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Kalakoa said:
I think I've fallen for a straight guy. we both work out at the renaissance festival and have quite a bit in common. the problem is, he's 3 years older and I rarely get to talk to him without it being awkward. I have a problem speaking to people I don't know well, but I would really like to become at least friends with him. Any advice? how can I tell if he's gay, because there are pictures of him kissing guys on his facebook.
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Don't focus and worry on what to say--that will make you more uncomfortable as you try to say the "right" thing. Instead, just try to get to know him. Talk with him about the things that interest you both. Think of him as a potential friend first. Figure out something he might like to do, and ask him if he'd like to hang out some time. If it doesn't progress beyond friendship, then you have at least gained practice in striking up conversations with someone you like. If it doesn't even become a friendship, well then, you haven't lost anything, and you can still count it as practice.
 
i think everyone falls for the straight guy some time or another, i find that happening to me all the friggin time :(

just be natural with him, if he really is straight he wouldnt want to do anything with you i guess
 
You work together. That gives you a lot of common ground. There are tons of things to talk about in that situation.

"This weekend's weather is perfect/awful to perform in."
"I don't ever want to taste, smell, or see another turkey leg as long as I live."
"Don't Puke & Snot totally piss you off?"

If you can turn the conversation more personal, that's even better.

"How many festivals have you worked?"
"Your costume looks really cool. Did you get it here?"
"You planning on coming back next year?"

Get to know more people there. RenFest folks tend to be a big happy family (for the most part), and a lot of people know a lot of other people. "I saw this big guy talking and laughing with Fred. Is that his boyfriend?"

Lex
 
As an earlier suggestion ran, go for it on the assumption it will be a friendship. Don't push too hard after that.

Beware that some guys fall into this cycle trap: if you find this happening repeatedly, I'd seek some counseling to sort out the issues.
 
If he's working at a renfest, how the hell can he be straight?
 
>>>If he's working at a renfest, how the hell can he be straight?

A good friend of mine worked RenFests for several years. I asked "What percentage of guys working RenFests are gay?" His answer, "Oh, maybe 1%. It's not like theater."

Lex
 
How can you tell if he's gay? Ask him. That's the best way to find out. Given that you are shy, I doubt you will actually do that.

Plan B, start dropping hints to him that you are gay. Talk about going bar "X" (insert name of well known gay bar). Say something like "Hey did you see that hot guy?" Tell him that the picture of him kissing guys on Facebook is hot. How he reacts should give you a clue.

As far as talking to him, just be yourself. Don't try to be something you are not. Talk about work related items, bring up school, cars or whatever. Just look for anything you have in common with him and discuss it. Remember, if you don't take a risk, you won't get the reward.
 
I think if you can comfortably snog a guy you probably have some atraction to them making him probably curious, but then I havn't snogged anyone I wasn't atracted to, so I cant understand how someone can snog someone without an atraction.
 
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