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Okay, so I need some advice. I’m from a small town in Tennessee and I moved to what I consider the big city (Nashville, lol). Anyway, I have just come out to some of my new friends and they want to take me out to a gay bar in a week or so, but I have never been to a bar before, or even been drunk. I’m 21 and a virgin in every possible way. :P I have no idea what to expect. I’m a very shy, introverted person so if anyone has any advice for someone like me, then by all means, please dish it out!
 
Relax and just have some fun. There will probably be some guys that will hit on you and want to take you home that night. If you're not interested, just politely tell them no thanks. Don't expect to be lucky enough to find a boyfriend on your first visit to a bar.

If you have visions that the bars will be some wild place, they aren't. You will just find some guys having a few drinks, talking, dancing, playing pool, etc. The most outrageous thing you will probably see is a drag show, if you pick a bar that has them. There are a lot of good gay bars in Nashville, so go out and have some fun. If you don't like the first one, try another.
 
Try this.

1. Turn the lights off in your room.
2. Put on some club hit - anything with the words "so-and-so Club Mix" in parentheses after the title will work.
3. Turn up the volume really loud.
4. Water down a cola a bit, and put it in a small glass with ice.
5. Imagine a ton of other people around, a few dancing, some talking, most looking around nervously.

You're now in a gay club. :)

I'd sugget a few things. One, if you have them, bring earplugs. I've found them to be godsends. Secondly, pick your limit. If you've never been drunk, this may not be the best time to start. If you know you can drink one or two OK, make that your limit - and do NOT go over it. Don't let anyone "buy you a drink" and feel you HAVE to drink it. Dissuade them if you see them trying, and if they do, say you appreciate the gesture (be polite and friendly), but tell them you can't drink anymore. And stick with that. Thirdly, be open and friendly. Look for people who appear to be alone, and go introduce yourself.

And have a good time, damnit. :)

Lex
 
Just some tips for the gay clubs:

1. Most likely the music will be loud; talking to people will be difficult if not impossible.

2. If you want to "fit in" but don't want to get drunk, switch to a red bull on ice or just drink plain cranberry juice. Both can be put in a glass like a mixed drink so you won't feel out of place. A lot of times I may have one or two alcohol drinks but I have the bartenders just give me the red bull or cranberry from the bar.

Depending on the night of the week, there may be just a few guys in the bar. Mingle, talk if you can, and perhaps meet some new friends. I've been to many of the straight bars when I was speaking in Nashville (and was taken out by people at the conferences); I've not been to the gay district.

Enjoy yourself!
 
Just drunk as much as you can... but when you get too dizy stop drinking . I would suggest 2 shots of bacardi 151 and a long island iced tea. Most important just be yourself and you will have a blast!! that is how i party.. If you have never been drunk your real personality comes out and you cant control what you say or do.. That is why it is so much fun!
 
i don't plan on meeting anyone new yet. i just want to hang out with some of my new friends... will that be too hard to do in a club? Also, did i mention I can't dance :P

Also, I think they plan on trying to sneak someone in with my id first and then they will bring it back out to me so I can get in, but I said no. If I cave in will they destroy the id if they see it isn't his? I'm not going to let them use it anyway...
 
You'll probably have no problem hanging out with your friends; it will also give you lots of cover to scope out the other guys that are there and decide if any pursuing should be done!

As to the ID... if they catch it they will probably cut it up at best; they can call the police at worse. Also, they may ban you from the club as well if they find you coming in right after. I wouldn't suggest if you are going to a club that you share your ID; most door guys are pretty good at spotting the same name or other items, particularly if it is not busy or long lines...

As to dancing....just watch and see if you can copy. Unless it is two-step, you can probably pick up dancing. Seriously, watch and go home and practice in front of a mirror. Yes, there will probably be some great dancers but many times they have had professional training. Don't be intimidated!
 
Yeah, no real advice other than have fun :) but don't over drink. Having your new friends take care of you probably wont be too fun. But positive and not shy about declining drinks (even from your friends). If you look weak then they'll keep trying to persuade you.

Also, have you heard of Lexington, TN? It's a little south east of Jackson, TN. That's where I'll be moving in about a month.
 
>>>Also, have you heard of Lexington, TN?

No relation. :)

Yeah, tell them your ID is your ID, and nobody gets to touch it but you and the door man.

Lex
 
Relax yourself be as social as possible ane enjoy going somewhere where no one knows you.
 
Don't get drunk, don't let him use your ID.
 
It isn't written that you have to get Drunk to have fun ... in fact; you'd probably enjoy yourself more sober .
Don't do ANYTHING that YOU are not comfortable doing ....
I use to get the waiter/waitress the first thing and tell them that no matter what I ordered .. to bring me ginger ale with fruit on the side and a cherry ... then at the end of the evening , before leaving ..I'd go over and hand her/him a $20 .... more or less depending on how long I was there ..
 
Like everyone else said, don't go to a bar to get drunk. While this might have been what everyone did where you came from in Bumfuck, Tennessee, it is just not the thing to do when you are out in big town society.

...and do not do any drugs when you are out on the town.

This is not to say that you shouldn't have drinks....but know when you've reached your limit. Once you've gotten the feel for the land, you'll relax. Enjoy.

...oh and take condoms with you, just in case....oh and write your address on a card to give to a cab driver just in case you ignore the part about drinking and drugs.
 
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