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DarthWufei

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So I've recently graduated from the, I'm lonely and never meet anyone stage, to going on rather frequent dates and having experiences. Yay?

Yeah, but I'm already stuck and frustrated. I've been on a lot of dates and hook ups over the past few months. However none of the dates have turned into any sort of second chances. I've yet to have a second date offered, or had me asking for one go through.

I'm guessing this is pretty common, I don't expect to fall in love in a day, never have. However, it seems like when things hit it off I read things in the wrong manner and just feel like shit when I get the drop afterward. How can I cope with that? It's not that I exactly get emotionally attached to people, well I do, but it's just reading into something that isn't there.

Maybe I'll just get used to it I dunno...
 
well,i wouldn't be the one to talk since my experience on dates is not the best.but if maybe you're tired of dating,that could be perceived in your attitude by the guys you date,if they agree to date it's because they have expectations as well as you,so i don't think it's common that they drop you often as you say,i'm not saying there's something wrong with you,but you should try to analize if maybe there is something you are doing or not doing.

you can't just get tired of it i mean,if you really want to meet someone you gotta put yourself out there,maybe try not to expect much,just enjoy yourself and your companion,it's easier and healthier that way.

good luck ^^
 
Well, thanks for responding. I don't ever give off the impression that I'm tired of dating I don't think. I enjoy meeting people. I am however rather tired of the games people play when they can't just be honest and upfront about themselves.

I dunno, I'm already feeling better. I'm going to just try and look at future dates differently. Fuck the first date, I'll get worked up wen we've had several.
 
Well, at least you've had dates. I'm in an even worst of place. I'm not out and the only place I can discuss my sexuality is here online. Which is quite pathethic.

It's a little easy to be sucked into, what I call, an emotional quicksand. You start thinking how lonely you are, and before long you're depressed and all those negative emotions start coming along. I just refuse to let myself even do that.

Wish you all the luck in the world in looking for your perfect one (I know I need a lot for it too).
 
DarthWufei said:
Fuck the first date, I'll get worked up wen we've had several.
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Do you mean you're gonna fuck on the first date? I'm confused... from my experience, if I get hanky panky with someone (not even fuck) on a first date, I never get to see him again.
 
Yeehaw said:
Do you mean you're gonna fuck on the first date? I'm confused... from my experience, if I get hanky panky with someone (not even fuck) on a first date, I never get to see him again.
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Haha, no, I just meant I'm not going to get worked up over the first date regardless. Also online meetups are the worst. I was talking with a guy the other night, we seemed to click online and setup a chance to meet the next day. I texted him, he didn't answer. Later he responded and said we'd go out the next day. So I texted him when I was free today and he never responded.

But I totally agree witht he fuck on the first date thing. I really try not to because those are generally the worst dates for me.
 
Frankly, people in their 20s do a lot of one nighters. Without much experience, it's easy to think "the next one will be better."

The fact is, though, only by each person putting in effort do you really reach a relationship: and that can be awesome (if also a bit short-lived, but you eventually realize long-term is much more fulfilling).

Date older guys or wait until you are older. In the meantime, learn from each date how to extend things a little more. Maybe you are taking it too seriously and that is scaring off people? But I don't want to blame you for what is a generality (yea, some young people have long-time relationships, but not many in the gay world -- or the straight, either).
 
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