The Marvels of Silicone

[LotusOnBuddha]

My dilemma is multifaceted...

1. My current pec implant has shifted and is dented...i have to replace it

2. They no longer make my current implant which was a firm surgical plastic, my friend who is also my surgeon wants me to opt for a silicone mesh/gel that is more durable, and he wants me to increase the size.

3. The guy im dating has no idea i've had plastic surgery, and i know he feels strongly against plastic surgery.

So I was running and tripped smashing my chest into the pavement, i shifted and dented it. I'm sore and its super tender and i have to either have them both taken out and have my natural lack luster chest, or get the silicone gel ones. I wouldn't mind getting larger ones. My choice to get pec implants was wholly cosmetic, I simply wanted fuller pecs, that i couldnt seem to get from working out like a fiend. And i do love having them, clothes fit better.

Now the hard part, the guy im dating, for awhile now is very anti plastic surgery. I had mentioned i was seeing a plastic surgeon to redo some scars and he wigged out and that was months ago. So i'm sure he will not take kindly to knowing that under the muscle and flesh that he rests his head on, is not 100% beef. And i feel bad that i never told him. And i want to tell him, but i think he'll freak. OR that he'll tell me to just have them both removed. Or he'll ditch me for a organic model. And i really dont want that.

I've been thinking i could tell him I'm going to a conference or something for 2 weeks and lay low during the recovery. 2 of my friends that i've talked to both say "Its your body, why does he need to know?"

So what should i do, besides throw myself in front of the nearest speeding object?

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: The Marvel's of Silicone

Tell him the truth. You're in pain. You need to have the surgery to have your implant replaced.

Your boyfriend is entitled to his opinion about plastic surgery. He is not entitled to force his opinion upon you.

You haven't said much about your feelings toward your boyfriend or his feelings toward you.

Sometimes fate does you a favor in uncovering situations. On one hand, you've been keeing the truth from your boyfriend. On the other hand, your boyfriend is imposing his will upon you. And finally, you're in a relationship and you don't have certainty that someone will support you in your decision? And you're afraid that he will dump you?

Your relationship is about to be tested. But I have a feeling that either way, you will be better off.

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

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We have an awesome relationship in regards to everything else. THe sexy is good, he's a great guy...the best. NO one else makes me feel the way he does, his smile is like my prozac. But i know that this is not going to go over well.

As an update, he noticed the swelling and the slight deformity. I told him its from when i fell and that i have an appointment on monday.

He wants to go with me, so i'm going to call Seth ( my friend/surgeon), so he can help me tell my guy. Im thinking if its explained like...matter of fact nothing out of the normal, it would be better than me sitting him down and being like " oh...btw"

Is that a good idea, or do you think that will make it worse?

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: The Marvel's of Silicone

I think that is a good idea.

The important thing is 1) you've got to get your medical issue addressed and 2) you've got to get to a place where the honesty is restored to your relationship.

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

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well.... I told him.

He seemed fine with it and was more concerned with me getting it taken care of. Until he realized i wasn't going to just have them removed, that i was going to have new ones put in. Now he calls me "plastic," in place of my first name, or any pronoun.

Ugg

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: The Marvel's of Silicone

From a practical standpoint, once you have implants, your chest will not look like a normal male chest after you have the implants removed. The skin has been stretched and you have an empty space that has been created by the implant.

If this "plastic" name calling persists, you will need to talk with him about it.

 

[Comrad]

Re: The Marvel's of Silicone

Im so happy you posted this. I also have alack luster chest myself and i have a few questions about this surgery.
First off, how much was it in total ?
How fast and painful was your recovery ?
Do you have any scaring ?
Were was the incision made ?

And to answer your own question, i say it all depends on how long you see your self with this guy. If you don't see it going far then don't tell him . If you believe this is the one, then i say do tell him, and if he feels the same way about you im sure he will get over it in due time. I personalty LOVE plastic surgery, but that has nothing to do with your problem . I cant wait to get something done this year!
Oh yeah and out of curiously, do you think you can send me before and after pictures, just curious.

 

[Gomaki]

Re: The Marvel's of Silicone

Wow, didn't know guys get boob jobs too. o_0

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

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Im so happy you posted this. I also have alack luster chest myself and i have a few questions about this surgery.
First off, how much was it in total ?
How fast and painful was your recovery ?
Do you have any scaring ?
Were was the incision made ?

