The guy I love is coming to my town...

[loverslover]

Hi everyone!
I'd like to have an advice...

Next month the guy I love is coming to my town...
He's a singer and I found a producer for his demo, so he'll be here to record a few songs.
He knows I love him, told me that he has a strong affection for me but doesn't love me...

Since there wouldn't be enough space in my town house, I was thinking of going to my shore house.
I'd like to create some special moments, try to conquer him and maybe sleep with him.
I had lots of ideas, like putting candles in the double room... But I think that anyone would get what my intentions are, arriving in a room prepared like that

He'll be here just for the weekend...
A friend suggested me to be explicit and told me that I shouldn't loose a minute (he thinks I should get inside his bed in the morning while he's still sleeping and stuff like that)...

I'm not sure it is the right thing to do... I'd like to respect him if he doesn't want to stay with me, without making his weekend a hell
On the other side I know I just have 48 hours to play my cards (I live in a island and it's hard to get here) and I'd like to do anything it's possible...

What would you suggest me?
What would you do if you were in me?
What kind of approach would you choose?

Thanks in advance for your help!

 

[G-Lexington]

I'd suggest that since he knows you're interested in him, and that he's made it plain that he "has a strong affection for you but doesn't love you"...

...that you leave him the fuck alone.

Lex

 

[Seasoned]

Does it matter to you if it's love or sex? Does it matter to him? Sex won't make him love you; it'll only make you long for him and get you that much closer to being a stalker.

 

[sixthson]

If you really love him, you wouldn't seduce him into something he doesn't want or isn't ready for.

 

[trikky]

Be careful man. The thing is this guy says he is affectionate for you but doesn't love you. Pushing things too far will result in two things, one, if you make him uncomfortable, his affection for you may quickly evaporate and secondly it will leave you pining after someone who will probably distance themselves from you totally. He has made his thoughts known so respect them and by all means make things special for his visit, but just know where the boundaries of affection end and I'm sure you'll be fine. If he feels comfortable with you because you respect his affectionate boundaries, there is more chance that his feeling may change later on, but maybe they won't. But that still seems the best way forward IMO

 

[TX-Beau]

There's a big difference between making things nice for a friend - which is what this guy has pretty clearly told you you are, and going way overboard in a creepy kind of stalkery way that's sure to send him running for the hills.

Climbing into his bed with him or other sexual advances that he doesn't want can be construed as sexual assault, and are in fact, illegal.

 

[G-Lexington]

But when you do make your move, please post here in full detail.

Lex

 

[texan_slant]

UM, why would you want to come on to him so strongly if he already says that he doesn't love you? If anything, finding you in his bed in the morning might send him running for the hills...

...though nothing ventured, nothing gained; just accept the risk of tensing up the friendship in doing so.

...oh, and just what G-Lex said - please keep us posted with the gory details!