Starting to get into anal, could use some advice

[bihottie74]

On the gay side of my life, (I truly am bi), I'm really starting to enjoy anal. My man has managed to fit his entire dick inside me which I crave, but it still hurts. (7.5).

So what can I do to get better at it? I want him all the way inside me, but I want it to feel as good as when he goes like 3/4 of the way. I got really close to cumming last time, and I feel that if I can just get past this one last hurdle and really let him pound me, I'd cum without him even touching me.

Can you help?

 

[ChicagoNormalGuy]

Are you using plenty of lube? Is your ass "stretched" out a bit? Are you relaxing your sphincter muscles? How big is his cock?

 

[bihottie74]

He's 7.5 and fairly thick. It's not the stretch, I get over that pretty fast. It's like he's bottoming out on me and it hurts up there. Everywhere else is FANTASTIC.

 

[ChicagoNormalGuy]

What position are you in when you fuck? Missionary, dogie, you on top? Maybe you need to find the position where he isn't hitting something inside. 7.5 isn't all that long. Frankly, I've got a dildo bigger than that and have had men who are bigger.

 

[bihottie74]

Is this just a matter of getting things completely 'cleaned out?' I'm fanatical about my diet, my health, my body but have never 'cleaned out' before. Am I missing something great?

 

[AsianDream]

The best advice is to practice with dildos a lot.

It took me a long time before I realized how lucky I was with my first BF. He gave me a couple of dildos to practice with on my own for a couple of months before he fucked me for real.

By which time my ass muscles were so used to relaxing – and I’d cum so many times while fucking myself it was really awesome the first time I was fucked for real.

I’ve never felt any pain since – anyway every time I masturbate I still like to use a butt plug or dildo

This is because people have two anal sphincters – the outer one that is under voluntary control and the inner one that is mostly automatic or under unconscious control. But this can be trained by practice to learn how to relax.

I’m versatile – but the sure sign of an inexperienced “bottom” is when he loses his erection when being fucked. This is just a signal to be “ultra gentle” with him – no “Fuck Yea” violent thrusting. Just move really slowly and make sure you play with his cock a lot (in this case advice for your BF rather than you).

 

[kaiwalkingdead]

I need help with bottoming as well. I'm fine for a little while but then it just starts hurting so badly....even when the guy is being gentle.