Things happen for a reason.

[Leidian]

My life has way too many seemingly random coincidences for me not to believe in some kind of fate. No matter what I do things seem to just work out (please let that never go away!). I tend to be "in the right place at the right time" a lot, or randomly meet a person who leads me to another person I didn't even know I wanted to meet at the time - but is important to some aspect of my life.

 

[DarkNeko]

I believe that some things are just meant to happen.

 

[Swellegant]

Well, yes, everything happens for a reason... and the reason is that something else happened to lead up to it. Everything from the Big Bang onward has been the result of some movement, some choice, some event causing a direction. And everything that happens to you happens because you've helped to lay the groundwork for it to happen... even seemingly random incidences, you helped them to happen simply by choosing to be where you were at the time.

But I do not believe that there is some ultimate rationale to which all things lead, some specific final reason for which things happen to us. I don't care for the idea of predestination, and cannot believe that we're all heading to some particular destination (other than universal dissolution and the final critical expansion of matter itself... after which something else will happen which can only happen when there is no longer any matter... infinity goes on and on and on and on, you know, in every direction).

We make our own reasons for events by learning from them. It only "happens for a reason" if you make something reasonable out of it.

 

[Riverrick]

Sometimes I think we just believe this to feel better about stuff that doesn't turn out right in our lives. You know, "It made me a better person" and such.

It is certainly more comforting to believe that life isn't just a series of random events.

 

[Croynan]

withdrawn/better to leave things as they are./eM

 

[translation]

There is nothing I hate more than when someone says "things are meant to happen for a reason" because I feel like it is just a way and try and console you after something you didnt want to happen did. Not only that but I like to think that we have more control in our so-called "destiny." I'd rather things rest in my own hands.

 

[RationalLunacy]

Yes. The reason I participated in this thread is because it's raining outside, I'm bored, there's nothing on television, and I'm not particularly horny at the moment.

 

[JayHew]

Yes things do happen for a reason and (for myself) it seems that events have a lesson to be learned, whether or not we want to have to go through a particular event. What I have found also is if I live my life proactively or as I like to say, deliberately, I have more control over what comes into it. Changing of attitudes and overcoming biases seems to have the most profound affect in changing things more to the positive than producing a negative. It also helps to view life as a continuous thing and what we encounter here is part of the journey along the way of experiencing it.