Sudden Loss of Libido?

[Ghat1969]

I'm 28 years old. Since late December, my libido hasn't been as strong as before. This sudden decrease happened in late December. Normally, a few days after ejaculating, I tend to wake up with a strong morning wood and that would kind of prevent me from having a good night sleep. Now, two weeks can pass and I don't wake up as horny as before and end up sleeping well. The "build up" isn't happening anymore. During the afternoon and evening, it's like I no longer have any sexual desires. Watching porn can help me have an erection, but as soon as I stop watching it, I lose the desire and erection. The amount and quality of sperm I ejaculate is perfectly normal as before.

Interestingly, I noticed that this happened right after I had my second hookup with a guy, which it didn't go so well. It affected me for a day or two, but I got over it. I just sucked him a little and we touched each other, but it ended quickly. The decrease wasn't something that happened gradually.

I don't take medications, no drugs, no smoking, no alcohol. I admit that I'm in the worst time period of my life that I've ever been, but it definitely hasn't reached to a depression level. I'm still an overall happy person, but kind of stressed and let's just say, constantly sad/disappointed.

I thought maybe it's the winter season, and maybe I have lower levels of Vitamin D. I read that Vit D can increase libido, so I have been taking Vit D supplement for the past few days, but still no change.

I thought I should first hear your suggestions before I see a doctor and embarrass myself. Thanks!

 

[kallipolis]

I admit that I'm in the worst time period of my life that I've ever been, but it definitely hasn't reached to a depression level. I'm still an overall happy person, but kind of stressed and let's just say, constantly sad/disappointed.

It's likely to be a mild version of depression arising from whatever is causing your "

I'm in the worst time period of my life that I've ever been,"

Deal effectively with the causation of your current anxiety issues, and you will notice an improvement in your libido.

Keep taking the Vitamin D, and try to introduce fish into your daily diet. Fresh fruit also assists.

 

[sixthson]

Lots of people have cycles with sexual energy and interest. I'm sure you have had times where you were horny all the time. This might just be the other end of the cycle, don't you think? Other than what you described as mild depression, are you going through a particularly busy time with your career or schooling? Either way, it is only a short period of time since this has happened, don't let it become an obsession where it causes further problems.

 

[KaraBulut]

The first thing you should do is see your doctor for a physical. It's important to rule out an underlying health issue- such as an endocrine imbalance, although health issues tend to come on slowly and over a period of time.

Once a physical cause is eliminated, then that leaves more psychological issues, such as stress or depression. Your doctor can help with those, too.

 

[Benvolio]

Watching porn for a while will raise your testosterone level. Don't jack off every day, but raising your T level will help you feel better and return your libido

 

[Ghat1969]

I've never really had different cycles when it comes to sexual energy and interest. If it's due to "mild depression," is it normal that it happened all of a sudden? I've been this way for at least 6 months. Shouldn't libido decrease gradually if it's psychological?

 

[kallipolis]

I've never really had different cycles when it comes to sexual energy and interest. If it's due to "mild depression," is it normal that it happened all of a sudden? I've been this way for at least 6 months. Shouldn't libido decrease gradually if it's psychological?

It really depends on the circumstances that are generating your anxiety. It could be that the causation has gradually evolved to where your depression is beginning to create the loss of libido that you are referencing here.

Diet is an important factor when dealing with depression issues. You were correct to begin supplementing with vitamin D. Vitamin B complex will also assist you. Better that you source your vitamins from food. Patience, and a willingness to deal with the issues that are causing your heightened anxiety will pay off.

I would not be over concerned with your current libido issues preferring that you address the reasons for your anxiety, with a willingness to resolve those matters, so that eventually your libido issues will correct themselves.

 

[KaraBulut]

I've never really had different cycles when it comes to sexual energy and interest. If it's due to "mild depression," is it normal that it happened all of a sudden? I've been this way for at least 6 months. Shouldn't libido decrease gradually if it's psychological?

It's true that depression does tend to have a slower onset (in the absence of a tragic event like a death of someone close to you). However, depression is also really hard to notice sometimes- it may not be until it begins to affect your day-to-day life that it becomes apparent that something is wrong. Loss of libido would be one of those changes that would be the point where you know that something is wrong.

Six months is a long time. You should see your doctor and ensure that there's not something physically wrong.

 

[Ghat1969]

I thought I should give an update. I saw a doctor regarding the loss of libido. I had a blood test done. Everything was normal, including testosterone level. The only deficiency I had was vitamin D level, which is very low (18ng/ml). I've been taking 800iu of vit D every day for the past 2 months, which kinda helped. I recently started taking it with meal (before I used to take it with breakfast), and I noticed a significant improvement. Now, the doctor has prescribed 10 000 iu once per week. I will take another test in three months. Lack of vit D might also explain some of the hair loss I've been experiencing and back pain, though I don't know for sure.

I thought that the Vit d was needed to produce testosterone, but turns out the latter is at a normal level.

 

[KaraBulut]

The doctor should have also told you that the vitamin D also needs a brief exposure to sunlight to activate it to full potential. For fair skinned people, about 10 mins without a shirt on is usually enough sunlight (it may require more for dark-skin or if you live in far north/south latitudes).

Sunlight also benefits some people who have seasonal depression.