Look, people change. You two, who once had similar experiences and were near each other constantly, have different experiences now. He's met a wider circle of people than he once knew growing up. It's a natural evolution. Many childhood friendships fade once people graduate from high school and move on.
I think it's a little harsh to imply that he doesn't care, and never did--that 15 years were, essentially, a lie. You know that's not true. The problem is, he wants to change the relationship, and you don't. Thus, you are naturally hurt. But, like or not, he IS changing it. His absences in communication were not so much "I don't like you--and never did" but, rather, "I've moved on and don't have the time nor desire to be in daily touch with you anymore."
The best thing you can do is move on yourself--to new friends. God knows that's easier said than done, especially when you're not finished with this one yet. But, friendships are two-way streets, and when he decides to drive off that street, you really can't do anything about it--except find new friends in the here and now.
Good luck. I know how much this hurts, what he's doing. But, you aren't powerless, either. You have it within you to change your mood and your feelings, to make some changes in your life, and start living happily.
Keep in touch, and let us know how you're doing.
I think it's a little harsh to imply that he doesn't care, and never did--that 15 years were, essentially, a lie. You know that's not true. The problem is, he wants to change the relationship, and you don't. Thus, you are naturally hurt. But, like or not, he IS changing it. His absences in communication were not so much "I don't like you--and never did" but, rather, "I've moved on and don't have the time nor desire to be in daily touch with you anymore."
The best thing you can do is move on yourself--to new friends. God knows that's easier said than done, especially when you're not finished with this one yet. But, friendships are two-way streets, and when he decides to drive off that street, you really can't do anything about it--except find new friends in the here and now.
Good luck. I know how much this hurts, what he's doing. But, you aren't powerless, either. You have it within you to change your mood and your feelings, to make some changes in your life, and start living happily.
Keep in touch, and let us know how you're doing.