the rules of college sex

[hopnung]

You get used to it. You'll figure it out as time goes by.

The key is to not think too much into it, or else it'll never happen....

 

[innocentboi3737]

you should definitely NOT feel obligated to sleep with random guys. you are no more validated as a gay man if you are a virgin or not, and don't let anyone tell you differently. I struggled with this for a while as well, and was not helped when gay men I knew would constantly harass me, constantly calling me a prude. I didn't let it bother me, and yes, I have had my random hook ups, but I didn't stress over not having them. In fact, I'm quite embarrassed by most of them.

 

[youngnihilist]

also, a lot of them are probably exaggerating. its a man thing to do to brag about exploits that often don't happen.

 

[josher]

Rule #1: If your roommate is hot and straight, don't fall in love with him.

Rule #2: Most gay guys starting college have had little contact with other gays guys, let alone have had much sexual experience with other guys. Many will not have a clue how to connect with other guys.

Rule #3: Many guys will be just starting to figure out their sexual identity. Am I gay? Am I bi? Many will wait for someone else to start the ball rolling; others will flirt and then pull back.

Rule #4: If you are attracted to someone you think might be interested in you: talk to him. Invite him to go with you for coffee/lunch/a school activity. Find out what you have in common. Just don't stand around crushing on him while waiting for him to come on to you.

Rule #5: If you engage in casual sex, don't feel guilty. Just be sure and practice safe-sex.

Rule #6: If you don't enjoy casual sex, don't feel guilty. You have a right to your own principles.

Rule #7: Watch the drinking. Yes, college is a time to party, but it also causes people to do very stupid things they may regret for a long time.

 

[tonyboy]

ok, im orignally from california but i have family in texas, i recently moved to a city by this college town, now the one thing im afraid of besides being accepted by this college is the rules of sex while in college, i mean i always have to hear about how my cousins and their friends get laid like ten times a week by different girls, im freaking because... i mean should i feel obligated to randomly sleep with guys or should i just not care.

thanks in advance

I figure your cousins and frends are making far more of their college sexual expolits than really happened.
Getting laid 10 times a week sounds pretty far fetched. And if they truely did that I'd wonder how they managed to graduate with anything approaching good grades...
You focus on getting good grades man.... That is what college is for.... Study hard and be there for the purpose of getting a fine education.
The rest will take care of itself. Trust me on this my friend.

Yeah you may meet a fine man there.... But no doubt you will meet many others througout your life.
You get that great schooling... Get a fine job. And then you will be able to settle on finding a life long b/f.
Now, if you are just there for sex that is a different matter. Up to you to choose.
College is a priviledge.... it's there to learn and get a degree.... not a place to hook up for sex.
Yeah, you may fall for some guy there..... please though, don't let that be your focus.....

Seems you have a fine opportunity right about now, don't blow it.

 

[G-Lexington]

There's only one rule - there are no rules.

You can fuck a new person every day. Hell, every hour.

Or fuck nobody at all.

It's up to you.

Lex

 

[EvilForce]

i mean honestly,the thought of waking up next to someone and thinking "who the hell is this" freaks me out

Oh. Been there, done that. LOL.

It kinda depends on you, and your emotional/physical makeup. I've been having sex regularly since I was 13. Except for about 18 months of these past number of years, I've always had regular access to ass/cock. I don't do well with sexual frustration. I pity str8 men. No wonder they are so crazy. They can't seem to ever get laid.

But I digress. I did the one night hookup thing when I was young. I learned pretty quickly sex gets better, and better the more you do it with someone. You get to know their body, their turn ons, their sensitive spots. They likewise get used to your body. There's nothing wrong with a random hookup. I'm just saying it's even better to find fuck buddies, or b/fs that are around the next day.

 

[Alive and Free]

Please let us know what the gay scene is like in Texas but be sure to have a good time.

 

[godson112]

American colleges sound so fun.
Nothing like that happens in England. People have sex with eachother at parties, but there are less parties, and it's much much much less of a big deal.

There's the occassional rumour about how the college slut got spit roasted or someone new has come out the closet but people don't make a massive deal over sex.

I kinda wish they did. It'd make it easier to get it.

But I agree with Lex. There are no rules.
Just do what feels right.

 

[AdmiraalW238]

Rule #1: If your roommate is hot and straight, don't fall in love with him.

Rule #2: Most gay guys starting college have had little contact with other gays guys, let alone have had much sexual experience with other guys. Many will not have a clue how to connect with other guys.

Rule #3: Many guys will be just starting to figure out their sexual identity. Am I gay? Am I bi? Many will wait for someone else to start the ball rolling; others will flirt and then pull back.

Rule #4: If you are attracted to someone you think might be interested in you: talk to him. Invite him to go with you for coffee/lunch/a school activity. Find out what you have in common. Just don't stand around crushing on him while waiting for him to come on to you.

Rule #5: If you engage in casual sex, don't feel guilty. Just be sure and practice safe-sex.

Rule #6: If you don't enjoy casual sex, don't feel guilty. You have a right to your own principles.

Rule #7: Watch the drinking. Yes, college is a time to party, but it also causes people to do very stupid things they may regret for a long time.

An excellent list of rules that does not warrant anymore inclusions with the exception of what Marley has said.

USE YOUR OWN CONDOMS....

Without question definitely use your own condoms.

 

[KaraBulut]

There's only one rule - there are no rules.

Without question definitely use your own condoms.

Actually, there's the rule and it is the most important rule.

Buy condoms. Bring them. Use them.

Don't kid yourself that you're not going to have sex with someone. Shit happens. Be prepared and be safe.