... superior to you just because your gay

[yehme2]

I hate feeling like this. I have gone though what everyone her has about accepting my sexuality. After year of going through shit and finally coming out of the dark clouds I am now finding myself going through what i have been through already. I am fine with being bi or gay or whatever but its the people who know now are the ones with the problem this has reflected on me now and now im finding myself becoming down about it all.

One of my close friends who i havent told said that if he had a gay son he would disown him.

Another friend who knows about my sexuality said that I could never ever get over or deal with being gay (for no reason).

A 3'rd friend went and told everyone and thinks its all a big joke.

I hate how people think they are superior to you just because your gay. I think it reflects the type of people they are. But once everyone around me acts like this i can not help but feel down and the saddest part is that I have accepted myself, its a shame some havent

Its like everytime they see me happy they try to bring me down and i dont let it get to me but... I like my friends but they all seem like such cocks sometimes.

I dont want to ruin relationships over this because i truly like my friends but this shit got to stop, how can i do this?

 

[swerve]

You're 100% correct when you said that it "reflects the type of people they are" -- but having said this -- have you ever challenged or discussed their bigoted statements with them??? I suspect that they just say those things "off the cuff" without actually realizing how they might sound...

The friend that said he would disown a gay son -- well, you wouldn't have to be open with your sexuality to discuss that bizarre statement...

ULTIMATELY, it may boil down to how YOU feel about yourself...

PERSONALLY, I feel SPECIAL (in a good way) to be gay -- like it was a BLESSING or something...

OK -- I'm rambling -- but, in the future, DEFINITELY don't let statements like those go unchallenged -- force your friends to THINK a little bit about what they're actually saying...

SINCE I'm not that great on advice -- HOPEFULLY someone SMARTER will post here soon...

 

[TX-Beau]

(For all you southerners out there fair warning, immanant deployment of a "Sugar.")

Sugar, I understand, but that is not the best way to go about getting sympathy. Your life is yours, and you have to step up and deal with it. If these people are making you feel this bad, why are you still associating with them?

You can choose to change things, you just have to want to.

 

[Kennylingus]

Sweetie there's a cure for that situation.
It's called sarcasm. Throw it out at them whenever they have anything to say. It make take some time with the stuborn ones.

 

[Enigma63]

you need new friends

 

[sabot3ur]

don't be afraid to ruin relationships over this, your happiness is at stake!

be arrogant, be confident. you'll either change their minds or they'll be left behind.

 

[andy12]

Its like everytime they see me happy they try to bring me down and i dont let it get to me but... I like my friends but they all seem like such cocks sometimes.

Sounds like you're around the wrong group of people.

I dont want to ruin relationships over this because i truly like my friends but this shit got to stop, how can i do this?

Tell them how this makes you feel. If they don't accept it, you don't have to accept being around them.

 

[Lube]

Yeah, what everyone else said, especially this:

don't be afraid to ruin relationships over this, your happiness is at stake!

be arrogant, be confident. you'll either change their minds or they'll be left behind.

Sometimes gay guys are worried about losing relationships, as you've said. But those relationships have to be worthwhile.

If these people are such assholes, why are you considering them friends?

Stand up to them! If they still don't get it, dump 'em. All of 'em!

 

[rareboy]

I hate how people think they are superior to you just because your gay. I think it reflects the type of people they are. But once everyone around me acts like this i can not help but feel down and the saddest part is that I have accepted myself, its a shame some havent

Its like everytime they see me happy they try to bring me down and i dont let it get to me but... I like my friends but they all seem like such cocks sometimes.

Well there's your problem. I've always felt that I was superior to the knuckledragging breeders because I was a homo. I have better taste, more interesting friends and way, way, more fun.

You only feel inferior because you let them treat you this way and seem to believe it yourself. You seem to convey a sort of resignation with your sexuality, not a celebration.

And trust me, if you let these dreary hangers on treat you like dirt, sac up there and dump them. They are the ones dragging you down to a lower level.

Get yourself a fabulous bf. Start dressing better and going out to the theatre and ballet. Make them envious for the love of Mary.

 

[Telstra]

I hate feeling like this. I have gone though what everyone her has about accepting my sexuality. After year of going through shit and finally coming out of the dark clouds I am now finding myself going through what i have been through already. I am fine with being bi or gay or whatever but its the people who know now are the ones with the problem this has reflected on me now and now im finding myself becoming down about it all.

One of my close friends who i havent told said that if he had a gay son he would disown him.

Another friend who knows about my sexuality said that I could never ever get over or deal with being gay (for no reason).

A 3'rd friend went and told everyone and thinks its all a big joke.

I hate how people think they are superior to you just because your gay. I think it reflects the type of people they are. But once everyone around me acts like this i can not help but feel down and the saddest part is that I have accepted myself, its a shame some havent

Its like everytime they see me happy they try to bring me down and i dont let it get to me but... I like my friends but they all seem like such cocks sometimes.

I dont want to ruin relationships over this because i truly like my friends but this shit got to stop, how can i do this?

Success is the best revenge.
Show them that you are more successful than them.

Spend less time with them and spend more time on what you want like looking for better friends ... etc.

 

[Lefty]

Next time Bone head says something stupid about disowning a gay son...

just ask in an inquiring voice with a confused look on your face......

"How do you disown yours and your partners DNA. Isn't that boy the amalgamation , the culmination, the very justification of your procreationist activities?"


Or, you can just look at him and say..."That is one of the stupidest fucking thing in a long list of stupid fucking things I've ever heard you say.


Personally, I would love to day the second but would probably pussy down and go with the first.



???????

 

[Nomenclature]

A 3'rd friend went and told everyone and thinks its all a big joke.

Next time he tells someone you're gay, say something like this:

"Just because I let him suck my dick, that doesn't mean I'M gay."


When dealing with assholes, you have to learn to be an asshole yourself. . .but preferably in a way that's funny, and will disarm them and make them look stupid. If at all possible, don't make it appear to them that you're threatened by what they say. Roll with the punches.

Regardless of whether you're gay or straight, you have to work very, very hard in life in order to gain respect. If you were to build a good, stable career for yourself, get a nice car/house or even get married (if applicable where you live), then people would be forced to have respect for you, even if they didn't like the fact that you're gay. Famous cases in point: Rosie O'Donnell, Ellen DeGeneres and Neil Patrick Harris.