Something in life finally is looking up

[latinoguy19]

So I just finished my first year in college. It was a hectic year. i made many friends first semester, from all over the globe - Peru, Bolivia, India, Pakistan, England, Ghana, Congo, Hawaii, China, South Korea, Jamaica, the States, and more. I aced all of my classes and exams, and picked a great new roommate to replace the weirdo from this year.

A girl this semester began rumors about me that were untrue, and got my entire group of friends (the 5-6 people I talked to the most, and ate meals with) to stop talking to me, but I had a larger group of friends, and met new people too. I bounced back, and the people I met and grew to know more all became large and better parts of my life. The older friends tried to apologize and make friends again, but became jealous and angry when I told them I had moved on and was happy.

One of the people I came to know much better was Miguel (name changed). His is Bolivian-American, and plays the guitar. We speak Spanish together (I'm still learning), and I sing with him in our own little band. He is very intelligent too; we talk about politics, current events, and academic reform on our campus. In all, he is a pretty well-rounded guy, and he is a great friend. I never told him I was bisexual, but I never hid my attraction to men or attempted to act straight. I feel like I can be real around him.

Secretly I held an attraction to him I knew I wouldn't act on. I had liked many straight guys before and knew it wasn't smart to feel. So I kept my feelings hidden. Whenever we'd play together, we'd have the the guitar and a laptop with tabs listed in our laps, and we'd be sitting close. For a documentary that we starred in, we did a few scenes performing, and practicing. The camerawoman, my friend, asked if he was gay (she knew I was). I told her no. That has turned out not to be the case.

A friend of mine at a Relay for Life event two weeks ago told me she had been attracted to Miguel first semester, but found out that he turned out 'to be quite the flamer'. It went over my head, and then she went on to say he'd changed his Facebook interests to both 'Women' and 'Men'. Fireworks flew through my head. I was so excited!!!

The next night at a dance party with drinks, we were dancing (with my new friends) and Miguel and I started dancing together. I asked him to talk and we went to the hallway. I asked him about the sexuality thing, and he said he was glad that I had come to him. He decided he was bisexual as well with a male preference, also like me. We talked about how we arrived at our sexualities, I told him about how my parents are in denial, and he embraced me and consoled me, which is big. I have a problem with physical contact. We went back to dancing.

Ever since then, we hung out almost every day. Eating meals together, practicing like crazy with music, and having fun. Life in college has truly changed me and I have learned a lot. I am not getting my hopes up with Miguel or trying to push things; in the fall when we return we will pick things up again and see where they go. This is just a story of how my life has changed in 9 months and how it will hopefully progress in the future. Hopefully one with Miguel.

Thanks for reading! Two songs we performed are on my Myspace below.

 

[Seasoned]

Good luck to you. Coming out is a never ending process, but each time gives new benefits. It also gives the opportunity to meet a lot more people. As you are able to be more open more people will be open to you and thus you won't necessarily be so tied to one person to fulfill all your needs. I wish you all the best!

 

[Eagle653]

What a great story and great way to end the school year! Congratulations! I hope things pick up where they left off in the fall. Keep us informed. This is great news for you!

 

[latinoguy19]

Thanks for the wonderful responses!!!

I want to give a little background to clear up somethings: I came out as bi back in 2003, when I was 14. It was a hard decision for me, but I came out to all of my friends and family. My parents are still denying I told them, but all of my high school friends knew.

In college, I don't deny it when people ask, but I also don't advertise it. I just be myself and let people arrive at an idea of me. I definitely like Miguel, but I have learned from the past to never hope for something so unsure.

Thanks again! I will update through the summer and through sophomore year too.

 

[pausanias_usa]

Sounds like college life is doing you good. Enjoy!

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Latinoguy,

Your story is proof positive that good things happen to good people!!! Its obvious you have a heart and soul that are both enormous and that you give easily to others. You see the good in things and people... and in return its coming back to you!

You have an amazing ability to take things as they come, to be in the moment and enjoy what life is bringing you when times are good... and thats a huge thing... because life is made of ups and downs. But if you can appreciate the ups the downs are so much smaller...

I hope for you that everything works out for the best with Miguel... it seems like you already have an special valuable relationship regardless of whether it progresses or not... and its great that you know that already.

Thank you for sharing Latinoguy... you deserve all the good things in your life now... its important to remember that!

 

[latinoguy19]

Hey Latinoguy,

Your story is proof positive that good things happen to good people!!! Its obvious you have a heart and soul that are both enormous and that you give easily to others. You see the good in things and people... and in return its coming back to you!

You have an amazing ability to take things as they come, to be in the moment and enjoy what life is bringing you when times are good... and thats a huge thing... because life is made of ups and downs. But if you can appreciate the ups the downs are so much smaller...

I hope for you that everything works out for the best with Miguel... it seems like you already have an special valuable relationship regardless of whether it progresses or not... and its great that you know that already.

Thank you for sharing Latinoguy... you deserve all the good things in your life now... its important to remember that!

Thank you for the incredibly positive responses. I talked to Miguel today and it was really nice. We talked about music to perform and just checked up on each other. I am here in Ohio (I am staying on campus) and he's away in Maryland. I met his parents before he went back and spoke to them in Spanish. I was so nervous! But Miguel just smiled at me the whole time. He recently came out to them and they received the news really well (that proves good for the future!!!) I am dieting and exercising this summer so I will look even better and irresistible when he returns in August!!!

 

[latinoguy19]

I talked to Miguel today. He's going to the gay pride festival in DC soon, and he said he wished I was with him, so we could share that memory together. It was sweet.

He said he misses me, and I told him the same. These next three months are going to be hard.

 

[tonyboy]

Hey friend....

I love to read stories with happy endings.... Thank you for sharing this with your friends here.

It sounds to me as if you've made a great connection with your friend. Two very fine and great guys meeting, getting to know each other and sharing their innermost thoughts. How fine is that?
My best to you both.
Man, I love stories like yours.
Summer will be tough but you two will keep in touch and keep the bond.

 

[latinoguy19]

I just wanted to come back and tell everyone that Miguel and I are now a couple. We are taking things slow but we definitely both have deep feelings for one another.

I met his family, including his two sisters (13 and 16) who loved my humor, and know we are a couple.

Life is good

 

[looseliam]

Aww, yay!

Ol' Blue Eyes said it best, "Nice and easy does it, every time."

 

[latinoguy19]

Thanks everyone