself and try to think of the right thing to say.
like i said, im new, so i dont know anything about pursueing a relationship AT ALL. he's friendly to me, he would say hello to me occasionally when we bump into each other and such. but i often just react in total nervousness and fright, and adding the fact that im a shy guy too i have never act upon my feelings, except once trying SO HARD to tell him, but i backed down at the last minute. and i hate myself for that. i avoid mainly because of the fear, its just so hard, y'know? and this crush thing is been going pretty long now, i dont wanna be secretly in love with the guy and graduate with nothin at the end.
i just wish i had more courage.........

and btw this forum ROCKS!!

 

[tea123456]

I would ask him, "Remember that time when you asked me if I was gay, and I said that I might be? Remember what you said when I asked you if you were gay?''

Then take it from there. If he was just joking decide then if you want to come out to him. You can even say, "I still might be, would it make a difference to you if I was?" See what his response is. If it's in the affirmative that it wouldn't make any difference to him, try to resist throwing yourself at him.

that sounds like an interesting idea, i have never thought of that. i just might try it.....

 

[wentworth]

these threads are killing me. the responses will be the same more or less. just do a search, read the results and set off on your journey of either hitting on him or pining away like lostvegas and countless others.

I would probably just make small physical contact, brush upagainst him ever so often and if her never pulls away from that then continue and progress.

lostvegas isn't pining. He's told me he's moving on.
Pining can ensue however--especially if you are not out.

 

[texpatriot]

that sounds like an interesting idea, i have never thought of that. i just might try it.....

Well, just remember that he's a person just like you, and probably has some insecurities of his own.

I was really attracted to this guy once that it took me a while to work up the nerve to strike up a converstation with him. After a few minutes I couldn't help but notice that he "snorted" when he laughed, and he turned out to be about as smart as a bag of hammers. We became friends, but suddenly he wasn't as attractive.

In other words, as a friend put it me, no matter how hot he looks, no matter how great he fills out his jeans, no matter how awesome you might imagine him in bed, chances are that there is someone out there is equally tired of his crap.

Good Luck!

 

[tallguy297]

G'day tea.....Welcome to JUB!!!

Mate...these guys are spot on...

Just take your time here...I know that you said that you dont want to wait for ever and that you are shy. But you see someone in the street that you immediately think are hot, you dont rush over and hit on them....this is sort of similar...except you've got a head start....

Tea...find a way to get to know the guy more before you embark on anything more serious. You're an articulate intelligent guy from your posts, and right now 'm sure thats who this guys sees. But you need to find a common ground or interest so you can better understand this guy. Either in group activities like sports or clubs or alone like projects assignments...offer to help him.

But for now, simply do it on a "I need to know you better basis". Dont be too quick in opening up to him. You need to know you can trust him, be honest with him and confide in him.

The reality is that he too is working his way through issues and questions. He really maybe questioning himself. With whats transpired between you guys already if he is then he would probably like the chance to know you better too. His reaction to you trying to get to know him better will tell you a lot about how you go forward.

Tea....crushes are the hardest thing to control and to explain. And if only we crushed on people who felt the same....but we dont sometimes. So approach this like you would any other big decision in your life, try to get as much information to hand before you do anything that risks you being hurt...you dont deserve that in anyway.

Take your time, think it through...and most of all...happy hunting!

 

[tea123456]

oh yeah btw
hes christian..