"Straight" guy I met on Craigslist

[hunngs]

i love to see his pic... sorry it didn't work out for u man, seems like the guy is still pretty "straight"

 

[theherdy]

Man, that sucks bro. But I'd love to see what he looks like. Makes your story that much hotter.

 

[iluvbrent]

I guess this all depends on your definition of masculine but from my experience, most gay guys have qualities that can tell you they're gay. The ones that don't are rare.

You've probably answered your own question, he might be what you classify them as rare. Even though you don't need to act gay to be gay.

 

[columbusboi]

He was completely straight in his characteristics. He was 29, muscular, good looking, tattoos, facial hair and didn't carry himself like a stereotypical gay guy at all.<<< I've met a lot of gay men with the aforementioned characteristics....just my two cents

 

[seven_sins]

dude, could you change your avatar?

i had a hard time reading your post because the bloody image can't be ignored...

I agree. It turns my stomach.

 

[GimmeADolla85]

Honestly, is there really a problem that you're having?

You're having a fling with some hot, " straight guy " whose probably/sorta/maybe/kinda/could be into you.

Good for you.

Most of us ( average looking bi/gay guys - the majority of the fucking gay/bi community ) don't even get to square one.

You have to respect that he doesn't want a relationship with a guy. But if you feel you deserve more with this guy, give it a shot. The worst he can do, is break it off. Than you'll just be a sad panda.

 

[Rex]

Honestly, is there really a problem that you're having?

You're having a fling with some hot, " straight guy " whose probably/sorta/maybe/kinda/could be into you.

Good for you.

Most of us ( average looking bi/gay guys - the majority of the fucking gay/bi community ) don't even get to square one.

You have to respect that he doesn't want a relationship with a guy. But if you feel you deserve more with this guy, give it a shot. The worst he can do, is break it off. Than you'll just be a sad panda.

Well that brings me to another point.

Two days ago he IMed me at 3:30am. He invited me over and I sure as hell wasn't going to pass it up. This was the best time I had with him by far. We had great sex, talked for a long time. Obviously he still doesn't trust me completely because when he calls me he still calls in private but I feel a friendship with him. He likes sex but we talked about kissing and he said he wouldn't kiss a guy and doesn't even like kissing girls unless he's been in a long relationship with him. He says he isn't attracted to guys but likes sex with them better than with girls. I don't know how true that is because I can't see how someone could be drawn to having sex with a guy if they weren't attracted to them. Something I'm going to talk to him about more one day.

Again, he's currently broken up with his girlfriend and could get back with her sometime soon so I'm enjoying the time I have with him for now. After we hooked up we went to a diner by his house. I really had a good time. I viewed pictures on his phone and he viewed them on mine. We got to talking about family, friends, goals, bisexuality, etc. He is really a cool guy. Very rough edge to him and has that bad boy rebel attitude but I know he's a good guy. I can talk to him, we joke with each other, even make racial jokes to each other. At one point he suggested a threesome with a girl I know. Not going to happen though because I'm not gonna share him with that slut.

I think we're comfortable with each other but I'm not going to get my hopes up about a relationship. I just hope we keep in touch. The thing I'm worried about is I'm obviously more into him than he is into me. I have some deep feelings for him and I think he just views me as a friend with benefits but we become a little closer everytime we hook up, which has been four times now.

. Meh... I guess I can't have my cake and eat it too but the sex with him is the best ever. That son of a bitch.

 

[GimmeADolla85]

Well that brings me to another point.

I have some deep feelings for him and I think he just views me as a friend with benefits but we become a little closer everytime we hook up, which has been four times now.

Of course, I don't know your situation ( or the guy you're fucking - because if I did, I would totally swipe the bastard ) but I personally don't think you're just a " fuck buddy " or " friends with benefits " type with this guy. It sounds like, he's developing some comfort inside and is starting to rethink how he perceives his sexual attraction/relationships with men and women.

I remember when I myself didn't want to be identified solely as gay ( now, I kind of don't have a problem with it, although I still prefer being un-labeled ) and it took a lot of inner conflict for me to figure out my place sexually. That is still going on to this day.

