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Still a virgin

Okay, good reasons for having sex:

1) Hedonism, way underrated and the only valid reason I can think of for casual sex, I mean damn, the only other reasons I could think of are stupid ones, HAIL SATAN!

2) Sharing a special moment with someone you love (such as your husband, yay!), trite but true

3) Getting your boyfriend (or husband, yay!) to take you on a cruise, since prostitution is perfectly acceptable within the context of an existing relationship

4) Getting your boyfriend (or husband, yay!) to wash dishes, since prostitution is perfectly acceptable within the context of an existing relationship

5) Your boyfriend (or husband, yay!) paid for or made a good dinner, since prostitution is perfectly acceptable within the context of an existing relationship

Bad reasons for having sex:

1) Drunkenness: make sure you made the decision to have sex before taking your first drink, or don't do it at all, and furthermore, if you're too tipsy for protection, you're too tipsy for sex

2) Guilt, which is just sad, and furthermore, pity sex (related) is insulting

3) Saving a relationship: it doesn't work, and desperation of this kind is both pathetic and bad for you

4) Money, which there are easier ways to obtain, trust me

5) Losing your virginity

Your virginity doesn't matter. Your dignity does. If you want to have a good time with someone you like, even someone you're not in a relationship with, then for fuck sake, do it. Do it for the sake of enjoying your life to its fullest. However, don't feel like you HAVE to as some stupid "rite of passage": you are perfectly valid, as a gay man, if you never have sex at all. Trust me, we all accept you if you are a virgin. Some of us even think it's kind of hot. You make sure you use that card for YOUR pleasure, and when you do get your first good fuck with someone who is experienced at deflowering virgins, enjoy every indelible moment of it for your own selfish pleasure. You deserve it.
 
C'est fortement impressionnant que tu es capable d'écrire en anglais si bien sans avoir des années d'études formelles. C'est encore difficile pour moi de parler en français après avoir suivi tant de cours, des ateliers de formation, de travailler dans un milieu bilingue....Quant à moi, j'ai du attendre jusqu'au 24 ans pour trouver mon gars, mais on reste en couple après 17 ans.
 
I did not want to even acknowledge I was gay for the longest time. I messed around with 2 friends after high school, blowjobs, kissing, but never sex. My best friend and I tried it once, it hurt so we stopped. Im 34 now, and just last night I lost my virginity. Was it special, with someone I love. No. It was however, with a really cute 18 yr old who I invited over to get to know, give a blowjob too and it just progressed from there. He looked at me with his innocent eyes and asked if he could fuck me, and for some reason I said yes. It was great, it was fun, and it surprised me. Good luck to you man.
 
Brian, thank you so much for your kind words. You really made me laugh actually! Of course you have to weigh the pros and cons before having sex with anyone, I mean, I'm not trying to sound picky (if that's the right word), but that's how I feel. I would like to just dive in and not think too much but that's how I roll. However, that time hasn't come yet so, we'll see how things work out when it does. You're right, I just need to be a little "selfish" and think for myself and not give into pressure, you know.

bankside, merci beaucoup, c'est gentil ! Mais j'ai fait des études d'anglais, j'adore cette langue depuis que je suis très jeune, je regarde beaucoup de films et de séries en anglais donc je me débrouille. Ton français est très bon aussi, bravo! 17 ans, wow! Wish you all the best :)

Junior42, I totally get it! But if you felt good and comfortable with that guy at the moment, I don't see anything wrong with it. I personally couldn't do that, but if you had a good time, that's what matters! Thank you.
 
Im just saying I felt the same way you felt until literally that moment he asked, and even then it was not instant, I put it off for awhile, and then he asked again and then again, and I said ok. He said he would stop if I wanted, but it was fine. The point I was making is, its's never too late, as Im in my 30's. Never feel pressured, when the time is right or when you finally decide you want to try it, you will just know. Its so easy to say Im not going to do this or this or this, and then sometimes things just change.
 
Oh, okay! You felt it was the right time with him, right?

Guys, I'm kind of happy because I've been talking (only texting) with this guy I met on Grindr for about a week now, we set up a date this week and I'm very looking forward to meeting him in person and talk. He's my type, he's funny and has a lot to say. Of course I'm a little anxious because it might not work once we meet but I try not to think about it too much. We've talked about my "condition" and he's been very understanding about it, so I'm relieved. I have the feeling it could work!
 
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