The Big Risk (short story)

[Craiger]

First, welcome to JUB and the story forum. It sounds as though this person has captured your attention quite a bit. However, I wonder if he has given you as much information about himself as you have shared with him. He may have had similar experiences to yours and is able to give you a glimpse of what worked for him. How nice to meet someone that is interesting and, obviously, interested in you. Let us know how things progress.

Craiger

 

[Craiger]

Wow! Things did progress. I assume you had not told your parents about yourself. If that's the case, I can see why you were apprehensive about asking them. Did you know his age? I also assume you had seen each other during Internet chats otherwise his offer to hang out and meet your parents would have been really taking a risk. I'm very intrigued with your story.

Craiger

 

[Autolycus]

You have a very interesting tale to tell!

Please continue.

 

[andrew thomas]

Your experiences just match the name of the story. It is a big risk. you chat online with the guy for a while and will go to stay with him for 2 days. it is risk. After all you are ok I believe because you are writing the story now. I am interested to know what is next. look forward to your next chapter. thanks for sharing your experience with us.

 

[Craiger]

The reason for his not coming was basically logical, however I wonder how he was able to fix his phone to text you? Could there have been another reason he changed his mind? When you wanted to celebrate his birthday and your mom said she would rent a car for you and then reneged, that was deceitful. I would agree with him in standing up to your parents. I will say that since you are living under their roof, not knowing if you pay rent, you do have to abide by some of their rules. However, their rules should not govern how you live your life. Of course that is my opinion and I do not know your parents. It may very well be that their concern for your safety is their reasoning. The other question I would ask is have you seen him on Skype or some video chat? Photos are not always reliable especially over the internet. Questions, questions.....lol My mind is working overtime trying to second guess what is happening. So, keep going as the mystery needs to be solved.

Craiger

 

[Autolycus]

Yours is a compelling and sad story - we can but hope that your luck changes for the better...

 

[andrew thomas]

From what you wrote above I think you are a person very green and do not have much experience in life but you have determination. I suggest while you are looking for a job and try to get back on your feet you may want to open yourself up and try to connect to other people. give yourself more options and chance. I see you put so much hope on one person that you even had not meet yet just chat online or on the phone is a little too much don't you think. Just be careful. people can sweet talk anything over the phone but when you meet may be completedly another story. what happen if you meet him and he is not what you expect or you feel is not suitable to you then you will be very disappoint and hurt. This is my suggestion and other may not agreed with me. but at the end you need to think twice weight the consequences and to protect yourself. good luck on this journey.

 

[Craiger]

You spoke of losing your job because you had to go to the ER. I'm not sure where you live, however, I don't think it legal to fire someone over a health condition. Fortunately for you your friend was still supportive. And I also wonder if your parents are responding as they are because of your health condition. Even if this is the case, I feel they are going about it in such a way that it is driving you further and further away. Have you any friends or relatives that you could stay with until you get on your feet financially? I sense that the life with your parents seems rather toxic particularly since they will not allow you your freedom. I hope this all clears up and you gain the confidence you need to begin living your life as you desire. And, if things become so personal you do not want to post you can always PM any of us. We can be a very supportive bunch.

Craiger

 

[adt1988]

They didn't fire me for missing work, they couldn't I hadn't missed enough instead she railroaded me in a meeting where her and her friend were present. Its okay she ended up getting put on her final written warning because she fired me, I wrote to the corporation and explained how she was harassing me and after I got fired she received her warning. I really wish I had some friends or something to stay with to get out of this house but I don't. No my parents aren't really keeping me home cause of my health condition all it was my blood pressure was really low and I tried to get up to fast and had a seizure. It really is driving me farther away I already feel like I damaged my relationship with my parents. I am currently looking for 2 jobs so I can save up enough money and move to a big city like Boston or something. I've had people tell me that I should just take baby steps but I've been taking baby steps my whole life and I won't ever get anywhere if I don't just close my eyes trust myself and jump. I don't really have any clue if I can live on my own but I have to try or I won't ever be able to improve my life and move on.

 

[Craiger]

First, welcome to joining us at JUB. I saw before that you were a "guest."
As far as being able to live on your own, certainly you can. The first thing you should do after moving and finding a job is to establish a good support group with new friends. Look into a few gay organizations where you can meet others. Your desire to jump in there and witness an entirely new life is commendable. However, take time to assure meeting the right friends. You may even find some that need a roommate to help with finances. Good communications with those around you is necessary and have confidence in yourself. I know you will do well. Keep us informed on your progress.

Craiger