straight but curious, have gay roommate

[bijockdude]

I might suggest as not to offend him if he isn't interested in you or prefers dating someone prior to having sex; let him catch you naked or masturbating sometime...I know that happened to me I got caught and the roomie asked if I needed help and I said sure that would be great..it was fun a nice swallowed load and I didn't have to ask he offered up once he saw me jacking off

 

[Cum2wales]

Hey everyone... So, right now I consider myself straight, but I'm curious to explore some sexual urges I have toward the male gender. I have an openly gay roommate, but would it be offensive if I asked him if he wanted to give me a blowjob, or even if we just messed around a bit? Just wondering... Let me know.

Just ask him one quiet night when your alone with him. Maybe ask him at a time when, if he says yes, means that you can get right to it such as when he walks from the shower.

That way, you know your smoking a clean cock. Z

 

[Cum2wales]

Probably a lot of harm if you've still got to share the same room for the next year or so

Your assuming he's said no already. Not many gay guys say not to str8 guys.

However, if you be all gay about asking him he might say no. What's attractive about straight men is how they wear sex on their sleeves. Be confident.

 

[innocentbychoice]

We need an update.

 

[The White Stripe]

If you want to ask him to have sex I would say it like this:

"How do you feel about having sex."

This way you don't seem like a selfish jerk who just wants his dick sucked on. Give and take my friend. Give and take.

 

[Rgncajun]

Geez just ask him do guys give better blowjobs and take it from there.

 

[BIMICHAEL4FUN]

I would recommend starting the conversation with a discussion about gay sex...what it feels like, what he likes, etc., and admit your curiousity during the conversation. You should be able to tell from his reactions during this conversations as to whether he would be interested in doing anything sexual with you. You can always ask him during the conversation if he knows anybody that would trade blowjobs with you with no strings attached and he might reply by saying that he would love to....This way, he is volunteering his services rather than you requesting them directly...

Good luck, and enjoy!!

 

[CGHJ]

Geez just ask him do guys give better blowjobs and take it from there.

Seriously, it's not rocket science LOL

 

[Krakenbwool]

From what I've observed, most gay guys would be thrilled if a "straight" guy ever asked them for a blowjob. Then again, the internet isn't the most accurate representation of the general populace, so I suggest you be more tactful.

 

[Seasoned]

In the real world people talk to friends and family about interesting people, places and things. Contray to porn, every gay guy wouldn't do every straight guy. Not every gay guy gives blow jobs. It sounds like a hot fantasy. Practically it may not work in the US where there can be so many hang ups.

 

[AsianDream]

In the real world people talk to friends and family about interesting people, places and things. Contray to porn, every gay guy wouldn't do every straight guy. Not every gay guy gives blow jobs. It sounds like a hot fantasy. Practically it may not work in the US where there can be so many hang ups.

I still think that having to live in the same room afterwards would be the real problem.

I think the protrayal of all gay guys as sexually promiscuous is overdone - I definitely woudn't give just any straight guy a blow job (he'd have to ask me nicely first).

 

[eximius]

I think most of the advice here is spot on. I don't agree with treating this topic with the same regard as straight males trying to court straight females. A certain wooing standard is expected for heteros and homos looking for a relationship, sure. But here we have a guy who is trying to explore a sexual interest, before delving into the lovey-dovey courting methods.

What I mean is, the OP is curious as to whether or not he would enjoy sexual interaction with another dude. This is something to explore and determine before getting into a relationship with someone of the same sex. So, I don't think it is offensive at all for a straight guy to approach a gay guy regarding the sex. Some of us gay dudes have known we are as queer as a $3 bill since the get go, but I'd venture to say that most of us have had to be curious first to find out. In this way, I feel that his roomate (or any gay guy) would be able to empathize with the OPs curiosity and not be offended at a proposition to explore the OPs sexual interests.

Now, you can go about it in a whole slew of ways. I would suggest tact and an overall expression that you need help figuring this out, and you really want the roomate to help you - but, OP, do you have the hots for your roomate or is he just the closest openly gay guy around? It's true many gay guys want to do the naughty with their straight roomates, but it is less offensive to the gay guy if the "straight" guy has an interest and is not using the gay guy as a cum dump. Granted, some people are into being cum dumps, but many aren't and to assume that really makes you an ass.

Basically, there are ways you can approach this without being offensive, and there are ways that will get you nominated for biggest ass of the year. Displaying your sexual confusion, desire to explore, and a respectful interest in your roomate being the one to try it all out (like saying how you are most comfortable with him, you trust him more than anyone to help you through this, etc) is a good start to winning him over and getting some gay action. Like others have said, remember it is a give and take kind if thing. Unless he is into it, don't treat him like he's the fag for sucking your cock. Be humble, remember HE is doing something for YOU, and be grateful..maybe even offer to service him. Keeping things open and honest and as close to both party's desires as possible (ie you respecting and understanding his limits, and him yours) is key to making something like this work out so no one gets hurt.

