So there's this guy i like.....

[jeffhardylover8472]

this guy is always in my shop and ive been hearin things about him bein fully gay. 4 me its hard 2 find gay guys locally. i rlly like this guy but i cant seem 2 pull him aside 2 tell him or just 2 ask him out. im just dead nervous. can someone please help me and tell me how 2 approach him?

 

[thatguygus]

don't make a move until you're sure he's gay nothing could be more awkward for you or him if you asked him out and he's straight get to know him at lunch or somewhere you can be social without it being weird

 

[Lube]

Life is all about risks. Gotta take risks to get rewards. Chat him up and let him know your interests and see if his are similar.

 

[G-Lexington]

Increase your interaction with him. Get a conversation going. See if you like him any. If so, and if he seems to click with you after several conversations, ask him to grab a drink or watch a game or something after work sometime.

Lex

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

how do i confirm tht he's gay?

 

[Lube]

How does he confirm that you're gay?

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

he doesnt know tht i'm gay

 

[Lube]

So why do you expect him to come out first?

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

im gnna b the first 2 tell him

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

alright im gnna try 2 talk 2 him 2day... what should i say or ask first?

 

[G-Lexington]

Just talk with him. If you feel comfortable with him, you can slip the "I'm gay" into conversation. If not, don't bother.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

alright im gnna try 2 talk 2 him 2day... what should i say or ask first?

Just introduce yourself and have a casual conversation with him.

What do you talk about? Him. People love to talk about things that they are interested in, things they have done recently, etc. Asking questions about him sends the subtle message that you're interested in him.

How do you let him know that you're gay? You just use the correct gender pronoun like, "I was dating a guy a couple of months ago but it didn't work out" or "My exboyfriend used to work retail and...." or "I've always had a weakness for guys who are shy...".

 

[Lube]

(I'm assuming you're not typing this on a 9-digit keypad on your phone, so feel free to spell out "to". )

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

Just introduce yourself and have a casual conversation with him.

What do you talk about? Him. People love to talk about things that they are interested in, things they have done recently, etc. Asking questions about him sends the subtle message that you're interested in him.

How do you let him know that you're gay? You just use the correct gender pronoun like, "I was dating a guy a couple of months ago but it didn't work out" or "My exboyfriend used to work retail and...." or "I've always had a weakness for guys who are shy...".

he knows who i am... i talk to him every time he walks in.... plus i went to school with this guy

 

[G-Lexington]

Well, Hay-Seuss Creest, what's the big deal then? Tell him you want to grab drinks after work sometime, and see if he's up for it.

Lex

 

[Lube]

So what happened?

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

i choked up... im just dead nervous

 

[Lube]

Nervous about rejection or nervous that he'll discover you like men?

Love and accept yourself as a gay/bi man. That makes it a lot easier.

And, hey, everyone gets rejected. Just part of life. Hopefully he's appealing enough to you for you to get over your fear of rejection.

 

[IllgetyouHackman]

^Wait seriously? I happen to think The Departed was a hell of a movie where do I land on your sexuality spectrum?

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

i had no choice but 2 tell him over facebook... he seems 2 understand so i asked him out and im waitin 4 a reply.... was this a bad move?