It cost about 3k for my first implants.i The surgery wasn't bad at all, it took about 2 hours, I returned to work in about a week, and 2 weeks before i felt relatively normal, and 6 weeks before i could hit the gym again. I heal really fast, and i have a high pain tolerance so it wasn't bad at all for me. There are a few ways they can place the implant, mine was done threw my armpit, the scar is about 2-inches long in the middle of my armpit, you cant even see it. Its really important you go to a doctor that does a lot of pec implants, its not a common surgery and you could end up looking a hot mess. Shop around and ask to see a lot of photos.

Pvt me if you have more questions.

And back to the main event. So this morning at brunch, one of our friends asked about my surgery, and i told him. And my guy, got all pissy and started back up with the plastic name calling, and his attitude made EVERYONE uncomfortable, the tension was palpable. I told him i couldnt go into surgery with a negative frame of mind, and that it might be best for us to take a break, so i can focus on what im doing, and he doesnt have to be upset about plastic surgery. He was really upset, but i think it will be good.

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: The Marvel's of Silicone

I told him i couldnt go into surgery with a negative frame of mind, and that it might be best for us to take a break, so i can focus on what im doing, and he doesnt have to be upset about plastic surgery. He was really upset, but i think it will be good.

Good for you for standing up for yourself!

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

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Well, i have my new implants! I worked a short shift, and then went to the hospital, and got home about 45min ago.

He left a voicemail saying he hopes everything went ok. So it seems he still cares, but why the tool bag attitude? I think its interesting how charged a topic plastic surgery is, people either support it or hate it. I've had family members tell me i'm vain or shallow for having had it done. My opinion is that if you're doing it for you, then who cares.

And on the note i'm taking my swollen self to bed.

 

[Comrad]

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Lotus i think your one of teh few poster i actually like on here. Your boy friends sounds like one of those new age "Iim realll" kinda of people. I cant stand them, they don't know what it means to be "real". Anyways, im actually happen to see that your doing well. And most of all i hope there all that you dreamed they will be. Now next, will be ME!

 

[springboksfan]

Hey, Lotus, glad to see you're all fixed up! Did you go with bigger or not? When you get all healed up, you should model your new chest for us!

Because I'm a nosy sort, I have a couple of questions for you. How long have you been with Organic Boy and has he explained why he's so anti-enhancement?

I'm proud of you for standing your guns and doing this for you. Good on ya!

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

Thanks for all the support guys!

And i did get bigger ones, i also opted to have them placed slightly more laterally than before. I can already tell they "feel" way bigger than before. I'm thinking its mostly due to the swelling. I'm sure im still rocken some of the good drugs they gave me in the hospital, so i'm not in too much pain.

On to question 2... we were together 7 or 8 months. And i did ask him why he was so anti-enhancement. He says that its due to the media giving us poor self image, and that by having plastic surgery I'm validating the perfect models on TV or in a Mag. And that people should love themselves and just be happy to be healthy. My reply to that, was that i did my surgery for me, i like the way i look with a fuller chest, i like the way clothes fit this way. And he then asked why, I said.. becausee i do, why is my favorite color red? not because i read in Men's Health that red is the best color to love, but because i just do. He insists i'm a sheep. Whatever, i'm kinda over it, I'm not making him do it, and i accept him and his choices, and its kinda dick that he cant accept mine. Altho in retrospect that was our relationship, me feeling like i had to justify things to him.
My theory is that he is really bitter because i can afford to do something like this on a whim where as he can not, he has to follow a tight budget, and i don't. Its the same as how i told him i was going to buy a new car and i'm torn between the Lexus Is 350 or the Infinity G35 and he went on a rampage about status symbols, but i know its because he drives a focus and cant dream of buying a new car for years. I've always been aware of the money issue, and i do try to not flaunt it, but do i need to hide parts of my life from him because he might feel bad? Instead he lashes out that i waste money... even if i do ( i do not) its mine to waste. That's my theory, and i'm sticken too it!

 

[KaraBulut]

There seems to be a taint of control issues underlying this. His anti-plastic surgery issues may have been the initial impetus but he seems to have significant issues with the fact that you did not submit to his wishes.

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

There seems to be a taint of control issues underlying this. His anti-plastic surgery issues may have been the initial impetus but he seems to have significant issues with the fact that you did not submit to his wishes.

He is a little controlling, i think he likes to be in-charge, and for the most part, i dont care. I'm fairly laid back, he use to be anal about where we would go to eat. I would have been happy at Subway, the point was to spend time together. And threw my Percocet 10/325 ( i took half and im loopy, jesus) induced clarity i realize he really was kind of a jerk.