Last thing I can say, is if he does agree and you do go through with it, be caring and respectful. Make sure he is really ok with it, reiterate to him how you don't want to use him, how thankful you are he is willing to help you, etc...that attitude is what builds a relationship up and also will let him decide how far he wants to go with you (oral, anal, role-play, actual relationship, etc...)

Lastly, good luck and have fun. Giving and receiving bjs is fun IMO!

 

[buddy1970]

I think most of the advice here is spot on. I don't agree with treating this topic with the same regard as straight males trying to court straight females.

Neither do I. There are significant differences, in general, between the way that men and women approach sexuality. There is crossover, for sure, as you can see from some of the comments.

I merely skimmed most of the later ones, but instead of asking your roommate to blow you, perhaps you could simply confess that you're curious, and if he has any friends who might let you experiment. That broaches the subject without hurting a gay guy who is either overly sensitive or who may only be interested in relationship sex.

You could then go into detail about the type of guy that you would be interested in doing it with. This is oftentimes how men draw closer to each other verbally. Good luck.

 

[conrad]

If your roommate is a normal decent sort of guy, I think you are pretty safe in telling him that you find him sexually attractive.

To hear that from a friend is a boost to any guy's ego. And, if he is very sure about his gayness, he should also be open to frank talk from and with you.

Be prepared to discover that you are not quite as straight as you think you are. Are you prepared for that?

 

[GaymerLOL]

I would ask him, what's the worst that could happen?

 

[traveler1111]

don't shit where you eat.

 

[innocentbychoice]

Gay people are not generally offended by dicks at least from what I am reading here it is not offensive to whip it out if that is expected. lol On the contrary it seems more than welcomed for some.

But to people with feelings and higher hopes than a quick "O"... this is not going to work. If I am reading you right, you want a gay sexual experience, not a gay romantic one. Consider what each is, and what your roommate is like as a human... not as a gay man (meaning that not every gay man wants just sex despite the majority of pornos).

You might find it more exciting to try this on a straight buddy, then you'll both be sure to keep it quiet and no feelings will be hurt... well... better make it a best buddy. lol

RRiiight cuz telling a straight guy to blow you will end better than telling a gay guy . This isn't porn, you said it yourself lol.

 

[bangthisbi]

I think you should open the door by asking him if you can give him a blowjob, but I'll accept your approach. Let's test it out. Would any of you guys like to pretend to be my roommate and give me a blowjob? I'll gladly return the favor.

All kidding aside, it really depends on the relationship you have with him. If he's just a guy you split bills with, leave it alone. If he's a good friend, you might be all over each other before you know it. Either way, you're in better shape than I ever was. I never had a roommate that even had me thinking about blowjobs.

Good luck.

 

[Yves Grey]

I am gay, and I had a gay roommate. If you had asked me if I wanted to play around and trade blowjobs, it would have been offensive because I was pretty up front about wanting more than that in life. If you had asked him, however, he would probably have been deepthroating you before you could finish asking the question.

So, it depends on your roommate. What does he like? Is he a relationship guy, or does he think it is fun to have fun and then move on?

If you don't know the answer to that question, then you shouldn't start out with questions about blowjobs. But you could bring up the subject of sex and relationships in general and see where it goes from there. The conversation might go nowhere, or it might go straight to your bed.

Totally agreed.

If it's sex you're interested in, and not a relationship, then I would certainly be forthright with that. Sex builds bonds based on expectations. Don't leave ambiguity if you clearly understand your desire. Certainly don't play him.

I would also make a point to emphasize that it is a suggestion, and that you do not hold him to any expectations.

If honest in saying so, you might tell him that you respect him and would be more comfortable trusting him with your body than a stranger. Honesty such as this can be very profound and very moving, so don't abuse the powerful effect it can have.

You could even let him lead, show you the secret garden as it were. Just be sure to make it clear that both of you have the power to say "Stop" at any time for any reason, and honor your word.

This seems like a business exchange. Maybe make an arrangement. And honor your word. If it is not for you, then at least you show you have integrity, and I'm sure that he will respect that, up to and including any boundaries that you wish to set in the wake of your exchange.

It never does to make enemies, so respect him and show some flexibility, even when things go south. Humans are at their most dangerous when robbed of their dignity.

Remember that feelings associated with sex can deeply affect a relationship if they curtail communication. Don't withdraw. Get it off your chest. If it really weirded you out in the end, say so. But own it. Don't put it on him. Remember you were the one who initiated this.

Don't worry too much about it. I'm sure you have the maturity and intelligence to navigate the situation: Have courage! I hope you learn a little more about yourself! We all have such a long way to go, and I'm thrilled to see that you wish to grow! That is worth so much!