Now I'm not saying you're turning this guy gay. I'm sure he won't agree with me. But YOU'RE AT A START!

Just kidding.

 

[Rex]

LOL what do you mean "swipe the bastard"?

 

[ziyingoliver]

I'd love to see his looking could u send me his pic please?
and Good luck to you, wish someday he would kiss u from heart

 

[Rex]

http://www.villagevoice.com/2008-07-29/columns/straight-men-who-have-sex-with-men/

Read this article and tell us what you think. It's probable that he really is straight and is merely looking for intimacy with other men. DON'T make the mistake of saying "well he's got a dick in his mouth, of course he's gay." That's really simple-minded. Human sexuality is very complicated and you can't easily pigeon hole some men.

And regarding the whole gay=feminine debate, don't be naive. Yes, of course there are a lot of gay men who are masculine and "straight-acting." But they are in the minority and it would be ridiculous to say otherwise, and in denial of science. Studies have proven that gay men have brains more similar to womens' than to other straight men. To deny that most gay men seem "gay" is just self hating and perpetrating our culture's ingrained homophobia. What is wrong with a guy with a lisp or some feminine mannerisms? Why do you have to turn them into the some hated myth?

Personally, I am more attracted to "straight" seeming men, and I pass as straight often. But I have certain mannerisms that I used to hate and try to get rid of, but I have learned to accept them. They are a part of me.

I read the article and I don't buy any of that shit. Even if you aren't attracted to the guy, a man who has a desire to suck dick and enjoying doing it is bi at the very least. How the hell can you debate that?

The more I talked to this guy I can sense that he isn't 100% comfortable with the fact that he's bi. He's asked me if I ever came out to people and I can tell he's in fear or being outed, which is why I'm sure he prefers to only call me in private over the phone. He's told me he enjoys the sex with men better than with women so no doubt in my mind that he's bi. I just don't buy the "I'm not attracted to men" thing. If you had a desire to have sex with a man there must have been some attraction there.

Gay4Pay however is a whole different ballpark.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

http://www.villagevoice.com/2008-07-29/columns/straight-men-who-have-sex-with-men/

Read this article and tell us what you think. It's probable that he really is straight and is merely looking for intimacy with other men. DON'T make the mistake of saying "well he's got a dick in his mouth, of course he's gay." That's really simple-minded. Human sexuality is very complicated and you can't easily pigeon hole some men.

And regarding the whole gay=feminine debate, don't be naive. Yes, of course there are a lot of gay men who are masculine and "straight-acting." But they are in the minority and it would be ridiculous to say otherwise, and in denial of science. Studies have proven that gay men have brains more similar to womens' than to other straight men. To deny that most gay men seem "gay" is just self hating and perpetrating our culture's ingrained homophobia. What is wrong with a guy with a lisp or some feminine mannerisms? Why do you have to turn them into the some hated myth?

Personally, I am more attracted to "straight" seeming men, and I pass as straight often. But I have certain mannerisms that I used to hate and try to get rid of, but I have learned to accept them. They are a part of me.

You are right, human sexuality is complex. However, these men are actively seeking other men for sex. There are plenty of female hos, whores, sluts, etc. who will willingly have no strings attached sex.

The scientific studies have been performed between gay men and straight men are questionable.

 

[Rex]

Today I broke things off with him.

I told him I liked him too much and couldn't do it anymore because he just wanted no strings sex. I'll probably regret it but it seemed like the right thing to do. Damn..

 

[Rex]

And now some two hours later I sent him a message saying I changed my mind. What the fuck is wrong with me?

 

[StillWaters24592]

So what happened? Did you guys ever see each other again?

 

[GoodbyeSobriety]

dude, could you change your avatar?

i had a hard time reading your post because the bloody image can't be ignored.

i hope i'm not sounding too confrontational. i'm just being honest. it's a real stomach turner and unless the photo is changed i'd have to think about revisiting this thread again.

What the fuck?

 

[Telstra]

And now some two hours later I sent him a message saying I changed my mind. What the fuck is wrong with me?

did you get back together and had fun again ?