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Struggling to Let Go

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I have a feeling this is going to sound really stupid and clingy, but so had to write it down somewhere.
I met a guy, about four years ago now, and he was the first guy I ever dated. Geeky, adorable, lovely voice, everything I look for in a guy. We went on a couple of dates, but he lived far away and our schedules wouldn't line up so we called it off. I got on with my life, had another relationship in the meantime, but this guy was the only guy I've ever seen myself with, and we'd go back to each other every now and then, and it would be flirty but nothing serious.
Then, we properly got back in contact during the UK lockdown, and we had some Skype dates, constantly texting and as it's coming to an end, I decided to ask if he wanted another physical date. This is where he properly rejected me, saying he doesn't want to properly date as he intends to leave the country in the next year or so, but didn't know how to tell me until now. He apologised for stringing me along on online dates for the past nine months, saying he never expected ourphysical dates to be a thing due to leaving and lockdowns. Any usual rejection or dumping, I'm fine with, I get over it,but I cannot seem to get over this guy. He's the only guy I have seen myself seriously with, or having a future with, it feels like he's strung me along (although I likely just got too attached) and I don't know how to let go and feel better again. I know this sounds weird and immature, but I'd just like some form of advice or someone to tell me I'm an idiot for clinging on or something
 
In my opinion you answered your own question >>>
(although I likely just got too attached)
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Calling it a rejection isn't helping you either.
I would refer to it as a practical response since you, likely, wouldn't be moving anyway.
Surely you are not an idiot.
You are a being with emotions.......don't knock yourself out.
 
You seem to have some chemistry with this guy but it seems to be headed more toward the friend zone.

The real question seems to be, "Can you be friends with this guy or is it going to be too difficult to be 'just friends'?".

In the end, those are your choices: keep a friend or make a clean break by your own choice. This guy doesn't seem to want anything more and he's limited your choices to those two options.
 
From the looks of it it sounds like you had a nice time with this guy and towards the end it sounded like more of a friendship. If you think you have something about this guy maybe you should try and talk to him and tell him what you think about him and see where it goes
 
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