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Something I do NOT reccommend doing...

Adam2299

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So I was feeling incredibly alone and depressed just days after breaking up with my boyfriend... so of course I had to get drunk and call one of my ex's who i know is still in love with me... and of course we end up having sex... and of course he won't stop calling me now. UGH why do I do this to myself???? Not only was the sex terrible b/c I have no feelings for him whatsoever, but I feel like an asshole doing this to him.

WTF is wrong with me :( blah.
 
I don't know - guess you were just lonely and looking for some attention and recognition. I know I did similar a few times - not with an ex but with someone I knew who wanted me

Guess you need to deal with the ex now. Good luck and be gentle

(*8*)
 
I'm wondering why you'd do that to him?

But I digress.

Please tell him simply and honestly that you were intoxicated and needed to feel loved, or something. Don't let the poor chap pine of you in hopes it'll start again.

But anyhoo, sorry to hear about the breakup. They're never easy. Well, most of them. ;)
 
looseliam said:
I'm wondering why you'd do that to him?
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Ugh, I guess depression will make you do really dumb things? For some reason I'm having a really hard time getting over this guy (granted it's only been a few days), but I think I liked him a LOT more than I even knew or ever admitted to myself... I'm planning on being honest with my ex about everything and telling him I'm just going through a hard time... I'm truly not an asshole; that's why I feel absolutely horrible right now...

:(
 
Looking back, I hope I didn't seem condescending; it wasn't my intention.

I've been the guy on the other end and it sucks.

I am glad, however, you see what's going on.

I used to think that avoidance and alcohol helped a break-up. I've come to the opinion that immersing yourself in the emotion and feeling it fully then you can let it go.
 
[initiate bluntness] You should feel like an asshole. You played on this guys emotions knowing that he has feelings for you just so you could get off. You used him as meat, and now you're re-dumping him and hurting him even more. You have some serious apologizing and ass-kissing (metaphorical) to do. [/bluntness]
 
Why don't you try playing video games instead of poisoning your body...
 
provenlogic said:
[initiate bluntness] You should feel like an asshole. You played on this guys emotions knowing that he has feelings for you just so you could get off. You used him as meat, and now you're re-dumping him and hurting him even more. You have some serious apologizing and ass-kissing (metaphorical) to do. [/bluntness]
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Ok, I really needed to hear that, so thank you. I'm about to work up the courage to call him and straighten things out... I kind of feel like an asshole for ignoring SIX of his calls today... but I guess he just can't take a hint (my fault - not his).

But you know, it really doesn't help anything that the guy I just broke up with sent me a harassing email a few hours ago.

Whatever. 2007 really sucks so far. That's all I know.
 
Theyoungman said:
Why don't you try playing video games instead of poisoning your body...
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I don't view drinking on occasion as "poisoning my body" in any form or fashion. I also am not defending my bad decisions on alcohol either, just to be clear. I probably would've called him anyway.
 
I guess at this time you don't have to worry about why you did that but how will you get out of that situation.
 
--O2-- said:
Sorry babe, I've made that mistake too.

Live and learn...
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^ Follow this advice.

You're not the only one but you will have to face the consequences for your actions.

You took out your misery on someone else and now they're going to have suffer for it. I understand how depressed and sad you feel about your recent break-up. However, keep other people out of it (like your ex-bf) and grieve properly.
 
From the last thread to this thread... you seem to get drunk often.

But why you did it? Probably for the same reason guys "continuously" hit on you even though you may be out with someone else and you're "politely" saying no. You want it. You need it. You have to have the attention.

I believe you aren't so devastated by this breakup as you are letting on. From the other thread I could pretty much foresee the breakup...
 
recuerdeme said:
From the last thread to this thread... you seem to get drunk often.

But why you did it? Probably for the same reason guys "continuously" hit on you even though you may be out with someone else and you're "politely" saying no. You want it. You need it. You have to have the attention.

I believe you aren't so devastated by this breakup as you are letting on. From the other thread I could pretty much foresee the breakup...
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I admit that part of the reason I'm so hurt right now is b/c I'm not used to being rejected by guys... and yes, I AM used to receiving lots of attention. I'm not saying that's a good or bad thing, I'm just saying that's what I'm used to. I've never been dumped before so I guess this is just all new territory for me. I'm sorry if I'm coming off as an attention whore or whatever you think I am, but I'm really not. I pride myself in being a good person and a good friend. I'm not some immature alcoholic who needs attention 24/7. Although I suppose you'll believe what you want to believe. I guess I just wanted support/advice but I'll stop posting if I'm going to get responses like this...
 
Adam2299 said:
I guess I just wanted support/advice but I'll stop posting if I'm going to get responses like this...
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I think Recuerdeme is offering constructive criticism and means no harm. When you ask for advice and opinion you need to be prepared for what others are going to observe and respond with

Please continue to post
 
Be honest without being blunt. He might be upset initially, but the longer you the worse it's going to be.

Good luck...don't worry about the early responses. your decision wasn't a good one, but they happen, just try to fix things as best you can.
 
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