Straight friend only hangs out with gay guys

[Adam2299]

I have a friend who is straight, but claims he likes hanging out with gay guys more than straight guys. I have a big group of gay friends, and he's always with us whenever we go to parties or just hang out. There's nothing wrong with this... he's a really cool guy and everyone loves him. But I find it odd that he ONLY hangs out with gay males. I know he's definitely attracted to girls, but sometimes (once in a blue moon) he'll do something that makes us suspicious (example: agree to make out with my gay friend on a dare). But he claims he's definitely not gay.

My friends and I are all planning a trip for spring break (10 gay guys) and he wants to come with us... of course we're all for it (he's pretty cute actually)... but some of us have been talking lately about how strange it is. Not strange in a bad way, just kinda weird/uncommon.

Any thoughts?

 

[Theyoungman]

I have no idea...

 

[CaptainJohn]

Why question a good thing?

 

[CrackerJack]

I have no idea, but just some food for thought... I would guess that he actually is indeed straight. I say this because, well, who is more open to "coming out" than a bunch of gay guys? If his circle of friends were some All American WASPy testosterone fueled red staters who wanted nothing to do with gays, he would have a good reason to claim to be straight, and to do everything he could to hide his identity. He has nothing to hide when all of his friends are gay, and in fact is making it harder on himself (he is the minority, and also won't be able to get any sex out of you guys...).

 

[screwnutty]

Maybe he's secure in his sexuality and it doesn't bother him one bit that your all gay? There are guys like that out there!

 

[Green_Man_007]

I have a friend who is straight, but claims he likes hanging out with gay guys more than straight guys.....

Any thoughts?

I would say that most of his straight friends have always been jackasses, in contrast to gay guys who've been hip, funny, and considerate. Making it a matter of judgement based on his own experiences, though, could be over-simplifying.

On the other hand, it could be over-complicating to suggest that since males tend to be competitive by nature, his primal instincts tell him the advantage of hanging out with gay guys who he wouldn't have to fight for the attention of girls.

My "straight boyfriends" have all been a little of both.

Mostly, though, we just loved each other (as friends) for who we are.

 

[star-warrior]

You have a one in a million guy there. He's comfortable being with you and your mates, and having fun. Don't let your suspicions of him cloud a good thing. He may just find you lot outrageous and fun so wanna be with your 'gang'.

 

[tallguy297]

Mate...why does it matter?

He sounds like a great friend...and you sound like you have an amazing group of friends. Just treasure these guys Adam...gay str8 or bi...you cant have too many good friends. And it seems to me he's already figured this bit out for himself....hes sees you guys as his mates...no matter of anything else. Thats a great thing!

And one day if your suspicions are proved will it matter?

 

[Adam2299]

Yea, I'm not saying it's a bad thing or there's anything wrong with him, I'm just wondering how realistic it is that he's actually straight... we all think it's kind of odd.... But hey, he's my friend and I guess it doesn't really matter. Just thought I'd see what you all think anyway.

 

[Soilwork]

honestly, I'd hate it if a straight guy was always tagging along with me and my gay friends.

Sometimes the homos need a little Homo-alone time too.

If he really is a fag stag, well, that's what he is.

 

[FirePhoenix]

I don't really see anything wrong with it. I would think it would be good from his point of view, maybe he is just more comfortable around you guys since he gets along with you. Besides that he is also the only straight one so if there is a cute girl he likes he won't have to worry about competition from you guys and he doesn't (I would hope not) have to worry about being all butch or straight acting around you guys for fear of being called gay when he isn't and he can just be himself. If he is straight or gay it shouldn't really matter though right?

 

[kurtwild]

its easy,your friend is gay.

 

[Christopher123]

its easy,your friend is gay.

Oh stop it, lol.

Just because a guy hangs out with gay men it doesn't mean he's gay himself.



Sorry, dude, I had to do it!

 

[Blue_Eyed_Boi]

Hmmmm...a good reason why is that maybe being around gay guys makes him most comfortable. After all, being around straight guys who tend to act all macho and competitive, he may feel like he has to do the same.

What I think is that he may be sensitive, and being around gay guys makes him feel like he could be himself more. Like share his feelings. Kinda like what Channing Tatum's character did in She's the Man. Since gay guys (a lot of them) tend to be understanding and would not judge.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I can see a very good point in asking this question to start with.

What makes str8 dudes str8 is not what they say but how they behave. Believe it or not, str8 dudes get together and they talk pussies and boobs. They are devising plans how to get laid ASAP with as little trouble and expense as possible.

Nope, hanging out with gay dudes does not make anyone gay. But it does say that he, most probably, does not fit too well with his str8 peer group for whatever the reason may be.

In other words, having lots of gay friends and hanging out with them is fine and shows that a dude is open-minded.

Having lots of gay friends and hanging out only with them deserves a closer scrutiny and most likely indicates that he has got his own unresolved issues. (Not necessarily as in 'Gay or Str8').

SC