The influence of mum or dad in a guy's bad behaviour or sexual outcome

[blubee]

I have been watching the influence of parents on friends behaviour, they do have a big influence. If the dad is absence or mean then he would look for
a male substitute. If the mother is mean then the son would be a woman hater or even a rapist to lash out his anger. What do you think?

 

[NotHardUp1]

Part of that is established psychology, but part of it is half-baked application with a broad brush. Instead of it being cause and effect, It's more accurate to consider that SOME men find surrogate father figures, which can include sexual behavior, and some rapists have had bad mothers.

The implications that absent fathers make boys become homosexual, or that mean mothers make boys become rapists is not valid.

Sexuality, including deviance, is too complex to be reduced to a redox equation. You don't simply add ingredients in a prescribed order and get a set result.

 

[rareboy]

There are hundreds of thousands of books and papers on this subject, dealing with Nature versus Nurture.

Why wouldn't having a mean mother not make a guy go out and look for a loving and kind mother substitute?

Why wouldn't a mean or absent father make a boy reject all male or father figures?

See the limitations of the logic you are trying to use?

 

[pat grimshaw]

I have been watching the influence of parents on friends behaviour...

You're right.

So many Pushy Moms push their teen age boys to get chemically castrated to become miniature versions of themselves.


Cf The "Prom Queen" at Homestead High School in Mequon Milwaukee

 

[rareboy]

^ Total load of horseshit as usual.

 

[nyctopgam]

People, including parents, think parents have more impact or influence on their children's orientation and other personality traits than they actually do.

 

[mcbrion]

There are hundreds of thousands of books and papers on this subject, dealing with Nature versus Nurture.

Why wouldn't having a mean mother not make a guy go out and look for a loving and kind mother substitute?

Why wouldn't a mean or absent father make a boy reject all male or father figures?

Because people seek what they are accustomed to, not what they are unaccustomed to. Personality is believed to be mostly formed by the age of 3. or even 5. And at that point, you simply repeat what was imprinted on you in the early years.
It is called the Imago, an unconscious pull towards what you learned in early life. And people don't know what a "kind substitute" looks like, much as the dog who is beaten by his master will cower when his next master reachers out to touch his head kindly. Sorry, but while what you are proposing is the ideal scenario, it is also not what happens in reality. Were that the case, there would be fewer gangs, because they'd have sought out positive influences. All too often, that's not how it turns out.

 

[peeonme]

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/05/men-older-brothers-gay_n_3873772.html

This link is interesting for those who still wonder about why some guys are gay.

 

[rareboy]

There are hundreds of thousands of books and papers on this subject, dealing with Nature versus Nurture.

Why wouldn't having a mean mother not make a guy go out and look for a loving and kind mother substitute?

Why wouldn't a mean or absent father make a boy reject all male or father figures?

Because people seek what they are accustomed to, not what they are unaccustomed to. Personality is believed to be mostly formed by the age of 3. or even 5. And at that point, you simply repeat what was imprinted on you in the early years.
It is called the Imago, an unconscious pull towards what you learned in early life. And people don't know what a "kind substitute" looks like, much as the dog who is beaten by his master will cower when his next master reachers out to touch his head kindly. Sorry, but while what you are proposing is the ideal scenario, it is also not what happens in reality. Were that the case, there would be fewer gangs, because they'd have sought out positive influences. All too often, that's not how it turns out.

What the OP is proposing is nonsense. It is the poppycock theory of why boys become homos.

The stats just do not support the hypothesis.

 

[peeonme]

You can have some truly bad parents and they will impact your life in some ways but a persons sexuality in my opinion is in you when you take your first breath.
Look at boys that come from good homes and then kill their parents and compare them with those who are neglected and abused and go on to be productive men, basically I think that we come hard wired.

 

[Cormac135]

More nonsense.